Can't trust my scorpio :(

I don't know the answers to your questions.. I just wanted to say i feel for you. Once you love a Scorpio, you will never get over them. Not completely. Scorpio jackass I'm referring to is still trying to get me back, after 8 years. But he'll SAY that, and never act on it. I'm tired of it. I don't trust him. Put some action behind your words.

If your scorpio realizes you're testing him, it will probably piss him off, jsyk. And we see through it really easily. Gemini's can't really hide anything from us. So.. you might not want to go there. You have to decide, do you want to trust him (and have him in your life) or not? Nobody or nothing is going to change that, and a scorpio isn't going to bend over backwards to prove their loyalty. We expect you to know. Anything less is an insult.

If you dont trust him you should move on. Its just gone be a headache for you cause you gone question every little thing he do....which might annoy him.
Find someone you can trust.

I had the same thing going with my ex. Had a lot of jealousy issues because of my past experiences which drove him away and we did a sorta push and pull for 3 yrs. I wanted to be back with him so bad. I loved him and still do. But now we've both moved on and while I still love him it's more of a love for a brother.

If you love him again I'd get back with him. 4 yrs is a long time for someone to change. I know if it were me I'd want that second chance. I never got it, but if you love him go for it. Don't turn away the one person who could be right for you. His jealousy was just a sign of him caring.

I was not jealous, I didn't have issues to bring into the relationship, I cherished and nurtured and gave and gave, and got bamboozled by the Scorpio. You cannot beat yourself up about the who and why's because you may never get a straight answer from that person. By pondering what happened you can most likely hurt yourself over and over again.

Will I get a valid answer as to what happened in our relationship? I will keep you posted if I ever do, but outlook looks unlikely. (This is the reality and I still live in the same apartment with the Scorpio!)

Also, do feel free to express yourself, I think it is selfish of a Scorpio to want others to be gentle with them, let them slink away, when they do something wrong and betray you, so as long as you aren't screwing over a possibility to get back debts they owe you etc, by all means give them a mention of how disgusted you may be by any wrong doing but don't expect apologies or validation, you have to work on that yourself.

As far as jealousy goes, I have no answer for anyone about that, jealousy to me is again a self-hurtful act, allowing others to hurt you while you do the direct hits to yourself.

I understand a Scorpio will seek intimacy with others because they couldn't bring themselves to stay involved in what mattered LIKE THEIR CURRENT LOVING RELATIONSHIP. So will someone get upset, hurt, frustrated, curious, wondering if they have to get away from that situation, when someone is out doing something other than being with you, working on us? Yeah they will feel all that.

Good luck to you regardless.

Posted by 25thDecan
How did he betray YOUR trust by being jealous? Just asking for clarification. Also, the only way an ex is "back" to any degree is if you allow them back. And....if you allow the emotional abuse brought on by his suspicion. Especially if you did nothing for him to be suspicious of you anyway....

He couldn't stand my social ways, so he basically just lied and made up stories to woo me back. The lies went to far and we just ended upp hurting ech other and it came to a point that I had to leave him!

I agree the only way to make this work is by not participating in it at all, or by being completely immersed in it. Its just so hard. I feel him, but feeling the love is so so difficult given that Im just scared all teh time. If I would start asking for justice, wouldn't it be more a business than love? Then again, am I being a fool. Its just making me extremely moody, and thats just not my nature.

I think I will just let it, he knows its hard for me, guess he will just have to out up with my moodiness for a bit, and if he withdraws, well then he never understood me and if thats case why be with him at all? Its just the distance that is making it all the more difficult for me, or maybe for us.

How do I go about testing him? How do I help myself from trusting him again. How do I let him know how painful it is for me to be with him right now, as much as I want to be with him.

*you need to break up with him. this question is not healthy and this train of thought is deterimental to you and him.

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Posted by 25thDecan
How did he betray YOUR trust by being jealous? Just asking for clarification. Also, the only way an ex is "back" to any degree is if you allow them back. And....if you allow the emotional abuse brought on by his suspicion. Especially if you did nothing for him to be suspicious of you anyway....

because by being jealous and assuming you are being betrayed is showing lack of respect and trust towards somebody else...you are assuming things this person could be doing - wrong way.

I didn't assume. Did I hint this? No, I didn't. I'm saying...how does his suspicion betray her trust? Did this cause her to feel he was he was cheating? Do you get that? Because I feel an argument coming and I'm asking her to clarify...if she wants. Or are YOU saying this betrayed her trust that he wouldn't be that type of person?

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Decan25's observation was first I thought of too.

I understood it as betrayal by thinking mmla was the cheater. That was my guess.

I saw this playing out between Scorpio and Capricorn when both started cheating on each other.

@ mml,

it's hard to suggest you what you should be doing because I've been through similar myself. The chemistry you once felt for each other never changes. It is the dynamics you need to work on. It depends on your ages and how mature or immature he was then.

I would have a hard time making things work with a gemini because I would never feel enough understood or loved.

However, I do have Scorp/Gemini couples around me for who it worked long long years. I think Gemini was burned out along the way. I also believe Scorpio was in constant search of his feelings to be reciprocated by Gemini. Anyway.. they are together happily ever after. It requires work. If you love him so much, try him out at a different phase in his life. Just don't play games. Be communicative please of what you want. What you expect from him. Where he sees you. Where he wants to be in your life.

Posted by heroic_guy
I was not jealous, I didn't have issues to bring into the relationship, I cherished and nurtured and gave and gave, and got bamboozled by the Scorpio. You cannot beat yourself up about the who and why's because you may never get a straight answer from that person. By pondering what happened you can most likely hurt yourself over and over again.

Will I get a valid answer as to what happened in our relationship? I will keep you posted if I ever do, but outlook looks unlikely. (This is the reality and I still live in the same apartment with the Scorpio!)

Also, do feel free to express yourself, I think it is selfish of a Scorpio to want others to be gentle with them, let them slink away, when they do something wrong and betray you, so as long as you aren't screwing over a possibility to get back debts they owe you etc, by all means give them a mention of how disgusted you may be by any wrong doing but don't expect apologies or validation, you have to work on that yourself.

As far as jealousy goes, I have no answer for anyone about that, jealousy to me is again a self-hurtful act, allowing others to hurt you while you do the direct hits to yourself.

I understand a Scorpio will seek intimacy with others because they couldn't bring themselves to stay involved in what mattered LIKE THEIR CURRENT LOVING RELATIONSHIP. So will someone get upset, hurt, frustrated, curious, wondering if they have to get away from that situation, when someone is out doing something other than being with you, working on us? Yeah they will feel all that.

Good luck to you regardless.

I'm sorry to read how love can turn into an arranged environment for two people who once loved each other to a degree wanting to join their lives. It sounds like a vowl, but what I believe happened with your relationship is that your Scorp didn't feel appreciated, loved, or somehow neglected. We need re-assurance. I think everyone needs re-assurance once in a while.

I remember my Gemini mother never hugging me or kissing me as a child. That is also what my pisces brother used to miss about our mother. I've exposed to geminis friends, family, even males. I never dated one. They can excite me, but somehow I never feel the full trust for him. It might be just my judgement. To me gemini comes across as very friendly and I love geminis, but I always have this tingling feel they may

What helped me big time were my old Albums. Recently I went through them and picked photos that reminded me of great times. I saw those lifely eyes of my ex Virgo. I could see on the photos the chemistry and playfulness we had. Then I compared his eyes with how he turned into later in photographs. His inner self had aged. The sparks were gone.

I wondered how he would act with new love. Would those eyes be lively again?

That spark needs to come back and worked on. It doesn't require as much work as with new love. It's just a course you follow to freshen things up and bring life back into the relationship. I like to believe so.

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... drop you like a hot potatoe one day. It's an unsettling feeling. All you can do is assure her that you still love her and want her back if that is what you want. Try breaking that ice.

Posted by Skykomish
a scorpio isn't going to bend over backwards to prove their loyalty. We expect you to know. Anything less is an insult.

Don't prove yourself, but after everything asking me to prove, NOW. I wouldn't mind the tests a little later when he knows im secure, but already?

Don't prove yourself, but after everything asking me to prove, NOW. I wouldn't mind the tests a little later when he knows im secure, but already?

I'm sorry honey, I never said Scorpio's play fair. *hugs*

Uhm, just get away from him then. It's a wonderful opportunity to escape from him. If you have a moment to actually escape a Scorpio, I think you should. You then can think whether you really want to be with that person or not. It's not the only love or only person you are going to get in life. Just saying.

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I agree. Can't believe I'm agreeing with bluemoon, but this time, I do.

Never said you did. I don't care if you agree with me either. I just happen to, and I'm surprised.

aNY SCORPIO MEN IN LOVE WITH...DATING OR MARRIED TO SCORPIO WOMAN? HOW IS IT? DID YOU MOVE FAST? wHAT ABOUT HER ATTRACTS YOU? WHAT DO YOU LOVE ABOUT SCORPIO WOMAN? hOW CAN SHE KEEP YOU SATISFIED?