Giving it Up

If a sag male is torn between his freedom and finding love, what makes that final transition for u? At what point does your freedom become less desireable? If the fact that he is even torn a good indicator that he might want something new?

I dont want to restrict his freedom. I guess maybe thats the way I think he views it as. We just live far apart and I asked him yesterday where he felt things were. I wanted to make sure we were on the same page. He said sometimes he thinks yes and sometimes he thinks too far.

The real question is does he have the courage to make the decision. Regardless of what others' opinions of us are, statistically speaking the majority of us are in committed relationships or married. You have to look at him as an individual first. If it were me I'd pick true love simply because when you love yourself you're already free and loving another isn't even a choice...it's an instinct.

Good question beautiful soul.....

I hope he does have the courage. I am here in limbo, but i wont be taking a break forever.

awe thanks super size,

I think he had written off love a long time ago due to past relationships. But hes been told me he trusts me. Ive been there for him thru actions and multiple deployments. I made sure he never went without when he was overseas. I texted him everyday maybe missing a day here and there. Most of the time I talked out my thoughts. And tho he didnt respond all the time for whatever reasons, he had messages for him when he returned. He was always caught up with what was going on. Im sooo used to being there for him. Its like..purse, shoes, and him. I guess because of his deployments. He doesnt understand that its hard to just turn that stuff off tho. I have tried pulling back, but again he always comes back looking for me and i cannot handle him reaching out to me and me just not answering. Maybe in a way we are co dependant on each other. Maybe hes used to me always being there for him and me used to him always coming back.

But im in love with him. I told him he gotta know that.

I agree being unsure might not be a good sign. I would rather tho, he really be sure about his choice and weigh everything because its a big one to make. There are alot of factors involved here and him "thinking it over," means hes weighing all the pros and cons as to what needs to be done. I would rather him make a solid choice and be absolutely sure then a half assed one and get into something he has doubts about. Some time to think is warranted, but im not giving anyone years or months and months. Just saying.

I was gonna text him, but i think ill just leave it be for a little. Im a capricorn venus and I need my security. That means I dont like maybe or what ifs. I wanna know where we are going and how we are getting there. Hes a sag venus and he seems very diff. He seems more, lets let it flow and just relax. Its the journey thats more important than the destination.

@Coldwater: Size hit on a great point. He's aware that you're in love with him. Him not fully committing to you right now shows emotional intelligence althought it may be hard to believe. He's not necessarily thinking of himself. If anything we're practical in seeing the "big picture." He knows of your feelings for him, but he also knows how his situation is and its probably not to best time. Could he fully commit? Yes. Bu he's looks at it from a standpoint of what will realistically happen and his view of love makes him sacrifice "now" for a more peaceful and stable "later." The reason he doesn't explain this is that he may feel that you won't understand. But please, cut him some slack on this. If he is an evolved Sag, he's thinking in terms of "us" and is quietly being assertive and protecting you from getting hurt. It sounds crazy, but because you've been there for him, he's shielding you from any pain that may arise from his situation. Its hard to understand, but I feel he has your best interests at heart. Be patient because I'm willing to guess that he'll fully commit when the time is right.