if i run, will you find me?

my lover, in the past week and half, has begun to show old depressive inclinations due to neurotic sensitivities. for the past month we have been apart and unfortunately will continue to be apart until the end of august and he is showing some strain and is sadly closing himself off. his venus is in capricorn and he can be overly cautious and miserly with his affection when that cappy pragmatism overshadows the expressiveness of his sun in sagittarius. i am thinking though if i back off and give him some space he will come looking for me and will be warm and affectionate again as sags are strong in the hunt. yes, no?

I'm a sag with a venus in cap as well. Are you apart because you're on a break or because he's traveling or something? Cause that makes a difference.

we're apart because he is finishing school in the east coast. im in california.

I not a male sag but female one. If I was in that kind of situation I would distance myself from anyone I was dating because long distance relationships don't work very well. I would try to back away so I don't completely hurt that person too bad. I would rather they be mad at me and move on with their life then wait around for me. That's just me though.

well he actually called a day after i posted this but i have yet to call him back. i'm giving him the "space" it seems like he needs. i figure, if he wants to talk to me, he'll call me regardless of whether i call return his message or not.

my sun sign is leo but i have most of my planets in water or air signs, venus in cancer, mars scorpio, asc and moon in gemini.

archer, you're right. and the truth is i don't really want to call him either because i'm sulking. but the truth is i went through surgery and he did not call me until 4 days after, 3 days after he said he would. i just did not feel like he was showing me care and right now, i guess i'd like to see some effort on his part.

i don't see deficiencies in him. i think he's amazing. i just think the distance is pulling us apart because of our insecurities etc.

not that he wasn't putting in effort, he was just being a little flaky. he never didn't call, but he would be late, for instance. 😢 im pretty sensitive as it is and given the distance i guess i am just now rolling with the punches as i would if we were in the same city together. he's a free spirit and so am i, we're both flight risks but i know we saw something very powerful in each other. he is almost overwhelming when we're together in person, his feeling are so strong. his sun is conjunct neptune and despite his mars in aqu and cap in venus he is very intense in his emotions and even the things he has pursued in his life. for instance, he is only 25 but has lived in many different countries and was briefly married (divorced now for 2 yrs).

FINALLY we spoke and i think backing off a little did us some good because he called me and was super sweet and just a touch nervous. he told me thought i'd forgotten about him because he hadn't heard from me and he missed me so much and he wants to see me again really badly. so i will be seeing him in a month...

i think all men fell in love via absence. they get to fantasize. he told me i have so many beautiful things in my head and naturally they have to come out (i'm an artist). how sweet!