Sagi Woman too grown for Libra Boy games...

Ok so I was single for 7 years before this guy came along...only been in one relationship that lasted 7 years and it took me that long to open my heart again. I meet Libra and for some reason I fell head over heels FAST. Everything was always good when I catered to him...the minute I started noticing disrespect and said something to stand up for myself a fight would ensue and his reaction was always self serving and he always manipulated me into thinking what I did was wrong without him ever taking responsibility for his part in things...now I am 29, independent and have no family...he is 32, dependent on his best friend for everything (they live together, his BF owns a shop he "runs", his friend has no car or license so Libra taxis him all over the place, etc...) and has a great family who adores him...

Recently he and I fought over him always jumping for his best friend who is a needy behind Virgo who is always flirting with me and making snide remarks about me being with or having sex with him RIGHT IN FRONT OF LIBRA'S FACE! I tell Libra I am not comfortable and to make a long story short Libra chooses his friend, the same man who tells him he isnt doing drugs and then tells me not to tell Libra that he really is...And Libra's words: "I am not sure I can be with you if you dont understand I need to be there for a person/family who has been there for me my whole life."

We just had a HUGE falling out to the point where I am not sure that when he decides to come back around (even though he has said he doesnt know if things will work but needs time to think) that I will be there to be his side kick when his "best friend" isnt around (this Libra slept at my house, I bought food, cooked for us, cleaned after us, washed his clothes, etc...he told me he wants a family with me, I met his whole family, I caught him in a few stupid lies and he only does the bare minimum in the relationship - if you can even call it that)...after reading several posts (in La La Libra Land) it appears that Libra men like to do the disappearing and reappearing mind game thing...a thing that this sexy Sagi IS NOT HAVING! When he does decide to contact me I plan on ignoring him (IK he will contact me...I have never met a man who didnt try once I moved on...); my question is: is ignoring him the way to get him to see I am NOT the one or is there another way to handle this jerk who has hurt my sensitive side? I would like some advice because I am ready to knock his teeth out.

"It would be amusing if they just knew when to stop, but they wont until everyone is miserable...they they win."

OMG truer words I have never read! The first argument me and Libra had was over Libra going to the strip club, being 3 hours late (when he NEVER was late before), me saying something and Libra telling me Virgo told him to not talk to me for a day and see how I react...a few days later Libra said Virgo never said it...another little white lie I guess lol...

Also I should add Virgo is fat and nasty and recently found out his soon-to-be-ex-wife was cheating on him in his house with THEIR "friend" (not Libra)...Virgo is a snake and I dont like him one bit...problem is I REALLY do like Libra...that is the #1 problem!

One time Virgo had the audacity to say to me in front of Libra and a few other guys that he didnt know what I would want with Libra when I could be having sex with him...I was dumbfounded! Libra laughed...another time I was sleeping at their house and Libra tells Virgo me and Libra are going to bed...Virgo goes...I will be in in a minute...make sure you leave room for me...yes he could use the old it was a joke line...but I KNOW it isnt a joke...every chick he dates is a chunkier version of what I look like...I asked him what his type was (I wanted to hook him up with someone so he could stay out of my relationship) and he said...you are...I threw up in my mouth a little bit...Libra laughed.

And thanks for the easy on the eyes comment...*blush*.

LMAO he is...I am not sure it is even worth it...Libra is so co dependent on him and thinks he owes Virgo his life that I come out the enemy any way you look at it. Better to hope Libra takes his head out his arse and opens his eyes before it is too late for us...

Posted by WinterBorn
Virgos suck.

who cares

Find someone who isn't a doormat.

Posted by WinterBorn
Virgos suck.

Completely agree.

*waves* Im the Sagi girl with the Libra boyfriend & the Cancer roomie...well not anymore, he finally left in May.

big sigh, first of all.

I think they have a thing for leeches and scumbags. :/ They seemingly attract them, and put up with it more than any other.
All of my boyfriend's roomates, to date, have been total fucking dirtbags.
I've just learned to expect it, and in a way accept it. It's totally pointless to have an opinion because Mr Libra will do whatever he wants anyways...and actually, I'm pretty sure he does things just to oppose me anyways -- just to keep things "balanced."

Anyways, asking him/expecting him to choose you or the roomate will automatically make his choice the roomate.


But to be honest, my Libra would never have allowed anyone to disrespect me...especially in front of him...
So, yours sounds a like a total bitch. He needs to man up before you give him the time of day.

Yes, he will try to contact you because he didn't really want to end things... he really just wanted to prove a point - aka he won't be forced to choose between a female and his BFFL.

I guess if you're really over it, just ignore his attempts at contacting you in the future. He will pull the friend card, so my advice is not to buy it.
They pretend they just want to be friends but before you know it they've weaseled their way right back in.

no. no games. u know the difference between right and wrong. call him out. lay it down. tell him straight. he's not ready for u and u deserve better. the obvious is staring u in the face. don't ignore it. wipe ur hands clean of the mess and be happy with ur memories. there is a great lesson to be learned from all of this so keep ur eyes open. much love!