Confused about cheating Scorpio friend

Hey guys,
My first post here. Also, I don't know much about sun signs and astrology. Only have two Scorpio friends in my life, so very inexperienced, please bear with me ...

Not a while ago, I was struggling with my marriage and I was completely broke, when I approached my male Scorpio friend from college for help. He offered me a job under him, at his company; he had to pull a few strings to place me where I am right now and I couldn't thank him enough for that.

About a month ago, he shared with me that he had cheated on his wife on a few occasions. I was surprised he cheated because he loves his wife. A few weeks roll by, and to my horror, he started making moves on me like smelling my hair and lingering his touch on my skin. I told him, very gently that it makes me feel uncomfortable. Then last week after work, he grabbed me by my waist and if I hadn't stopped him, he would have pulled my top off. I sternly told him to "wake up, snap out of it, this is not happening!", to which he replied, "I can't stop because it's you cobra ... we only got one life to live".

Now never in my living life I know either of us has had any intentions to get together, let alone be sexually attracted to one another. So what is different now? My "vulnerability" because I approached him for help (to him, I am an unforgiving, ruthless goddess planning world domination), or his own marriage troubles? He was always that guy who wanted what he cannot have. Could it be that? But more importantly, if he tries this with me again, how do I tell him off for good without ruining our friendship? Or is it already headed down the drain? Any insights?

Thanks so much.

you may need to seek new employment

I agree with DMV. He may feel like you owe him

DUDE really thinks he's God right now. He really thinks he has you in the bag.

Thats why I always second guess "generosity"..are ppl really THAT benevolent or motive seeking. Its usually the latter. Start that Job search... unless you want to file a Sexual Harrasment Suit. and on your way out.. drop the bomb on his wife for payback. ..freakin JERK.

Lol taurus

Posted by cobragirl
Could it be that? But more importantly, if he tries this with me again, how do I tell him off for good without ruining our friendship? Or is it already headed down the drain? Any insights?

Thanks so much.

What you two have is not a friendship, but a "business" deal.

He got you a job and now you are supposed to give him your... hmmm... well, you know.

Posted by ScorpioFemale79
Lol taurus

I can't help it.. its my Scorpio moon clawing out.. Its definitely what I would do. And after doing it...In my mind I'd be thinking: "BRING it!!"

Posted by TAURUSbelle

Posted by ScorpioFemale79
Lol taurus

I can't help it.. its my Scorpio moon clawing out.. Its definitely what I would do. And after doing it...In my mind I'd be thinking: "BRING it!!"

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My Scorpio ness would wanna say. Leave me alone mothhhhhher fffffffff'r

@ScorpioFemale79: LMAO!!

I would wear a wire. I would lead him on until he incriminates himself on recorded audio. Then I would let him know that he can leave it alone and be professional, and I will leave it alone and be professional

Lol, but I wasn't kidding, real life story to go with it, but not going to share here. That shit pisses me off. It is fucking with your very survival. And when someone fucks with my survival, no rules!

Posted by ellessque
you're not that pissed off if you are worried about the friendship.

what gives?

Is it a cap thing—?

I took that as just some pre-seduction attempt flattery, but now, hmmm...

I wouldn't be pissed but super creeped out. I don't like being touched by a male unless its a hug or I find you sexy otherwise your getting a swift kick to the nutsac

Kick him in the sac!!!!!

Maybe she is not pissed because he got her the job. Maybe if she had gotten the job without any personal favors, and this guy pulled this, we would see a different response

Maybe she feels like shes indebted to hin

All men cheat regardless of sign, except a very few

But this is true of women too, just to be fair...

I've never cheated. I'd dump someone real fast before I'd ever cheat

I've talk this over with my Scorpio male friends...

Conclusions;

The OP has not been truthful in her posting here.

It is she who has cast the net...

Posted by exoskeleton
lol @ the "one life to live" bit. what an ass.

make it clear to him that nothing is going to happen. that you value his friendship, but not if he's going to disrespect you, him, and his wife. how he reacts will tell you if you should drop him or not.

Thank you exoskeleton, I initially felt I should do something along those lines. We've been good friends since we were teens and growing up, we grew to respect each other. Like I said this has never happened before. If he is battling demons right now, I want to help him, but not at the cost of our friendship. But if he has outgrown our friendship and is simply being opportunistic I should know to quit.

So how do I know why is he doing this? He can go cheat with other women all he wants, but why does he want to disrespect me? I'm nowhere in the picture ...

Posted by BlueSandCacoon

Posted by cobragirl
Could it be that? But more importantly, if he tries this with me again, how do I tell him off for good without ruining our friendship? Or is it already headed down the drain? Any insights?

Thanks so much.

What you two have is not a friendship, but a "business" deal.

He got you a job and now you are supposed to give him your... hmmm... well, you know.

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Hmm guess you're right about that "business deal" BluesSandCacoon, maybe in our subconscious minds we have turned into business partners rather than remain friends.

Posted by ellessque
if some guy described me as "an unforgiving, ruthless goddess planning world domination", I imagined he'd be scared shitless of the consequence of tugging at my top.

something is missing from this story.

That was from a long time back when I used to be a vengeful, stubborn, unruly teenage girl. Yes I was scary and people would always think twice before crossing my path. World domination comes from my ambitions; like at 15 I wanted to leave town, move to the city and start my own business.

What is missing from the story is how did we drift apart, when did we stop being friends and become lustful adults with personal agendas. What am I missing here...

Posted by ScorpioFemale79
Maybe she feels like shes indebted to hin

No, I don't feel like I owe him. But that is not to say that I am ungrateful.

Right now I am confused and upset that it has come to this. I don't have many friends and the few that I have are very dear to me. Then again, I'm not a playtoy for anyone and if someone I trust and respect pulls something like this on me, I wouldn't hesitate to, like you put it, "kick him in the sac!"

Posted by Spectre


It is she who has cast the net...

Because what she got two jugs and a fannie?? But the poor guy has got no brains, falling prey, because all blood from his head has been drained into his pants, and so the net theory justifies itself!!

Posted by cobragirl

Posted by Spectre


It is she who has cast the net...

Because what she got two jugs and a fannie?? But the poor guy has got no brains, falling prey, because all blood from his head has been drained into his pants, and so the net theory justifies itself!!

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Then kick him in the nutsac! After he touched you the friendship is long gone!!

Posted by Marrakesha
Wow, I'm sorry this happened to you, but yeah the minute he started making moves on you and crossed boundaries he shouldn't have crossed, the friendship was down the drain and more than likely so is his marriage.

I agree with DMV and TaurusBelle. You better start looking for new employment.

Thank you Marrakesha and all you guys too. Seeking new employment is a sound advice. My Virgo friend however thinks I should stand ground and fight! Guess I am dealing with two things here - the situation itself and this change in him. Right now, I am trying so hard to keep my head above water, keep faith in humanity, that kind of stuff. Guess this will be another important lesson to learn.

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Posted by cobragirl

Posted by Spectre


It is she who has cast the net...

Because what she got two jugs and a fannie?? But the poor guy has got no brains, falling prey, because all blood from his head has been drained into his pants, and so the net theory justifies itself!!

Then kick him in the nutsac! After he touched you the friendship is long gone!!

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Yes that is how I feel right now, angry and upset. But I cannot find my wrath just yet; part of me wants to slap him in the face and ask him "what is wrong with you, jerk?" I don't care about the job, I've been in dumps before, I can look after myself. But I want to know why. This wasn't something he could throw to the wolves.

Posted by ellessque
you're not that pissed off if you are worried about the friendship.

what gives?

I thought I was the only one that caught that...*continue to read post*

Posted by ellessque
unless, of course...you actually like this attention and are hoping for something more than friendship.

:o) that can't be true, because I know me and I'm not the cheating type. A man's loyalty is tested when he has everything. A woman's loyalty is tested when her man has nothing - this precisely is my story.

Posted by ellessque
you guys share way too much personal information with each other about your partners.

you allowed these boundaries to be moved.....now it's up to you to put them back in place.

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I agree, I will have to put those boundaries back in place, even if not for saving the friend or his friendship, but for my sanity and self-respect. Thank you!

Posted by cobragirl

A man's loyalty is tested when he has everything. A woman's loyalty is tested when her man has nothing - this precisely is my story.

I don't have advise to give...
I just thought I'd say I like that comment of yours.
Pretty thought provoking but I suppose also obvious too ...

Posted by ellessque
unless, of course...you actually like this attention and are hoping for something more than friendship. you guys share way too much personal information with each other about your partners.

you allowed these boundaries to be moved.....now it's up to you to put them back in place.

Not bad..

And i thought u were all this while hmmm....

Posted by cobragirl

Posted by Spectre


It is she who has cast the net...

Because what she got two jugs and a fannie?? But the poor guy has got no brains, falling prey, because all blood from his head has been drained into his pants, and so the net theory justifies itself!!

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Really?

Come'on...

U trying 2 justify ur feelings about him ? Stringing him along....?

Angry because he was too forward ?

If u really think he did the unspeakable...

U wont even bother posting something like this here, unless....

No need 4 me to elaborate huh?

Meepppppp. I don't like Internet hostility

She's just disappointed in a friends actions. Surrell feeling ya know?

"Could it be that? But more importantly, if he tries this with me again, how do I tell him off for good without ruining our friendship? Or is it already headed down the drain? Any insights?"



Wow..what a guy. Here's my insight. Friends don't do this to friends. Find another job and tell his wife.😉