A Scorpio break up!!!

Let me first start off by saying, that dating a Scorpio, was like no other experience I have ever had in my life. We were so into each other- we were talking marriage, what initiated this entire chain of events- I will save you all the agonizing details, yeah it was my fault, I got sarcastic with him, said to him, it might have been better had you told me to go F off. Anyway that prompted a break, he wanted his space, I did my thing like any girl should do. I lived my life, every so often sent him a text, that went ignored. He finally sends me a message a couple of days later, he needs more time to think. Take all the time you need.


Today he sends me this long explanation about how he needs to work on himself, find himself, he's not happy with himself. How he does not want children because of his relationship with his dad, how he would feel terrible if he made his own children feel the way his dad made him feel. I know he was not lying about the relationship with his parents- he told me things, he has never told another living soul. He told me he loved me countless times, told me I was the one. On top of the relationship with his parents, he has had a string of bad relationships.

He wants to focus on himself vs worrying about other people right now, that is also true, he devotes more time to pleasing those he cares for vs himself. I asked him if he still loved me, he said romantically no, but yes a very close family member. He wants to be friends, he wants to stay close, hang out from time to time. I asked him if in the long distant future, would there ever be a possibility to start again? He said anything is possible that he does not know what the future holds.


I don't believe for a second he is seeing anyone else, his time was too limited. Between work, friends, and family obligations. It is true that he does have a lot that he needs to work on. Why would he want to keep me in his life after breaking up and he has already said that he does not want a FWB thing. Neither do I, that set up might work for others, but not for me. Why does he want to see me tomorrow, in order to talk about things in person? He has broken up with me, it should be a done deal.


Do I still love him, yes with all of my heart and soul. Do I have things I need to work on, yes, and he knows this to. I would say that it was a very amicable departure, no bad words between us, in fact, there were emotions behind him breaking up with me. I just have so many questions, h

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I like the face palm remark, that was cute!!!! The questions that I have, and if I forget to say thank you later- I am saying it now, thank you for listening to me. What questions do I have, I just love him so much, he is my heart and soul. I want to be there for him, he still wants me in his life, to be friends. I want to be there for him, when he reaches out to me. Should I be his friend without any expectation of us getting back together or be his friend, be patient, be kind and hold on to the best thing that has ever happened to me.

It all sounds reasonable to me.

As the others have said, we like to solve stuff on our own, we can be moody depending although we don't all live in the past it can take longer to move on etc.

When you said the comment about why he wants to meet to talk and you said about being broken up and it's a done deal... That's just how we are, we take time to regurgitate things and we dwell on things whereas gems are a bit different and don't dwell things so much etc.

I think an amicable break up is a good thing. There's nothing wrong with being his friend and him bring yours. You've both invested time into each other so cherish that. If you both need a break then, as the other posters said, it can be a good thing. It's good you both don't want a FWB.

What I would say is try to avoid jumping into bed with others quickly. It can just confuse things and be a little disrespectful to each other if so soon after the break up... Yeah I know you're free agents but give yourselves the time you need. You may get together again in the future or this may be the end of a chapter.