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One Lady Scorpion's thoughts, moments, and pondering.

Initial reaction to rejection- Disappointment

Then the analysis phase begins, where one takes a step back and objectively surveys the situation passed, including ones part and the opposed, as well. If there are no improvements that could be but made on ones part, or nothing were necessarily wrong with oneself as a person, then one would but compartmentalize it as a past experience and move on. Because sometimes we have to learn, somethings in life just are not meant to be, simply because one person rejects your feelings/person, it does not mean there is a problem within you, it merely means you were not the compatible match for the individual.

To stay stable, anchored, both emotionally and mentally within the self during rejection is an absolute must, even if it were simply to remain sane!

The very first rejection in which one have ever experienced in ones lifetime was the hardest, one fell hard and it was a dark pit to come out of but as one gets older, as time passes, as one gathers experiences. One realizes rejection is necessary, or we will forever sit in behind enclosed walls. To take risks, to pursue life, to live fully, this will require us to go out of our own comfort zone, to take action and they might end up as risks, we might be rejected, though to be success (or even remotely happy), we must learn to get up each time from each fall. In my opinion, rejection is a way to keep our egos in check, whilst making us stronger individuals.

Love simply cannot be forced, there are so many couples whom, after the initial phase of attraction/lust/honeymooning begin to argue and fight because the rosy glasses which they had on, have been but taken off, each respective habits and what not, surfaces. Now if their love was real love and not what I had mention prior, compromises and mutual understanding with open communications channels, will overcome this initial hiccup but if this is not the case then all hell may break loose.

In my opinion, there are individuals whom end up clinging unto their relationships merely because they missed the feelings of those 'initial stages of flourishing hormones', those very same individuals stay in relationships for all the wrong reasons. Also at times, even if two people were to create and possess real love between them which is strong, but culture, location, work and so forth..life, life may get in the way of it being, being what it was meant to be. Simply love, is never enough, there are so many factors that come into play for a successful long term relationship, commitment and marriage.

I say - 'C'est la vie!'

That my $ 0.02 into the piggy bank 🙂

Wow, so I had no idea what the term "sheep dipped" meant. So, I looked it up and came across Lee Harvey Oswald. I'm not really a big history buff and despite being Aquarius I'm not usually interested in politics because I think it's a bunch of bullshit. BUT, damn if any of the conspiracy about that dude is true... what would be the CIA's motive for assassinating JFK?

Obviously that in of itself could be bullshit too but seems so much more believable to me just because it's hard to pinpoint a true motive for Oswald even if he was "communist" lol. I mean dafuck man he'd have to practically insane as well.

Intrigued - "The worst hurt is when you compromise who you are for what you want and get rejected because the niggle will always be that it didn't work out because YOU were inauthentic. That's the tough pill to swallow IMHO."

That must be one of the toughest pills ever to be swallowed, because one is lying to the self, the other and when rejection comes, it is their rejection of your inauthentic self, their rejection of you, and finally ones rejection of oneself. All that compounded together could but kill an individual, that is why it is important to seek the self, get to know whom one is, search and learn, in doing so one can be at their truest, both to themselves and to all. Authenticity.

Posted by IrresistableScorp

The worst hurt is when you compromise who you are for what you want and get rejected because the niggle will always be that it didn't work out because YOU were inauthentic. That's the tough pill to swallow IMHO.

Damn... Deep idea there.

I'd say for my short lived life, you can't expect love. And, you can't expect when you find love for it to last. Does this mean we should stop loving those who we feel have stopped loving us... I dunno. It does seem the fair thing to do but at the same time love really isn't something that we should expect others to reciprocate. I mean to really love someone is a lot more about a choice you make than any feelings you may or may not have about it. And that choice is very tough to make sometimes. It's almost selfish, ridiculous, and honestly maybe even a little manipulative to assume it in return.

So... I dunno if you should really be held accountable for changing who you are as a person for someone else. How can we say that the reason the relationship failed was because we weren't the real us? That's honestly just a weak excuse for someone to hide behind because in truth... people always start a relationship trying to change other people or thinking "oh I can change him or her" instead of excepting people for the way they are. IF you change willingly on your own without coercion of your mate to do so... especially if you knew it was for the benefit of them and the relationship, hell even for yourself, how could you feel bad about that? Changing as a person is quite a rare thing and it is quite a beautiful thing too when it actually does occur.

The strangest incidents, being confronted by strangers with cameras.

They were either taking pictures of my full body or worse they take pictures of my face. I frankly find it disturbing...

The only time I truly burst out, was once I was walking along the streets (in a reputable district mind you, not some dodgy area) and this man jumped out of the blue in front of me, kneeling with a huge DSLR camera snapping away and I really had thought he was trying to catch a picture of someone behind me so I moved a side and he kept saying- "Stay, stop walking!!" But I walked swiftly on ignoring the man with no expression on, and the nerve, he dared to verbally taunt me- "Why aren't you smiling darling? In such a beautiful city." I was entirely pissed, I nicely but curtly told him off, straight on but he got his pictures anyways, though he was left cursing. I was not even wearing anything provocative, and covered up, I have no idea why he wanted to catch a picture of me.

Another time I was getting into a taxi and suddenly cameras came out of nowhere to take pictures, preventing my doors from closing. I yanked it hard and they pulled back before their hands got caught, that was the only time I had people take pictures of my feet or perhaps shoes??

*shakes my head*

The audacity of it all.

Posted by ellessque
do you find "sheep dipping" offensive?

they spun it as emerging yourself into someone else's culture.....but I didn't see it that way.

So, like when you are "sheep dipped" into another culture... is that to say you are stripping yourself of your own culture to meld better with the new one or something... I mean what are we stripping ourselves of first off?

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Intrigued - "The worst hurt is when you compromise who you are for what you want and get rejected because the niggle will always be that it didn't work out because YOU were inauthentic. That's the tough pill to swallow IMHO."

That must be one of the toughest pills ever to be swallowed, because one is lying to the self, the other and when rejection comes, it is their rejection of your inauthentic self, their rejection of you, and finally ones rejection of oneself. All that compounded together could but kill an individual, that is why it is important to seek the self, get to know whom one is, search and learn, in doing so one can be at their truest, both to themselves and to all. Authenticity.

Errm... Is that intrigued part just to show how you feel about the quote or that irresistiblescorp is actually intriguedscorp... and if not wtf happen to IntriguedScorp? She delete?

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Intrigued - "The worst hurt is when you compromise who you are for what you want and get rejected because the niggle will always be that it didn't work out because YOU were inauthentic. That's the tough pill to swallow IMHO."

That must be one of the toughest pills ever to be swallowed, because one is lying to the self, the other and when rejection comes, it is their rejection of your inauthentic self, their rejection of you, and finally ones rejection of oneself. All that compounded together could but kill an individual, that is why it is important to seek the self, get to know whom one is, search and learn, in doing so one can be at their truest, both to themselves and to all. Authenticity.

Errm... Is that intrigued part just to show how you feel about the quote or that irresistiblescorp is actually intriguedscorp... and if not wtf happen to IntriguedScorp? She delete?

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NYAA, Welcome.

No, I enjoy calling her by her original name. If you had noticed, that was merely a quote of what she wrote, a few post above yours. IntriguedScorp is now Irristible 😉

hmm, didn't know... Intrigued? Why the name change? Dost though now feel so irresistible that it should be a part of thy name?

Posted by IrresistableScorp
I shed a skin darling and moved on. 🙂

...and we love you all the more 🙂

Feelings of impending change.

Does anybody experience such phases, that come without notice? Where intuition is unintentionally off the charts?

One does have such feelings at times, one feels twisted inside as if being pulled a part by two polar ends and yet at the same time one feels free, as if all ones worries should not ever have existed at all, in this world. As if the flowers smell better, words sound like music, melody to the ears, colouring ones kaleidoscope gay. It feels like nothing but a nymph let loose, inside of oneself, one simply wants to run, jump, be completely free, frolicking around, grab someone, anyone and kiss them dizzy.

All metaphorically speaking...of course!

*Something must be in the skies right now, this cannot be normal, in any which way.*

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Initial reaction to rejection- Ice cream

*fixed 😛

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Initial reaction to rejection- Ice cream

*fixed 😛

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A few ladies here on dxp may add - Spa Retreats, Retail Therapy, etc. amongst simple ice-cream!

😛

All equally rewarding, yes.

Posted by PhoenixRising
All equally rewarding, yes.

One would have to be disappointed first prior to one grabing and stuffing ones face in a tub of Gelato.

Posted by TheLadyScorpio

Posted by PhoenixRising
All equally rewarding, yes.

One would have to be disappointed first prior to one grabing and stuffing ones face in a tub of Gelato.

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Touch? LadyScorp.

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Posted by TheLadyScorpio

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All equally rewarding, yes.

One would have to be disappointed first prior to one grabing and stuffing ones face in a tub of Gelato.

Touch? LadyScorp.

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All said with — of course 🙂

Posted by TheLadyScorpio

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Posted by TheLadyScorpio

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All equally rewarding, yes.

One would have to be disappointed first prior to one grabing and stuffing ones face in a tub of Gelato.

Touch? LadyScorp.

All said with — of course 🙂

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I know lovely. *stinger to the ass*

Posted by Neurotoxin
Hence my porkyish appearance.

Fret not, at least you would float in a pool.

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Posted by TheLadyScorpio

Posted by Neurotoxin
Hence my porkyish appearance.

Fret not, at least you would float in a pool.

I also remain warmer in cooler climes

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From what one remembers, you lose weight during the winter and gather weight during the summer. Therefore, you shall be cold in winter and extremely warm in summer, ay should that not be resolved. At least you have a layer of complimentary flotation device to salve that thought.

If a man truly loves you, nothing would ever keep him away. He will always be back, he will hunt you down, he will find you because he would not know how to live without you, he would not be able to be the man he wants to be, unless he has you in his life.

Que Sera Sera, what ever will be, will be.

Live your life ladies, keep on being the great and amazing person that you all are, grow, develop, experience, see the world. If he is 'the man', 'your man', he will be back...without a doubt.

🙂

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
If a man truly loves you, nothing would ever keep him away. He will always be back, he will hunt you down, he will find you because he would not know how to live without you, he would not be able to be the man he wants to be, unless he has you in his life.

I would like to believe this is true, but....

Excluding the bs excuses we hear about on the boards, this sounds a little "love conquers all", which I just don't think is true.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
If a man truly loves you, nothing would ever keep him away. He will always be back, he will hunt you down, he will find you because he would not know how to live without you, he would not be able to be the man he wants to be, unless he has you in his life.

I would like to believe this is true, but....

Excluding the bs excuses we hear about on the boards, this sounds a little "love conquers all", which I just don't think is true.

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Love does not conquer all, that is very true and my belief as well but this thread is simply my moody thoughts as they come, some days one gets lost in la-la land.

Returning back from the Lunar Landing very soon 😉

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Posted by TheLadyScorpio
If a man truly loves you, nothing would ever keep him away. He will always be back, he will hunt you down, he will find you because he would not know how to live without you, he would not be able to be the man he wants to be, unless he has you in his life.

I would like to believe this is true, but....

Excluding the bs excuses we hear about on the boards, this sounds a little "love conquers all", which I just don't think is true.

Love does not conquer all, that is very true and my belief as well but this thread is simply my moody thoughts as they come, some days one gets lost in la-la land.

Returning back from the Lunar Landing very soon 😉

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Ah I feel ya . Yes, I have had those "if you cared you's walk through d*amn fire" moments, and usually it's comes when reflecting on how things turned out. Not suggesting this is what inspired your thoughts, just that I "get it".

Cheers LadyScorp!

Ay, Phoenix, you always get me 🙂

Yes, we are all of the similar kind, the lunatic of a madness pool of water, family of the insane.

Posted by TheLadyScorpio

Yes, we are all of the similar kind, the lunatic of a madness pool of water, family of the insane.

This contradiction, and this tension...it never goes away. And if you think that achieving something, if you think that solving something, if you think a career or a relationship will quiet that voice, it will not. If you think that happiness means total peace, you will never be happy. Peace comes from the acceptance of the part of you that can never be at peace. It will always be in conflict. If you accept that, everything gets a lot better. One must start accepting oneself, all of it, now.

In life, one must learn to deal with it, one way or another, running away means only to find oneself running back to oneself, lost in a downward spiral of circular motion. Therefore one must either change it or accept it but there is no way to run away from it, fight it or flee it, but best to face it, be brave, be courageous, take the beast by its own horns and tame it.

There is an inner beauty about a woman who believes in herself, who knows she is capable of anything that she puts her mind to. There is a beauty in the strength and determination of a woman who follows her own path, who is not thrown off by obstacles along the way. There is a beauty about a woman whose confidence comes from experiences; who knows she can fall, pick herself up, and move on.