Sag reminiscing??

So I have slowly started to distance myself from the sag, I popped in yesterday to see the kids and me and the sag sat in the sun in the garden having a chat about general stuff, she was asking about my new gym, where I was going out next weekend etc.... so I go to the gym and when I get out I get a text from her with a picture of our son when he was a baby, she said "look at this!" so we started chatting via text how proud we were, how well we had done etc, real nice stuff.

Why was she sending me that? I cant imagine there was no other reason than she was reminiscing about the family?? I keep hearing how sag's are done when a relationship ends, but this feels like she wants more but doesnt want to admit to it??

Posted by aquavita
you do not know when she "is done". why do not you try be what you said you wanted to be for her ? does not she deserve that? or now that she is more at ease with you , you will STRIKE, stryker, again?

I am, she is quite clear where she wants me right now and thats a dad to the kids, help out with activities etc, no more. I do that and she appreciates it. with us she wants space which is what i'm giving her now and I havent been doing since we split, If she needs anything done she asks me because she is comfortable with that.

I cant get trust back in an instant, it could take years with her, so thats all she wants is for me to be consistent, help out with the family and in her own words "see where it goes"

Posted by aquavita
i thought this was a question you were asking was not aware you knew the answer

Ok maybe im being an analytical virgo, I just get confused with her intentions maybe, i'm very much holding on for hope and its difficult for me to read her as she has such a defensive wall up which I built and created.

I just wanted some sag insight to shed some light on it thats all, I do know what I need to do which I outlined but any glimmer of hope from her i'm on it like a cat!!

I don't think I have burnt her completely, she wants me to be around so I guess she isn't?......... I don't know, I'm confused

Stryker:

...relax dude!_??_ Yes she was reminiscing. All this time together with her and analyzing but yet it appears you don't understand the simplest things...the deepest parts. You're mutability and fear of the unknown is getting the best of you. Simply, be her friend. That is a sure fire way to earn her trust again. We can perfectly be around those that have hurt us because we are generous and forgiving. But to get us to commit means earning our trust. Yes, we'll go back and forth after being hurt, but if we see you're making an effort, we'll meet you halfway. Give her time.

Posted by beautifulsoul74
Stryker:

...relax dude!_??_ Yes she was reminiscing. All this time together with her and analyzing but yet it appears you don't understand the simplest things...the deepest parts. You're mutability and fear of the unknown is getting the best of you. Simply, be her friend. That is a sure fire way to earn her trust again. We can perfectly be around those that have hurt us because we are generous and forgiving. But to get us to commit means earning our trust. Yes, we'll go back and forth after being hurt, but if we see you're making an effort, we'll meet you halfway. Give her time.

Cheers, I will do that, at the very least i dont want to lose her as a friend and I have been so up and down since we split. I'll go back to basics and be the friend I was to her for the previous 12 years before we actually got together.

Posted by mariathesag

Whats her chart like?


Personally and I've seen this in other sags as well - there's an element of not just being fixated in one thing you did that overrides everything else, especially when having enough time to think things through and not be clouded by personal feelings. There's really more to your relationship than you getting money from her after all - that's one thing, but it is not everything.

Here is her chart:

Rising Sign is in 02 Degrees Aquarius


Sun is in 03 Degrees Sagittarius.


Moon is in 00 Degrees Gemini.


Mercury is in 22 Degrees Sagittarius.


Venus is in 19 Degrees Scorpio.


Mars is in 09 Degrees Leo.


Jupiter is in 04 Degrees Cancer.


Saturn is in 00 Degrees Virgo.


Uranus is in 13 Degrees Scorpio.


Neptune is in 15 Degrees Sagittarius.


Pluto is in 15 Degrees Libra.


N. Node is in 14 Degrees Libra.


What do you think?

Posted by mariathesag

Whats her chart like?


Personally and I've seen this in other sags as well - there's an element of not just being fixated in one thing you did that overrides everything else, especially when having enough time to think things through and not be clouded by personal feelings. There's really more to your relationship than you getting money from her after all - that's one thing, but it is not everything.

She has said that me hiding away from my money issues was a problem with us, I wouldnt tell her how much trouble I was in until too late and she would find something out and go nuts. Thats all she wanted was for me to be honest about everything but unfortunately I couldnt when it came to money and its ended up ruining their lives, I let the 3 kids and the sag down badly.

Posted by aquavita

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Easily detached. A lot of air. That scorp venus hates betrayal.

who LOVES betrayal? especially in marriage? what are you trying to help this loser? he got work to do!

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I know Aquavita, I have a huge amount of work to do, I only come on here for advice on the best way forward, I want to make sure its right by her not me.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Easily detached. A lot of air. That scorp venus hates betrayal.

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