update on my sagitt ex

so i was toying with an idea of doing something nice for my ex for her 25th birthday that is coming up, just so she has something to remember it by
how stupid was i!
two days ago i text her for the first time since last year...i was very nervous about that but it was a year since we split up so i thought it would be nice to break the ice
so i wrote her
Hi (name)its been a long while since we talked just wondering hows everything and it would be nice if we could talk dont you think? later

so she waits 9 freaking ours to answer and say i quote
" what a surprise! everything with me is awesome. thanks foe remembering."

wow! what a shitty answer...she couldn't even say hi like me or ask how am i doing? that upset me a little....
so i wrote her back
no problem i was just wondering what is going on, have a nice evening and goodnight.

she didnt respond to that not even a good night or ANYTHING!!!!
i cant believe how cold she turned...5 years i was with her and would never thought she is like that! unbelievable ......and sad at the same time...
cant even make a small talk...and i loved that woman? im wondering if she ever loved me or was it convenience?

so needless to say i wont be doing anything for her, i might send her a letter telling her what i had planed but changed my mind after the txt because she does not deserve it
im finally reaching a point that i get mad when i think about her not sad like before...fucking bitch

thanks
im still in shock.......
i would never do her like that....i mena come on, 5 years and i dont even deserve a hello and how are you?
sad thing is that i know that i was good to her, she had all the freedom she wanted and than some.... she will never find that kind of trust as most of guys of the nationality that we are wont stand for that and are posessive in my opinion
one thing she thought me is not to trust 100% anyone no matter how much they tell you that they love you...its all bull

well i do have scorpio moon that i know it has a very strong influance on me and i was told by many girls that there is something about my eyes lol
thanks

"no problem i was just wondering what is going on, have a nice evening and goodnight."

when you reply to her you should say to her what's REALLY going on in your mind not "small talk".

and them sags they're optimistic and upbeat and have a dont care aura around them so dont take it personally. and your post seem pretty negative towards her maybe you should check yourself first.

class-act I think the letter is a good idea. And it will be closure for you even if only in your heart/mind. I don't think she will think you are a psycho, she was with you for 5 years I'm sure she knows you are not that. Hun, I understand the metaphoric slap in the face, it hurts as bad as the literal. Take your time....but remember...she doesn't deserve you or what you were trying to do for her, her loss :=)

i decided just to send her a card with warm wishes....not sure about any gifts havent decided yet but if i do send something it will be small but it will symbolize the 25th
but this will be the last time she will hear from me, if she doesnt even want to look me in the face or talk like normal people than the hell with her, this will be my way of saying goodbye
but once i do that and she is ever in need of help i might not be there where up until this point i was willing to do that
and i dont have to check my self, im perfectly fine but i do have reasons to be dissapointed, whats wrong with that?

CAA, U expect a lot that things will go Ur way. And a help is no help if we actually start placing a price on it. Not that I haven't been in Ur position ever, but my take is that therez no point in being bitter. We must understand that others can have independent desires and schemes and we may not appear in those at all. If our ego is so fragile, the we must not enter this arena at all, be the first to kick people out if at all we decide to play, or be passive and leave ourselves vulnerable to the vagaries of love life. Be selfish to the core CAA, or be completely generous..therez no in between, best of the both worlds for us.

Hi (name)its been a long while since we talked just wondering hows everything and it would be nice if we could talk dont you think? later

so she waits 9 freaking ours to answer and say i quote
" what a surprise! everything with me is awesome. thanks foe remembering."



****She probably didn't know how to respond so, it took her a while and it sounds like she is surprised that you texted and things are good in her life and she is being polite and saying Thank You.****


wow! what a shitty answer...she couldn't even say hi like me or ask how am i doing? that upset me a little....
so i wrote her back
no problem i was just wondering what is going on, have a nice evening and goodnight.

she didnt respond to that not even a good night or ANYTHING!!!!

****Ok, here she is probably either dating someone or has alot going on and you left the conversation closed. You said you were wondering what is going on and then said have a nice evening and goodnight. There is really no need to respond since she already told you that her life was awesome. I know that sucks but, what else do you expect her to say or do?*****

****I wouldn't buy her anything or even give her a card. She seems to have her life going good and even though you have so much history, doesn't mean she wants to revisit it. I am friends with ex's but, not close friends. If they really need my help and I could help them then, I would. If she is seeing someone then, maybe she is being a little cold because of that.***** Sorry!

I would agree with Sweet_hearts,

Seems like she's moved on. My ex had done something similar and my response was just as cold and quite to the point where I basically implied, "all is well and never talk to me again."

Maybe I'm wrong but it seems like fire signs, once done with a relationship, are more apt to just simply move on and seldom look back?

I am a sagi and i think you miss understood her completely, mind my smacking you with abook on the head i have read some of your postings and from what i gather she loves you so much but her PRIDE and the HURT she does not want to get too excited and be hurt you guys were together for five years and she does not want you thinking she has been crying at night by herself no friends family knowing about it or the fact that she misses you but has to put up a front i am so angry at people misunderstanding us i am hurt really cause i had broken up with an Aries whom i loved but cheated on me well he called me after a year to apologise and asks me how can i forgive him instead of just going straight to the point that he still loves, well we dated for 3 years its been almost 4 years and each time we meet sparks fly across the room but he is getting married this decmber. no one can ever compare to him, but we fight each time we meet his fiance hates me because she knows how much he loved me and that she was our friend while we were a couple and wanted that kind of love so tell her you want to do something special for her birthday and see what happens. ever seen a puppy after being hurt it goes back cautiously and will sniff and rethink before going back cause they are afraid