how sensitive are you?

my scorp called me too sensitive...i'm a gem with a cancer stellium and cancer midheaven. i'm watery as all hell...but i've read here over and over again that you guys are sensitive too, you just hide it behind all of that mystery and attitude (the sexy, confident type). thoughts? or is he just projecting?

Sorry, I need to learn to slow down and read carefully. Ignore hidden post 😄

Sensitive? Yes.

Inanimate Rock? No.

Gummy Bear encased in nuclear defense mile deep metal armour, sniper on range and an entire air force above? Yes.

Gummy Bear at a nudist beach, rainbow colours showing, without discrimination, complete freedom, all smiles? Yes.

Why the last contrasting two? It depends on our lessons learned.

(Is he projecting, more than likely he may be mirroring?)

What do you think the shield is FOR—

😉

Posted by IrresistableScorp
The truth is: we are all complete mushballs under the icy layers. Believe it.

#truth

Although a major downside, and perhaps the most detrimental one of all, to emotional shielding... is that when a person shields oneself from others, he/she also loses some capacity to understand when he/she is hurtful TO OTHERS (at least in the moment). Therefore most Scorps come off as caustic and rude without even attempting to. Oh, if he WANTED to hurt you, he'd know just how to do it. But when he doesn't want you to hurt, and does it by accident, he'll become defensive to any blame (because that is the immature emotional auto-response to blocking pain from you: that is, you being upset at him IS pain).

Ironically enough, this usually means he cares about you. He's admitting to you being able to hurt him without really admitting it. Make sense? No? Probably not entirely yet. 🙂 We've got growing issues...

He'll grow through experience. If you want to speed the process, open up some REALLY direct communication. Do it in ways that don't put him on the defensive even if your own auto-response says he deserves it. It may only shut him down, especially if hurting you was accidental. Say something like: "It hurts me when someone says *a generalization of what he just said* because it reminds me of *something unrelated to him that made his comment hurt*." It's being objective, and allows him to think rationally, which is something he's probably very good at and comfortable with. 😉 Then he'll feel sorry (although might not show it), and gain respect for you at the same time. He'll make a danged good attempt at remembering not to say that particular hurtful thing again.

Andddd repeat. But save it for the most important ones so no one nags. Yes, Scorps can be manipulated. And it can be healthy too. 😄

Posted by Neurotoxin
I'm not sensitive at all.

Must we remind you of your - "Is my arse big in these jeans" incident?

Posted by Neurotoxin

Posted by TheLadyScorpio

Posted by Neurotoxin
I'm not sensitive at all.

Must we remind you of your - "Is my arse big in these jeans" incident?

What? My sarcasm isn't obvious enough?

I need to work on that.

And losing my ten pounds of vacation weight so I can get back in those jeans...

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Your Sarcasm? Usually...Hit or Miss.

Now then, do not look into the mirror until you do or else Ms.Virgo may say- Rhetorical Question.

Posted by cunninglinguist
Get close to them and they go from this:

To this:

just be careful not to accidentally SMASH them when they molt for you!!

imao! This thread is funny.. I have to watch what I say totally.. Oh dear I got a longgggggg way to go...