Am I overanalyzing things with this scorpio man?

I'm a Pisces and I have been talking to this Scorpio man for a good 2 months. However, we have been talking more seriously everyday for about 3 weeks

now. It is long distance, unfortunately.

The first week of the last three he was all over me and probing me with questions like what's on your

mind? (Asks me this the most) What are you doing? What's something that

bothers you? Do you have any quirks? And he would message me all day like

he couldn't wait to talk to me. If I didn't respond right away, he would ask me what I was doing.

Within the same week, he opened up to me about some

very personal things. He has been through a lot of traumatizing stuff that I

wouldn't wish upon anyone. It made me cry and he thought it was sweet

because it showed I had empathy. We talked for hours after that and he told

me I was amazing, beautiful and any guy would be lucky to have me. He went

on days after telling me how much he loves talking to me and how the

distance between us isn't fair, etc.



However, this past week or so he stopped probing me with questions. He doesn't respond right away like he did before. Does this

mean he isn't interested anymore or bored of me? He still messages me

everyday and he's been talking about himself more rather than asking me much. Then again, we haven't really

been conversating as of late. Maybe it's because I've been sick the for the past 9

days.

He's also started giving me pet names. Like he will say "what's on

your mind love?" He's also been calling me hun recently and so forth.

We have had fun sexual conversations but he rarely brings up sex and told me before that he doesn't want me to think

that's all he's after. I don't get that impression from him. We didn't talk much for 3 days and he joked about stepping up his

game in fear that someone else will take his place. I reassured him that

wouldn't happen.



He has opened up to me about some nerdy things he was into. It's like he opens up and then closes. It's funny because everywhere online I have read that scorpios know more about you than you know about them, but I feel it is the opposite. I haven't told him much about my past or anything, but he's opened up about deep emotions to me. He opened up to me more about his current life struggles this past Friday and I talked to

him about it. Then he kinda disappeared for the weekend. This is common

though. He talks to me every single day and then sometimes he will disappear over

the weekend. I give him his space. He told me he was in a negative head space so I gave him space. He is very consistent and messages me back the following Monday and

tells me It's because he's thinking about me and proceeds to talk to me everyday the rest of the week.



Am I over analyzing? Does he still like me? He's not really picking my brain

anymore. It was just so intense in the beginning so I'm worried that his

passion for me has died off. I feel that our conversations have grown stale and I'm not sure if it's because he's in a mood dealing with life stuff or if he's bored of me. He is hard to understand sometimes. He is direct but at the same time I have no idea what's going on. I could ask but I don't want to probe him too much either. Like I can't gauge whether he's holding back or if I am not putting forth enough of myself. As a Pisces, I do have a hard time being open with my feelings and I do come off detached sometimes because I am trying to see if the other person is on the same page as me. For example, I didn't begin telling him I missed him until he started saying it first. Not sure if he's getting that vibe from me or not.

All I know is that he is the most amazing man I've ever met and I

don't want him to go away. We have amazing chemistry. He's incredibly smart, unique, mature, caring,

and just an overall wonderful guy. Sometimes I worry I'm not interesting

enough for him. I'm trying not to let insecurity show.



Any feedback is appreciated. Thank you!

I don't like him disappearing on weekends and getting back to you on Monday. It doesn't feel like it's unplanned mood swings, when you feel the need to take space, any given day, not ONLY OVER THE WEEKEND. To me it feels like he has something going on on weekends with somebody else, feels like it. I'd put puzzle pieces together and assume because of that he slowed down quite the great deal and is more interested in someone else who he meets up with regularly. What is the distance between you two?

Posted by pisceanloves

I don't like him disappearing on weekends and getting back to you on Monday. It doesn't feel like it's unplanned mood swings, when you feel the need to take space, any given day, not ONLY OVER THE WEEKEND. To me it feels like he has something going on on weekends with somebody else, feels like it. I'd put puzzle pieces together and assume because of that he slowed down quite the great deal and is more interested in someone else who he meets up with regularly. What is the distance between you two?

Unfortunately, this has crossed my mind as well. I'm on the west coast and he's on the east coast. So huge distance between us. I asked him a while ago if he was seeing someone and he said not currently. He seems honest and straightforward so I want to believe him but there's no way of knowing the truth either way. I don't want to bug him with questions like that in fear of annoying him. Especially if he is being honest. Maybe I shouldn't.

With SO MUCH distance between you too, I'm surprised he's the only one you're choosing to invest in. Why is that? That's not fair to you. Open yourself to dating others, more locally. Don't hold your breath for this dude and certainly don't have any high expectations. Give yourself a few more options.

Pisces and Scorpio is like fire. The sex is incredible but the arguements can be explosive! Scorpio usually bottle things up until they cant no more and thats when the explosion comes. They are, however, very laid back, family men, providers... as far as caretakers, not so much. They dont really know what to do. I've been with a Scorpio for 7 yrs. He wouldnt hurt a fly and I could trust him around women. They usually are quiet but when they talk, they can have sharp tongues. And tell how they see things. I would say, trust him. Ex Scorpio would sometimes disappear aswell but he never cheated on me.

can u guys PLEASE stop this long distance shit and go outside—

Posted by MareInfame

It sounds like you both have a nice, comfortable connection... but I have to agree with the two posters above. I question the absent weekends and having such a long distance between you, makes it so that you do have to put extra effort to communicate... and it makes it difficult to know the whole truth.

How did you two meet? Have you had a lot of time together or all online?

Yea I see what you mean. We met on an app. We use a texting app to communicate but that's pretty much it. We haven't met in person.

I did google his number and found out that it was a fake number which made me a little uncomfortable but I'm not sure if it's that big of a deal right now. We haven't been talking very long. Idk what it is with this guy but he has me questioning how I should feel about everything.

Posted by sweetpea2977

With SO MUCH distance between you too, I'm surprised he's the only one you're choosing to invest in. Why is that? That's not fair to you. Open yourself to dating others, more locally. Don't hold your breath for this dude and certainly don't have any high expectations. Give yourself a few more options.

Yea I understand. I'm not holding my breath for him but if he seems serious to me I don't want to fool around with other guys. I've read that scorpios are loyal when they are serious about a person so I'm still trying to figure out how he feels about me. But you are right I should date locally. He's just different than any guy I have ever met and it's refreshing so I'd like it to go somewhere.

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Posted by MareInfame

It sounds like you both have a nice, comfortable connection... but I have to agree with the two posters above. I question the absent weekends and having such a long distance between you, makes it so that you do have to put extra effort to communicate... and it makes it difficult to know the whole truth.

How did you two meet? Have you had a lot of time together or all online?

Yea I see what you mean. We met on an app. We use a texting app to communicate but that's pretty much it. We haven't met in person.

I did google his number and found out that it was a fake number which made me a little uncomfortable but I'm not sure if it's that big of a deal right now. We haven't been talking very long. Idk what it is with this guy but he has me questioning how I should feel about everything.

Why don’t you think him having a fake number is a big deal? Listen to your gut, if you felt uncomfortable initially... maybe you should dig further.

Why does he having you questioning how you feel about everything?

Protect yourself, don’t get heavy feelings on this guy, yet. There is too much unknown. Not worth investing just yet.

If was on an online dating site I would use a fake or disposable number as well.

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...so his wife doesn’t find him on the app. Smart.

i don't feel like he would keep talking to you if he had a side piece. u'd be ghosted by now with distance being a perfect excuse.

pretty sure he's just testing your reactions to see if you're worth it

and if you're worried you should tell him how you feel, we like it when ppl open up their vulnerabilities freely, it shows you want to have an authentic connection.