Charts— Finding them and Understanding them

I'm new here and I keep seeing posts with charts, sun sign versus moon, venus, etc information. What are these? How do you get it? How do you read them? My b-day is 11/05/1967. My interest's b-day is 09/02/1967.

Any help and insight would be appreciated.

I would be clapping too (about being a freak...lol), but...I'm dealing with my first Virgo and it is messing with my brain to the point I don't like it AT ALL! UGH! I've been able to deal with other men (signs) etc, but this one particular man has gotten to me. A friend asked me what was his sign and when I replied "Virgo" she laughed, threw up her hands and cried "oh lord, girl you are in for a rollercoaster ride"

She went on to tell me about her on going experience with a Virgo (she's a scorp also) and their characteristics. It was blowing my mind as his behavior was matching up to what my friend said. That's when I started doing research for myself (and also finding out that I myself isn't crazy...I'm a SCORPIO...lol).

We have made plans to see each other, but they always fall through and I'm starting to think that he's leading me on. A male friend said this guy doesn't want to lose contact with me, but wants to control his availability. Either let's have a go of this or leave me alone!

During one of our recent conversations he mentioned he was at home just watching some tv and I asked if he would like some company...after an ah, um and a pause I told him he didn't need to say any more. He had already given me his answer. He explained that he was in a funk and needed to be alone. I told him I understood and the conversation lightened back up. The following day he thanked me again for being understanding. He even gave me details as to what had put him in that funk.

Sooo, the next day I take the bull by the horns again (ugh) and tell him (via txt) I would like to see him soon. Nothing, no response, no call, nada. This is when my emotions start to run high and I become frustrated. If I can be understanding and respect your needs, then I expect the same thing in return.

I'm ready to give up on him.

BTW QS--I forgot to thank you for the chart information...Thank you!

Thanks again. I will let him do the pursuing, if something comes of it great, if not, as you said I'll be too busy to even notice.

I really wish I could turn off this "all or nothing" mentality. Then I could relax more and just let things flow...UGH!!!! LOL

@ScorsagianX & QS...I feel ya on that one. I need feedback about your intentions and that feedback comes in the form of the pursuit. Because my focus is on the Virgo, I feel disloyal thinking about someone else OR I half heartly give my attention to someone else, because in the back of my mind I'm wishing it was the Virgo on the other side of the table...ugh!

He is the first guy I've ever initiated contact to express that I was interested. I was able to keep my emotions in check initially by doing what QS suggested...keeping myself busy and allowing him to do the contacting. On 3 separate occasions, he has called me out on not hearing from me. I shrugged it off initially, but after the 3rd time I thought I should take notice and make some adjustments. So, I would send a text saying "good morning" or the following day actually call him. All is well until I get that strong urge to see his face. He has a beautiful smile that he tries to keep hidden, but when he smiles at me it brings me joy. It brings joy, because I can see that he trying his best to hold that smile in, but then it just bursts out across his face and I brought that out. So, it feels good. But when he is wishy-washy about us meeting up, I feel the heat rising up my neck, but I quickly put those emotions in check before the heat reaches my ears, bc otherwise I might "sting" him...lol.

QS...I feel that when I am letting go, it comes across as if I'm not interested, hence him stating that we go 3-4 days with no contact before he hears from me again. I need to protect my heart, but also find a way to be open enough to let him in.

UGH!!! Why can't our love interest just submit...like club them over the head and drag them back to our cave and they know they belong to us. LOL!