Came off needy... now what?

So I freaked out a bit during his freak out stage. (The stage they say scorps pull back for no reason and women are just suppose to give them space) It wasn't bad just me asking him whats up? Why so distant?

Same story.. things were good, told me he missed me. Liked me a lot. Wanted to see me a lot. Introduced me to his friends. Called a lot. I was mutual with it as well. To me I showed him I was into him. Than all the sudden he stepped back. When I asked what was up.. He told me I have to show him I care or really like him (He also said he gets like this and is why many girls dont like dating to him). Being that I usually am the one who gets chased.. I had no clue what that meant. Still don't!? It started to get to the point where I would be like "I miss you" and he would reply "no you don't" but than say he misses me. Or I would say "I like you" and he would say "no you dont". So thinking I needed to show him I really liked him I started to persue him. Well that probablly just made me look needy and back fired on me. I was the only one really calling (this past week) and asking to hang out. Which he was always busy. Or he would only have time after he hung out with his friends. So after him rejecting me a few days ago to hang out I just decided to back off and wait till he comes around. I'm really not needy he's just confusing and I didnt know what else to do.



Is he just playing games?

Is he insecure?

Did I push him away and burn out the flame?

Is this a test?


He's told me he's been in a lot of BS relationships so he thinks im playing him. Either that or he just doesnt want anything with me. If not why not just say that? At random times he'll show intrest and than get distant again. IE: He'll kiss me and tell me to call him later and than when I do call he will not answer or call back. I know he likes me it's just either he feels im going to hurt him like other girls have or he just doesnt want me.

It may look like I was needy but really I know how to step back too. If you need space or just want to chill with your friends than say so. Why lead me on? I can handle his withdrawls I just hope he will come back around to see that. Its like we got real close real fast and than he pulled away real fast. Than tells me I have to show him I mean what I say (liking him). But I thought guys like to "chase"? I plan on just doing me and staying away till he wants to talk or see me.. any advice?

Hes born Nov. 6th 1988

Also its been 2 days since we talked. Last tuesday is when he started really pulling away. Something happened that morning also and said it was really bad. Wouldnt tell me what though.

I don't know, him saying "He told me I have to show him I care or really like him (He also said he gets like this and is why many girls dont like dating to him)" bothers me and makes me think he likes attention but has no serious intentions.

I would call him (or text if that is your thing) and say that you're thinking of him, hope things are OK (with regards to Tuesday) and you're here/there if he needs you. And then let him be. If it was really bad what happened he is going to be focused on that and depending on how long he is immersed in it will be he will be out of touch for the time. Just don't freak out OK?!?!? 🙂

Posted by Beetleguese
Mirror him, he'll either understand how it feels to have someone say "no you don't" or he'll miss the lesson in considering the other persons feelings due to his actions in which case you should seriously consider if you want to be with someone like that. But I'd basically call him out on it,

YES on this.. a true scorp trait.. I say the same thing. give him the same medicine. see how he'll act. make him feel what you feel.. if he react, tell him everything you told us on this post. if he doesn't, he's obviously playing, its up to you if you want to play the same game or find someone serious.

good luck.

he sounds like an ass too me. go find a cap. were more honest and dont play stupid mind games. and your actions were not neddy at all. you were confused. hes the one who sounds insecure. dont get me wrong...i love my scorpios 😆 just i dont like these silly oh i dont think you care about me at all attitude. ugh...im allergic to bullshit and if i dated a scorp chick who was like that...well then there would be no relationship. lol.

Posted by Beetleguese
Mirror him, he'll either understand how it feels to have someone say "no you don't" or he'll miss the lesson in considering the other persons feelings due to his actions in which case you should seriously consider if you want to be with someone like that.

Yep! Works every time. Flip the chaser/chasee mode. But, as BG said, this guy sounds seriously high maintenance. This type almost always proves to be a waste of time in the long run. Damaged goods.

Posted by HappyCappy
he sounds like an ass too me. go find a cap. were more honest and dont play stupid mind games. and your actions were not neddy at all. you were confused. hes the one who sounds insecure. dont get me wrong...i love my scorpios 😆 just i dont like these silly oh i dont think you care about me at all attitude. ugh...im allergic to bullshit and if i dated a scorp chick who was like that...well then there would be no relationship. lol.

You're right HC,

Why can't everyone just be straight up about it all. The games suck eggs.

indeed. i dont play games.

I agree with beetlegeuse, mirror his actions so he can see how it feels. Also it sounds like he feels like he isn't good enough for you and his hurt in past relationships causes him to constantly test your feelings (he want's constant reinsurance that he is the only guy for you) I don't think he isn't trying to play with your emotions on purpose just his opinion of himself isn't very high.

Try having a conversation with him, and talk to him about what I mentioned, just be very sensitive when you bring it up,I would recommend asking him in the form of a question like "why are you constantly telling me that I don't having feelings for you, do you feel like you don't deserve me or something" you can play around with it just don't be aggressive about it a more passive approach is in order.

the whole "I like you" then response " No you don't" or "I miss you" - "No you don't" is a sure sign that his opinion of himself is very low.

His comment about the whole "He also said he gets like this and is why many girls don't like dating to him" most likely means once he has feelings for someone he lets down his guard and then they see his insecurity and low opinion of himself starts to show. Not many women like to date a man who has a low opinion of them self.

Sounds to me like this man has been beaten down, dragged through the mud, and then spit on quite a few times and he has lost the will to pick himself back up, You are not the needy one, he is, It will work great for you if you are a nurturing person because this man is constantly going to need self esteem boosts. I.E tell him how much you are into him every day, complement him on the little things he does that you admire about him, etc, etc.

Well I hope this helps, good luck!

I'm actually only 20, Won't be 21 till the 10th of nov.

Anybody could have posted that comment though, kinda obvious ,I was just the first to do so.