Sag guy with Mars in Scorpio treating me like a queen but withholding sex?

I've been casually dating this expat guy for four months&he moved to his home country (Poland) temporarily for 1.5mths.
There was a chance that he might not return, so I was dating other guys (he knows this).
He's been calling me 2-3t/wk and initiated 90 % of all interaction. We hung out all weekends we spent in the same country.
The sex was explosive, as he stated, too. He invited me to come to Poland, and before I went there for wknd he asked if I've some expectations towards him, I said no.
He treated me like a queen, insisting to open the doors, told me I looked gorgeous and other kinds of compliments on looks to personality.
He's always warm towards me, but now he was overly concerned–he tucked me into bed, made sure I made home safe, carried my bags, opened the doors, made plans for us according to my wishes. Kept saying my name a lot, this was new:X, X, X, dear X, u have a beautiful name!
He also took and sent me 78pics, 10 of us together, 4 of my fav flower and the rest 64 of me taking pictures of sth.
This seemed somewhat stalkerish to me – but not in a bad way 😉

BUT: We had no sex during my visit! I still felt the vibe of us being more than friends. We didn't even kiss, just a lot of hugging. We discussed this during my visit and he said that he doesn't want anything physical as he hasn't decided whether he'll return or stay. He mentioned that he doesn't want love to affect where he lives, harsh! He said he cares about me very much. Once he said "I'll kiss you–uh, I'll hug you". He tried to postpone me leaving, saying "hey, you don't have to leave yet, you still have a lot of time". As we said (awkward) goodbye, I had to remind him to hand me my bag. We spent 14h/day for 4 days, hanging out.

He asked me if I had a nice flight. I replied no, and he called me saying that after I left, he started thinking to return to my country again. He ended the call with an excited "see you soon", as he will return for at least 2wks next Sat and live at his friend's place, who happens to be almost my neighbor.

Is it a mind game/revenge for me dating other guys? I read that Mars in Scorpio would withhold sex if they felt their partner wouldn't deserve that.
Or is he friendzoning me?

He is Sag Sun & Venus, Aqua Moon, Scorpio Mars & Merc.
I am Aries Sun, Libra Asc, Gemini Moon, Pisces Venus & Merc., Taurus Mars

Hmm, yes he is probably testing me. When I visited him I looked him in the eye and told him that I still want him.
The thing is that every month he has initiated a discussion on our expectations regarding the relationship. Every time I have asked him whether he'd like that we dated each other exclusively – without being gf/bf – but he never wanted to decide. He always said that as he doesn't have a plan right now in general, he doesn't want to get too attached right now. But in many situations I have gotten the vibe that he is jealous over me, double standards?

Hi there. Dated sag sun scorp mars sag venus 7+ years

He has an aqua moon so he can detach from anything.

Anyways. No he is not witholding sex, hes just trying to not get attached. Hes got alot going including other women.

He keeps asking you about your expectations to make sure everyone is on the same page without him having to say so, laying boundaries.

He doesnt want any problems. Probably senses that you could fly off the handle.

He is very attracted to you.

Mars in scorpio can sometimes give you the illusion of possession but not really.

Thanks @DMV. He said that while he has dated me during this 4 months and only been to three first dates in addition to that, but told me he only felt the vibe with me. Why would he stalk me if he wasn't interested? Does his behavior indicate that this is the only way our relationship is going to be, or is there anything I could do? He has asked me several times to go and have summer vacation with him, suggesting this totally weird – but interesting – destination. I didn't anwer him yet.

Where did you mention that he was stalking you? Thats not cool.

I think he already said how your relationship will be...hes not looking to get attached.

@DMV Why would he even keep contacting and supporting me & treats me super well?
No sex & intimacy. I just don't get it.

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@DMV Why would he even keep contacting and supporting me & treats me super well?
No sex & intimacy. I just don't get it.

Saggis are friendly folks. Sag men are really charming.

I would take him at face value tho. That way you dont set yourself up to be disappointed.

If he wants to hang out, hang out.

Sag male scorp mars here.

He's interested but isn't sure you are. Did he know before you slept together that you were seeing other guys?

There's nothing wrong with that as you two aren't in a relationship but he prefers(as do I) a lover that only sleeps with him. He's not being vengeful, it is just our preference. If he was being vengeful...he'd stop talking to you all together.

So, he's allowing you to live your life and is respecting your freedom and values your friendship with him. Buuuut, if you were to stop dating other guys and only wanted him...you'd get the cookies again 🙂

@beautifulsoul74 Sure, I understand that too, and I'd also appreciate that he didn't sleep with anyone else 😉
When he left to Poland, he wasn't sure if he would ever return, so it made sense that he didn't want to agree on anything. So you see that there is a chance we might have some intimacy later? I feel like he's stalking me as he'll be living at his friend's place (he has a lot of friends & sofas to crash on) next to me – watching me?

@Alieness Sorry, I'm still a newbie here and finding the features 🙂 Thank you for your response, he has actually told me several times earlier that he's testing my reactions. Maybe I was unclear in my post, but I have expressed very clearly to him that I wanted to be exclusive.

@Alieness His moon is in Aquarius, venus in Sag.

@Alieness Thanks! He just called me this morning very excited, and said he's coming back to my country 🙂