sagittarius handling guilt?

Hello, few of you may remember me had a difficult break up with a sagittarius with Venus in Scorpio, I spent most of the year trying to win her back but things turned sour in the summer where she started seeing my son's sports coach who is married with kids, his son plays in the same team as my son and I told her that she was dragging the kids in to this and she basically didn't say anything and banned me from seeing the kids and banned me from the house.

Couple of weeks later she clearly needed me for childcare duties so we started talking again but this time my self respect stopped me from reacting to her or trying to win her back, I gave uplease.

It seemed after our blow out she ended it with the married guy and started dating another guy, (her mum tells me this) so lately I don't react to her, any sign of hope from her I ignore, I'm fun and happy around her, kids obviously love me and I've worked hard on my body and she has noticed with a compliment from her a few weeks ago, so lately we have been friends again, she even gave me the key to her house so it's easier for me to look after the kids but I gave the key back, we were going out together as a family to kids activities, she was great, starting to get back to the old sag I knew and loved but then all of a sudden on Sunday it changed, we were at my son's sports meet and she was talking to the coach's wife, chatting away with no remorse, I looked on and thought wow, she has quite a dark side, anyway that afternoon I arrived at her house a little earlier to drop my son off but guess what car was in her drive and all the curtains drawn? Yep the coach's car, then the door opens and she was kissing the coach, I wasn't seen and I drove off, I took my son back and I acted normal and that was difficult but I did.

Anyway this week she can't look me in the eye, she is rude to me, (no hello or bye etc) she looks like she is going to explode but because I'm happy she can't? The old me would have voiced my concern about this affair and she could unload her guilt on me and justify her actions? So this morning she finds something to shout at me about, the amount of money I pay her for my son! I've been paying this since February without a flinch from her, it's set by our government so it's fair! So I started to bite but I reeled myself back but I asked "what's happened this week for you to treat me like this?" She won't reply to me.

Is this sag behaviour? She seems to want to blame me for all h

Is this sag behaviour? She seems to want to blame me for all her indiscretions because of why we split, I'm actually happy and confident with myself again but this seems to have warmed her to me but also winds her up!?

Sorry for the long post!

You need to remove yourself from her personal affairs and stick to the kids.

Posted by DMV
You need to remove yourself from her personal affairs and stick to the kids.

I do but she takes her frustration out on me, I don't want it, I'm there for the kids 100%

Posted by aquavita2
whining piece of slime

What are you on about—?? It's hilarious how angry you are with yourself and you take it out on every body that you feel wants to listen to your pointless crap........... Is it period week or something?........

Whatever dude, you are all up in her koolaid. Who she's sleeping with, yadda yadda yadda.

Just stick to the kids. Shes a crazy bitch who wants nothing more than to misdirect her to an easy target, I.e. YOU!

wow, lol

Posted by Stryker77

Is this sag behaviour? She seems to want to blame me for all her indiscretions because of why we split, I'm actually happy and confident with myself again but this seems to have warmed her to me but also winds her up!?

I guess so, lolzz

They have one son, never married.

Posted by SunraySag87

Posted by aquavita2
you girls have never been married some commenting on a relationship that involves a woman who was not only married and dedicated but had 2 children with this person. your support appears slutty

Hmm who says I am defending him? I didnt slag him or her off just stating her defensive mechanism, hence why i said 'reasons aside' and focussed on the kids part....because honestly theyre going to suffer if this will continue with unstable parents. I can tell... Got Virgo dad!

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Thanks, yes despite everything I'm there for the kids on a daily basis, I need them to have as normal a upbringing as we can possibly give them. I just wanted to speak to fellow sag's who understand her, I know us getting back together is pretty remote now but every now and again I can see she second guesses her decision.

Posted by Wynter
They have one son, never married.

Yes that's correct

Posted by aquavita2

Posted by Wynter
They have one son, never married.

OK one son never married even worse he abused someone financially and was not even married to her. what does he want from her then ? and why do u say never married if there was a court order for child support which this scum uses to justify his cheapness. I have no later center for bad fathers

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Mmm. Well I didn't read his previous posts all that well

He seemed sincere in trying to understand WTF happened, and perhaps take a pot shot or 2

Oh well.

Carry on with the punishment

Haha lol. Some Virgo and Sagittarius dont mix.

never try to change a Sagittarius that's impossible. And Sagittarius detach emotionally thats the good thing and accept some of the bullshit that we do to each other, but there are circumstances where you be lucky to detach and ignore.