Can anyone tell me why I'm feeling so weird lately

A few days ago and more so recently today I've just felt weird about my scorpio...I feel like he's subtly changed. For some reason he doesn't seem as caring...maybe I'm just losing my mind. He kinda snapped at me earlier for doing what he calls "psychoanalyzing". But it's not that...its just a feeling...I get those sometimes and they're never wrong... I want to trust my gut, but I also don't want to scare him off. The way he's talking he doesn't seem like he wants to break it off and he vaguely mentioned himself as a bf even tho he isn't my bf yet.

Am I losing my mind? Someone please say something to calm me... He is coming tomorrow to hang for the day

Posted by happykitsune
A few days ago and more so recently today I've just felt weird about my scorpio...I feel like he's subtly changed. For some reason he doesn't seem as caring...maybe I'm just losing my mind. He kinda snapped at me earlier for doing what he calls "psychoanalyzing". But it's not that...its just a feeling...I get those sometimes and they're never wrong... I want to trust my gut, but I also don't want to scare him off. The way he's talking he doesn't seem like he wants to break it off and he vaguely mentioned himself as a bf even tho he isn't my bf yet.

Am I losing my mind? Someone please say something to calm me... He is coming tomorrow to hang for the day

How many months are you into this with him?

Posted by aliennation
hmm...I think it's normal for people to get into moods periodically, especially if big changes are commencing. As a Gem moon, I'm no stranger to bipolaresque behavior. I can go from hanging up on someone in a huff to back to my normal cheery self like nothing ever happened! 😉

But, it could be that he's trying to detach as well, since he's moving away soon, according to your other thread.

He's not your boyfriend yet though?? I don't know why I thought you said you were engaged to him...well, that says something about my observational skills. xD

Lol nope no where near being engaged. I was thinking the same thing about him being detached due to him moving away. But I'd rather he not. I want to enjoy the time we have left together.

I find I tend to have that bipolaresque tendencies as well. I have a gem rising so no wonder. I think what it is is anxiousness. A lot of big things are happening recently and the holidays aren't helping. Lack of sleep also don't help either >.< But I'm too anxious about tomorrow to go to sleep. More so just about seeing him then anything else.

Posted by OceanDeep

Posted by happykitsune
A few days ago and more so recently today I've just felt weird about my scorpio...I feel like he's subtly changed. For some reason he doesn't seem as caring...maybe I'm just losing my mind. He kinda snapped at me earlier for doing what he calls "psychoanalyzing". But it's not that...its just a feeling...I get those sometimes and they're never wrong... I want to trust my gut, but I also don't want to scare him off. The way he's talking he doesn't seem like he wants to break it off and he vaguely mentioned himself as a bf even tho he isn't my bf yet.

Am I losing my mind? Someone please say something to calm me... He is coming tomorrow to hang for the day

How many months are you into this with him?

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It's only been about 2 months. Which is why I'm kicking myself...I shouldn't be acting this way so soon...or at all for that matter. Can I blame it on my scorpio traits? 😛

Okay, quick thing and then I have to wrap Santas presents while the kids arent here LOL

Don't panic. Don't read into anything. Trust me, okay? It's not you, but it will be you if you let this get the best of you. Whatever he says or does that seems negative, turn a blind eye to for right now. Although I'm in no position to talk, I am the one that can see the forest through the trees, I just don't see the trees while walking through the forest. In other words, I get it more from the outside than I do when I'm in the inside. He's very possibly going to start testing you, to push you away. Not because he doesn't want you, but because he does want you.

Stay chill girl, this is the turning point where things start to become one hell of a ride... so hold on tight, and don't let him win. And don't let go. That's what he wants, but not really deep down. He's trying to prove you wrong and himself wrong, to make a wrong 'right.' Stay strong. One of you has to. If I'm right, which I believe I am.

Posted by OceanDeep
Okay, quick thing and then I have to wrap Santas presents while the kids arent here LOL

Don't panic. Don't read into anything. Trust me, okay? It's not you, but it will be you if you let this get the best of you. Whatever he says or does that seems negative, turn a blind eye to for right now. Although I'm in no position to talk, I am the one that can see the forest through the trees, I just don't see the trees while walking through the forest. In other words, I get it more from the outside than I do when I'm in the inside. He's very possibly going to start testing you, to push you away. Not because he doesn't want you, but because he does want you.

Stay chill girl, this is the turning point where things start to become one hell of a ride... so hold on tight, and don't let him win. And don't let go. That's what he wants, but not really deep down. He's trying to prove you wrong and himself wrong, to make a wrong 'right.' Stay strong. One of you has to. If I'm right, which I believe I am.

A lot of what you said makes sense cus he's told me he may start pushing me away cus he's scared. He thinks its cus I've come the closest to someone he'd wanna stay with. Whether this is true or not only time will tell. But I told him I'm pretty resilient which reassured him. He's not gna let up I guess so I'll just have to keep being strong.

I like the idea of turning a blind eye to negativity. I tried to do that tonight, but anxiety got the better of me. I'm going to start looking at some options to keep that anxiety at bay. Thanks for telling me to chill btw. That's something I really need to do right now.
I'm fairly good at staying positive so I'll try to keep what you've said here in mind. Going to stay strong.

Good luck with wrapping! Merry Christmas!

He actually verbalized his fear? Wow....a scorpio man getting really real on his fear. There's your Christmas miracle!!

Posted by BigGirlPanties



He actually verbalized his fear? Wow....a scorpio man getting really real on his fear. There's your Christmas miracle!!

Yeah I was surprised too, but it's kinda like him. He usually gives me the play by play of everything. Well...except when he surprises me.

I think my main thing is I thought he was above the fear scorpios have so it upset me regardless of if it came from his mouth or his actions. Though the way he's presenting it is a lot like my gem ex did with his fears who also had a leo rising like this scorpio. So maybe the leo in him is making him able to be real with his fears.

Posted by OceanDeep
He's very possibly going to start testing you, to push you away. Not because he doesn't want you, but because he does want you.

I agree w/ that. Scorpios Love to test their partners! It could also be fear in him about his feelings towards you. For me, my natural inclination is to try to push the person away & test them. This is especially true when my feelings for the person is scaring me especially & there are major changes to come. It's not right but luckily my best friend who's a Libra pointed that out to me and now I try to stop myself from acting that way but the desires to push away and test are still there.
STAY STRONG and YOU WILL PASS THE TEST.

I actually think it is the holidays too, because i am experiencing the same problem as you with the scorpio guy im with and if i didnt know any better i would think that we are speakin of the same guy, my guy has been really disconnected but he calls to say im just checkin in, plus he told his grandma and his mom he was thinkin of startin a relationship with me, so i hoestly have a few thoughts in my head but i also had to realize why he would behave like suck, we had a convo the other day where we told one another we were psychoanalyzin each other, he says that i need a lil more faith about what he tells me instead of havin this guard all the way up,

so what is your scorp moon,venus, and mars and yours

One thing too hon, keep in mind that you may go into panic mode too with not knowing what's going to happen. I can't say this for sure, but I can say this of me...being Cancer, and 2nd decan in Scorp, is this: be very careful not to sabatoge things out of fear. Don't overanalyze things, don't push back. This is for you, for you to work on practicing. That Scorp moon of yours is going to start doing things, and your sagginess is just enough spunk to kick it into gear. Continue like you said you were doing, to find alternatives to keeping yourself upbeat, and your anxiety at bay.

I know you're sad to see him leave, but one thing too: Scorps, although very determined in their minds to succeed and have every ounce in them to do so, he may be stressing this move more than what it really is. That's not to get your hopes up, BUT this would be a perfect opportunity for him to sess you out. A lot. Shake things up. A lot. See your reactions. A lot. See what your internal and outwardly makeup is as a person. A lot. See how strong or weak you are. A lot. See how much you care not only about him, but if he moved. A lot. See if you would just up and rearrange your life all because of him. A lot. (Note, that could be good or bad..he may think it bad if you say you'll move all for him, if he feels you would be putting too much of yourself away or on hold for him...lack of independence possibly in his mind).

This is why I cannot stress enough to continue to be yourself, don't waiver, keep showing you are the stable one who will not flinch or go anywhere, that sometimes it's better to have a hard knock in the beginning because not only does it show how supportive you are of each other, it also shows and tests each other's will of their feelings, and if they are serious or not about their partner/relationship. If you need to move it up a notch, your support, love, etc. through words and actions then do that. Just be stable, don't crowd, and be consistent. That's what he needs, consistency during this phase and he's going to possibly do what he can to prove to himself you are not who you say you are or portray yourself as being. He has it in his head that this is now becoming huge, he can't take a risk of being rejected nor failing. So this is where he will turn his focus towards you or against you in a way to really gauge if he's right to be falling for you.

"Well he texted me today saying he's been throwing up all night. I offered to take him some stuff but he said he didn't want to get me sick. I don't get sick easy, so that was out. He finally said he needs at least an hr of rest."

This is what I had typed before my sister came in the room to tell me he was outside and that I should answer my phn. I had left it upstairs cus I figured he'd be napping for at least an hr and I didn't want to be paranoid looking at my phn cus I thought something else was up. Come to find out he wanted to surprise me!
I punched him of course.
I should have known cus I heard some air in the background when I had called him earlier. Stupid me. I'm so trusting.

Anywho, the day went well... He was a bit conservative, but we were around family the whole day. But I guess I wish he would have at least been more gentle with me. He was pretty much just slapping, playing with my hair, or tickling me... I just wanted a hug :/ but he didn't give them to me when I tried to get them....makes me a little worried. I always feel like somethings up when the intimacy drops.

We kissed before he left, but I had to remind him to kiss me...just felt like I was the only one who wanted it, tho he said I didn't seem like I wanted it...so maybe that's bad on both our parts. The kiss was nice tho...

I'm trying to stay strong...I talked to my mom and sister about this. I'm getting a new laptop for Christmas so hopefully this will keep me preoccupied till school starts up again. I really just need to get the focus off of him

Take a breather for a day after this. You're going to get yourself worked up, and it's already starting. I know it's so hard, and easier said than done, but you really REALLY must somehow detach yourself enough to not feel or see things differently. They are different, but dont magnify them through worry. Again, hard not to do. These are natural transitions in relationships as well, AND it is the holidays.

Keep in mind, there may be things going on in that head of his that you are oblivious to. And he showed up to surprise you, that is so sweet and wonderful...remind yourself of that. The hairpulling, tickling and stuff his his way of showing he loves you and being a brat LOL You both are going to becoming paranoid...keep your focus positive, and when needed take a step back. So have fun with your new laptop, put a cool program of some kind on there so you can have fun even more...which will take the focus off of this and him more. Don't detach to protect yourself, detach so that you can think clearly.

@OceanDeep

I did some analyzing today over all thats happened so far and yesterday. Just collecting my thoughts really. Things were better today. Not paranoid and I kept myself busy with super smash bros and family time. He texted me first today and we've been texting each other just fine. Keeping busy has really helped me not to think about him so much and keep a level head.

My family really likes him and I think this helped him ease up a bit on the negativity.

I do like his surprises..they are pretty sweet 🙂
It's always good to hear these are natural transitions in a relationship. Sometimes I forget that I've been through these cus it's been so long... wow, has it really been that long since I've had a serious boyfriend :/