Accurate description of Venus in Scorpio

http://astrogirl7-pluto.blogspot.com.au/2010/02/venus-pluto-kind-of-love.html?m=1 !!! Esp the part they say the problem is never about their partner but within themselves. I am still stuck on a ride. 8 months in. He finally said he loves me. The power game and the control were played too often I managed to laid them out on the table. I tried to walk n end it for good 10 million times but he pulls me back in every time. Is this a permanent game . When we c each other it's great when we don't its a night mare ...😢 ..

Posted by cheeckybull
http://astrogirl7-pluto.blogspot.com.au/2010/02/venus-pluto-kind-of-love.html?m=1 !!! Esp the part they say the problem is never about their partner but within themselves. I am still stuck on a ride. 8 months in. He finally said he loves me. The power game and the control were played too often I managed to laid them out on the table. I tried to walk n end it for good 10 million times but he pulls me back in every time. Is this a permanent game . When we c each other it's great when we don't its a night mare ...😢 ..

Immaturity and insecurity hasn't evolved into maturity and security.
When it does, you might wonder what the hell you were thinking.

...and no, it has nothing to do with Scorpio in Venus either.

"Because of past early childhood abandonment issues or strict parental control and manipulation, this person has developed defense mechanisms of either control/manipulation or submisiveness (door-mat syndrome)..."

Very accurate for the ViS people I know....

Thanks for the read cheeckybull. Hit home for me on all levels...

As for you and your man I guess it's only a permanent game if that's what you choose it to be

"Because of past early childhood abandonment issues or strict parental control and manipulation, this person has developed defense mechanisms of either control/manipulation or submisiveness (door-mat syndrome)." I'm kinda both. Not a door-mat, but at times I just don't like making any decisions.

"Some people stay in abusive or difficult relationships because bad love is better than no love." It's unfortunate, but true. Some love is better than none.

The psychology behind "Sexual Prowess" category, is complete bull.

^Along with ULRA and the second sentence of JP.

But the first sentence of JP: "Many venus-pluto people are known to carry a jealous streak within them, therefore they can become very possessive of their mate." True.

OC: *eye roll* Cat lady astrology.

DBEI: Dead on.

* The partner and the relationship itself becomes the catalyst for the healing of toxic patterns related to the way in which the venus/pluto individual loves and relates to others. *

We were toxic, ..slowly transforming to a better kind of relationship ..TICKED!

* This control behavior has the same root cause in either case...insecurity. Because of past early childhood abandonment issues or strict parental control and manipulation, this person has developed defense mechanisms of either control/manipulation or submisiveness (door-mat syndrome). *

He's extremely in secured and often expose himself to me , depression, insecurity, down mood, everything is falling part to grab my attention and my sympathy. TICKED

this relates to

* Obsession and Compulsion
Making the love object the focus of their lives is a common theme with this aspect. They can easily become obsessed with the person or the relationship, with extreme cases resulting in "stalker behavior". * ...hmmmm

* Sexual Prowess
Many people with pluto emphasized in their charts are notorious for being superior lovers, "the best you've ever had". This is a form of control and manipulation, where sexual seduction keeps the other coming back for more. Either the venus-pluto native will possess this skill or the partner will. *

-( he tries to hold out the sex as long as he can, so i crave for more -- break up to make up --- the best make up- the best sex i ever had -) TICKED !

ON POINT IS THIS

** This soul must realize that the problem is never with the partner. The issue lies within the venus-pluto individual him/herself. There is a deep sense of wounding, a feeling of being unloveable and unworthy, that never quite goes away...always bubbling just under the surface of awareness. **

THANK GOODNESS TO MY TAURUS SUN

** Taurus asks Scorpio to stop perpetuating the inner drama, and instead work to cultivate peace and calm, appreciating all of the simple abundance life has to offer. Not to stew in the pain from the past, but to see that life is a gift in the here and now, and to embrace it while we have the chance... in this moment! Taurus teaches how to hold the pain in loving awareness, not reacting, just observing with compassion and understanding, an act that has the power to dissolve the hurt, and allows us to move on with life. **

i have laid everything, his issues, what he needs to work on , his insecurity, manipulation, power game...all in words and writing..show

i have laid everything, his issues, what he needs to work on , his insecurity, manipulation, power game...all in words and writing..show him my kind of love . compassionate, peaceful ....compared to his kind of love... pain and game.... I am healing him slowly, at the same time hes healing me and helping me deal with pain alot better. .... HES NEVER disagreed when i mentioned his issues, and most times he comes back stronger...either coz he knows i got him worked out left right and centre " thank goodness to astrology".... I have not been the kindest when he does me wrong, but when hes behaving good, my unconditional love is there for him.... only love conquer all...

I hope that I am on the right track, and he's much closer to transforming to be a better venus in scorpio... his moon in capricorn makes it that little bit harder...but we are on our way.......

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
"Because of past early childhood abandonment issues or strict parental control and manipulation, this person has developed defense mechanisms of either control/manipulation or submisiveness (door-mat syndrome)..."

Very accurate for the ViS people I know....

...they need our taurus calm and naturer ...warmth love towards them...... according to the article.

Posted by Lovable
Thanks for the read cheeckybull. Hit home for me on all levels...

I'm glad I shared some a great article. throughout the process and our ride, i hope he is healing within himself .... i am seeing a great change in him... thank goodness to my sun taurus.... are you like that in relationships? ...why do you always feel the need to " control " your partner...make it know or not..?.. ...knowing that it can be bad for the relationship...

Posted by Fox
Only things I relate to:
-Venus-pluto people must learn lessons of self-love, self-worth, and self-sufficiency within the context of partnerships.
-Many venus-pluto people are known to carry a jealous streak within them, therefore they can become very possessive of their mate. Underlying this is the fear of abandonment and rejection, and this behavior works to protect them from that occuring, or so they think.
-Making the love object the focus of their lives is a common theme with this aspect. They can easily become obsessed with the person or the relationship, with extreme cases resulting in "stalker behavior". (not to the extreme of stalking though smh)
-Scorpios are notorious for holding onto old resentments, sometimes for a whole lifetime. Its also not uncommon to hear them talking about plotting revenge against those who have wronged them in love, and if their not talking about it...their certainly thinking about it.

---Making the love object the focus of their lives is a common theme with this aspect. -- subtly... mysteriousness plays a big part here... keeps me intrigued... which he enjoys....perhaps.

** I do hat Venus in Scorpio ** coz I'm so drunk and they r the worsttttttttttttttt p