@SunTauVenGem
13 Years500+ Posts
Venus In scorpio stinging me silently ....
Posted by SunTauVenGem
Argh man they are good ....😢...
Whats up? talk to me............ I have experience in this field!! unfortunately
long story shot. we were exclusive for two months. I wanted more he pulled away saying he can't commit. Later down I started seeing someone.. I told him that I still wanted to be with him coz he's very passionate etc.. He also told me he's not ova his ex n that's why he chose to stay single so when we finally was together again he told me he missed me. I said if it was just the sex ( he told me by message there's never been more feelings) so he said he missed me that's why I was a little confused. So..we see each out at Latin places coz he sings n I dance so I go and support him.. One weekend after that night he told me he missed me he asked for me to come over after a night out with his friends saying he wanted to see me and he wanted me.. N I wanted him too and this was extremely late. I went over .. We made love all night. He helped me take off my shoes etc which was unnecessary. He was different you know he was way too affectionate . Next day he asked me what I was doing n I said I was performing n he said" all day" I didn't say anything. ( White lie).. N I said " I will maybe see u tonight at the gig.. N he said " maybe?" He never cared before and the reason I wasn't being all truthful coz the other guy wanted to see me even though I didn't really wanna see him but coz this VIS wasn't clear to me of what was happening so I ended up with this guy all night .. I know it's bad.. Anyhow, since then I felt extremely horrible n wanted to test the water to see if he would see me again.. Face to face he's the same.. He acts the same.. Observes me all the time.. Talks to me.. To make me think he doesn't know anything? He even grabbed me to dance with him even though he doesn't dance with anyone before ESP where he works.. So I thought we were good.. So I started telling him my feelings.. Writing song etc .. I noticed he's been cold and not reply as much n using the excuses of. Work is busy.. He's sick. Blablabla.. Now he said he will come and see me this week at some point and yesterday I messaged him n said" you are not going to come over this week are you? Just givin me false hope..:p ** n he replied saying " I will call you tomorrow to explain why I can't see you.. * I replied saying for him to tell me now coz I can't sleep then I changed it and said I will wait for his call and that even if he can't see me nothing will change ... N he hasn't replied. Mind you he never called me n I never called him. So I find it extremely strange.. When I was over at his,
Cont*** When I was over at his, I told him his room was messy n he said that's how I left it and this was after 1.5 months of not being with me so ofcoz I was confused as hell... I wouldn't be surprised if he doesn't call... I think I'm being set up for some silent revenge that I don't know about .. Just getting myself prepared that's all.. T-T
He's actually a sag thought but that venus takes over big time..
i think he just charmed the pants of you or the shoes. I dont think he's looking for any revenge. he just went back to what was familiar to him.
im sorry.
Make yourself harder to get the more they want, very focused when they know what they want, my ex was sag vis, passionate is off the scale but man I'm getting whipped by that scorpion tail right now, it's insane, I'm basically taking cover! It's that bad!
So no revenge? n now I have to make myself unavailable .. that's some game playing I can't be bother doing lol..
Posted by DMV
i think he just charmed the pants of you or the shoes. I dont think he's looking for any revenge. he just went back to what was familiar to him.im sorry.
what's with the questions the next mornig ? He never asked such thing. I will wait to see what he has to say .
Posted by Stryker77
Make yourself harder to get the more they want, very focused when they know what they want, my ex was sag vis, passionate is off the scale but man I'm getting whipped by that scorpion tail right now, it's insane, I'm basically taking cover! It's that bad!
so I am not playing game..I am just making it easier for him to see what he truly wants? I see. 🙂 thanks !
Posted by SunTauVenGem
Posted by DMV
i think he just charmed the pants of you or the shoes. I dont think he's looking for any revenge. he just went back to what was familiar to him.im sorry.
what's with the questions the next mornig ? He never asked such thing. I will wait to see what he has to say .click to expand
he's making small talk.
Posted by DMV
Posted by SunTauVenGem
Posted by DMV
i think he just charmed the pants of you or the shoes. I dont think he's looking for any revenge. he just went back to what was familiar to him.im sorry.
what's with the questions the next mornig ? He never asked such thing. I will wait to see what he has to say .
he's making small talk.
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Really? I don't know I felt a slight *curiosity * with those questions. He's a serious guy n doesn't just say stuff unless there's some hidden intention. But maybe u r right I'm reading to this too much.
ive done this to guys and i ask em a couple questions so that they dont feel completely used at the end of the day. Its me trying to me normal. a normal douchebag, i guess. try to show some interest but not too much. I dont want to burn any bridges and make it easier for me to come back for more.
do the wait and see approach. if he is with the same trend, you know it aint nuthin but sexy time. If he ups the game, then you will know.
Posted by SunTauVenGem
Really? I don't know I felt a slight *curiosity * with those questions. He's a serious guy n doesn't just say stuff unless there's some hidden intention. But maybe u r right I'm reading to this too much.
unfortunately, thats the whole game. to make you think there could be something more.
Posted by DMV
Posted by SunTauVenGem
Really? I don't know I felt a slight *curiosity * with those questions. He's a serious guy n doesn't just say stuff unless there's some hidden intention. But maybe u r right I'm reading to this too much.
unfortunately, thats the whole game. to make you think there could be something more.
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Yeah maybe you are right.. . but it's not like he had to charm me to get into my pants coz I wanted sex anyway but the * to make me think there's something more* we had that discussion way earlier and everytime I tell him I wanted more he would be up front about it that he doesn't want to lead me on etx but this time is different but hey who knows. I'm sure he's mastered at silent manipulation... damn . He made me feel guilty all along for no reason even though I owned him absolutely nothing !!!! Ok I will do the wait and c what he has to say.. I'm kind of done with the whole game playing thing... Whatever he has to say I think I will stick to accepting nothing less than a full serious commitment so I won't be left hanging on the edge.. Thank you!!!!
I'm going to message him to not bother about the phone call now.... it's useless.. 😢
Posted by SunTauVenGem
I'm going to message him to not bother about the phone call now.... it's useless.. 😢
dont do a damn thing. i wouldnt.
You made it too easy for him. Anything worth having is worth working for. It's hard to be passionate about something that is given too easily.
*scorp in venus here*
Posted by truecap
You made it too easy for him. Anything worth having is worth working for. It's hard to be passionate about something that is given too easily.*scorp in venus here*
Ok.. Is it too late to turn the table around?
Posted by SunTauVenGem
Posted by truecap
You made it too easy for him. Anything worth having is worth working for. It's hard to be passionate about something that is given too easily.*scorp in venus here*
Ok.. Is it too late to turn the table around?click to expand
I don't know.
Hard to take something away that's already been given.
I thought this was a casual sex arrangement.
Based on your post two weeks ago:
Posted by SunTauVenGem
Mine is venus in Gemini. His venus in Scorpio . Yeb he is back . I have welcomed him back as best friends and sex as well . Actually it's more the Scorpio in Venus passionate kisses I'm addicted too . I did killed the mood. I couldn't help myself as he said it was just sex on the " message" which clearly wasn't. He trusted me etc as per previous post and he's changed so much since he's met me in a very very great way. I have been an amazing influence in his life. He posted songs which according to him were not feelings. They were inspiration. So I said fine I will make sure to be casual about it all . He told be by message he's not over his ex and if he chooses to move on he will always loved her. In saying that I am also not over my ex and he knows that too . I don't know if this is a trap or to test how much I am into him. He makes me very happy and I miss his company. Clearly not the sex only . We were exclusive but now clearly we are not . I am not closing any door since he's not looking for a relationship now. So that's fine with me as long as I know he's not testing my loyalty in the process coz clearly I'm not loyal now. ?? When I was serious and wanted a relationship he freaked out n stopped seeing me all together . Now I said ok , we will just see each other casually. Nothing serious so he's back saying he misses me. This is why I'm confused .
It's obvious here he just wants sex from you and that's all. He said he doesn't want a relationship. Believe a man when he says this.
Posted by truecap
I thought this was a casual sex arrangement.Based on your post two weeks ago:
Posted by SunTauVenGem
Mine is venus in Gemini. His venus in Scorpio . Yeb he is back . I have welcomed him back as best friends and sex as well . Actually it's more the Scorpio in Venus passionate kisses I'm addicted too . I did killed the mood. I couldn't help myself as he said it was just sex on the " message" which clearly wasn't. He trusted me etc as per previous post and he's changed so much since he's met me in a very very great way. I have been an amazing influence in his life. He posted songs which according to him were not feelings. They were inspiration. So I said fine I will make sure to be casual about it all . He told be by message he's not over his ex and if he chooses to move on he will always loved her. In saying that I am also not over my ex and he knows that too . I don't know if this is a trap or to test how much I am into him. He makes me very happy and I miss his company. Clearly not the sex only . We were exclusive but now clearly we are not . I am not closing any door since he's not looking for a relationship now. So that's fine with me as long as I know he's not testing my loyalty in the process coz clearly I'm not loyal now. ?? When I was serious and wanted a relationship he freaked out n stopped seeing me all together . Now I said ok , we will just see each other casually. Nothing serious so he's back saying he misses me. This is why I'm confused .
It's obvious here he just wants sex from you and that's all. He said he doesn't want a relationship. Believe a man when he says this.
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Yeah that's what I understood from the beginning but I know when it's just sex or there's more to it. I have venus in Gemini I have been with men sex only before n they wanted more. This is different. We spent majority of the time kissing. anyhow, I got into deep again I just feel like when he realized he missed me that's when he wanted to take things more serious according to the songs but hey guess I was wrong. What I don't understand is why can't he just see me n just have make out then if that's the case why need to " call to explain* when he could easily just message me. Seems fishy to me. I would never call a guy to explain why I don't want anything more. I would
Cont. see face to face or never reply or say it politely via text. Let's just see what happens. I'm done chasing him myself.
I agree with @truecap, he's made it perfectly clear that your relationship is just about sex. You may equate kissing with something more there, but not him. He's being honest with you. Believe him.
Posted by SunTauVenGem
Posted by DMV
Posted by SunTauVenGem
Really? I don't know I felt a slight *curiosity * with those questions. He's a serious guy n doesn't just say stuff unless there's some hidden intention. But maybe u r right I'm reading to this too much.
unfortunately, thats the whole game. to make you think there could be something more.
Yeah maybe you are right.. . but it's not like he had to charm me to get into my pants coz I wanted sex anyway but the * to make me think there's something more* we had that discussion way earlier and everytime I tell him I wanted more he would be up front about it that he doesn't want to lead me on etx but this time is different but hey who knows. I'm sure he's mastered at silent manipulation... damn . He made me feel guilty all along for no reason even though I owned him absolutely nothing !!!! Ok I will do the wait and c what he has to say.. I'm kind of done with the whole game playing thing... Whatever he has to say I think I will stick to accepting nothing less than a full serious commitment so I won't be left hanging on the edge.. Thank you!!!!click to expand
You've got the right idea here. If you're looking for a serious commitment don't put up with the games. Don't demand anything, but don't sell yourself short on getting things told to you straight. Just remember to be straight yourself.
Posted by IrresistableScorp
For some reason I thought of this song:
Thank you. That hits home .....**
So he messaged me saying he's just been busy moving and stuff *he just moved 15 mins closer to me *.. and he said .. Plus I'm seeing someone you know that.... funny coz he told me twice when I went over * the room is messy coz that's how you left it *... Twice... n I go n see him sing all the time.. There arnt no women!.. N e how, I replied and cut my losses.. So I kind of said, at the end of the day I will always want more and how our connection Is deep and I can never just have anything casual with him.. I said I only said casual to be with him again but it's not for me.. I also said, I ended things with the other guy coz there's no passion etc.. I said I will always want more than what he can offer at this point in time but I truly hope that one day when things are more and we are on the same page and we want the same thing then hopefully we get to be together again... I left it as that... I'm done playing all these little guessing etc.. I have given my needs, either he full fill it and come straight forward or he will lose me... Simple enough?😢... I will still go and support him singing but I will not contact him anymore....
Posted by happykitsune
Posted by SunTauVenGem
Posted by DMV
Posted by SunTauVenGem
Really? I don't know I felt a slight *curiosity * with those questions. He's a serious guy n doesn't just say stuff unless there's some hidden intention. But maybe u r right I'm reading to this too much.
unfortunately, thats the whole game. to make you think there could be something more.
Yeah maybe you are right.. . but it's not like he had to charm me to get into my pants coz I wanted sex anyway but the * to make me think there's something more* we had that discussion way earlier and everytime I tell him I wanted more he would be up front about it that he doesn't want to lead me on etx but this time is different but hey who knows. I'm sure he's mastered at silent manipulation... damn . He made me feel guilty all along for no reason even though I owned him absolutely nothing !!!! Ok I will do the wait and c what he has to say.. I'm kind of done with the whole game playing thing... Whatever he has to say I think I will stick to accepting nothing less than a full serious commitment so I won't be left hanging on the edge.. Thank you!!!!
You've got the right idea here. If you're looking for a serious commitment don't put up with the games. Don't demand anything, but don't sell yourself short on getting things told to you straight. Just remember to be straight yourself.
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Thank you .... I have been.. I only accept all or nothing from now on .... 🙂
Fuck his singing. Plenty of groupies to sweat him. Thats not the role you want to play, right?
Posted by FoxGlove
Good job on the accepting all (the YOU need) or nothing from now on... However, why are you gonna go still support him singing?!? Girl, don't do that! You lay low for a while... let him hear through the grapevine how amazing you're doing... and start wondering... 😉
It's nt so much supporting him as such. I love dancing to that place but this time I wil make sure I don't support him like I normally do .. *dance close to the stage where he sings* I will be the background from now on... he neve replied to it so it is over untill he makes it forever 😉
Posted by DMV
Fuck his singing. Plenty of groupies to sweat him. Thats not the role you want to play, right?
Haha !! I won't stop going dancing just because a man is there. I forgot to explain properly that I go there when I can with or without him there.🙂 I will play the role differently this time ..
Posted by SunTauVenGem
Posted by DMV
Fuck his singing. Plenty of groupies to sweat him. Thats not the role you want to play, right?
Haha !! I won't stop going dancing just because a man is there. I forgot to explain properly that I go there when I can with or without him there.🙂 I will play the role differently this time ..click to expand
ahhh ok. Dance on 🙂
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Argh man they are good ....😢...