Never dealt with a Saggie before...

Hi there -
So a little while back (about three weeks) I met a Saggie on OKC (online dating site for the newbs). Instant chemistry and communication all day almost every day.

I was anxious to meet and with all the talk about Sadges loving spontaneity, I invited him out immediately but to no avail. He apparently had car issues. I brushed it off. We continued chatting, most days all day but I started feeling oddly. I even asked him if I could go get him. We had an awkward convo where I asked if he were married or something along those lines and he said adamantly that he was not. He asked if I was PMSing (not in a rude way) but clearly that wasnt the best conversation.

I slowly backed off and then turned sights on others. (Clearly dont treat someone like your SO or boyfriend if they clearly arent). He now calls me everyday around 630 we talk about two hours. Then usually in the night I get a good night text. This past weekend I didnt communicate with him at all but he kept with his usual routine this week so far.

I guess Im asking...are you all people who string people along for boredom? He seems sincere when I speak but Ive been in cases where people just, "waste your time" because they're bored. If he just wants to be text buddies thats fine but not my main objective. Clearly I like him which is the only reason I put energy into him but something seems...off. Other things have occurred which also mess with my intuition a bit so just seeing if any advice is out there.

that could be looked at in a lot of ways... As you mentioned he could have someone else.... Or he could be shy or scared about meeting... Sags can be cowardess at times (sad to say).

Lol thanks 🙂

I'm shocked to hear that a Sadge would be shy. However there are other placements that may be in effect. Most Sadge that I know only are shy around people who they're intimidated by but for the most part they seem to be pretty bold.

I'm a pretty open minded person and feel as if I've given lots of clear signs that I'm interested but I truly hate time wasting. It's a pet peeve of mine but I've been trying to work on my patience too because I have a habit of cutting people off or out prematurely. I've been told this by friends, family & potential mates. I guess I'll give it a little more time before I just make a clean break.

Sags can jump head first into anything aslong as they dont detour themselves from thinking about it for too long.
The more they think about it the more running away sounds like the better option.
Altho other placements have their positions respectively somethings can be pretty recognizable as they come.
Encourage him to jump head first and not think about it
And dont forget to shout "ADVENTUREEE!!!!!!"

Im not shy, im hesitant.

I hear these online stories and I cringe. I may just be behind the times, not alot of air in my chart.

word nothing screams loser more than having a girl pick you up on your first date.

I don't string people along waste of my time. I've only known one shy male Sag in my life but that's because he didn't know how to approach women, and would shake it off making jokes acting all nervous. I'd ask him flat out what's on your mind. I'd like that. Honestly if I'd have my intuition messing with me there's a reason. Might be this little voice telling you something is off. I could be wrong though. Goodluck 🙂

Hey guys!!! What a nice present to wake up or rather long in to! (I don't sleep all day haha).

The general consensus here is that you guys may be shy (shocking news sincerely) and that he may not have wanted me to pick him up (which I understand and appreciate).

Before I logged in, I actually asked him what his intentions are and that I found him attractive and interesting but I couldn't put myself on hold. I hope that came across as "I desire you idiot so wake up!" If not... Oh well. It's up to him now.

I agree that online dating is tricky which is why I try to meet within two weeks. If not then I tend to move on unless it seems like there's serious potential.

Whoever sad Saggies aren't nice then they're wrong! You guys seem like pretty good robin hoods to me!

*kisses all around*

Just wanted to give an update - thanks all for the advice! We went out last night and the face to face chemistry was there. The touch barrier was broken and I believe plans are being made for today or this weekend (he's texting now) thanks all again for the advice! There was definitely mention of hanging out again and he even showed me a bar that he wanted to take me to. I know for Saggies future talk is a step in the right direction.

Though I wish something more physical would have happened if you catch my drift but it was a workday so no prob bob. Hopefully this thread will help someone else 🙂

Kisses!

@bnr7013 late feedback is still appreciated feedback! Thank you!

There was definitely a crazy moment we had so I wouldn't at all be surprised if that caused a delay in meeting. Glad we both chilled and hung out though, I had a great time.

Hopefully nothing but good comes from the future! I'm definitely more "relaxed" now that we've met. That little hiccup of anxiety is gone and I welcome the experience/adventure 🙂