DAE have a hard time with dating? (rant)

1. I hate the "who should text first" thing. I never know if I should be texting the guy because "phones work both ways" and "guys are scared of rejection too so you should show that you like them" or "if you text first he will know he likes you and will take advantage of you" or "he'll know you like him and that will scare him off" Is there something so wrong with wanting to talk to someone every day, especially when you don't see them in person all that much? How are you supposed to get to know someone if you don't talk to them?

1a. I hate the "let's see who can pretend to care less" game. Can we not just be upfront about "yes I like you and want to get to know you better" or "I don't like you anymore/I've changed my mind"? I don't care if someone doesn't like me, I'd just like to be given an explanation instead of wondering all the time. There are so many guys I'd like to confront about their doo-doo but apparently if I call them out I'm a crazy bitch....I just hate wasting my time wondering about someone who doesn't care about me. I also hate investing time into dead-ends. I think you can know after a first date/hangout/meetup/chill sesh if you want to get to know someone better or not.

Gender norms suck. Any other Scorp females deal with this, or am I just not normal (or is it in my planets)?

Posted by yamilette7410
1. I hate the "who should text first" thing. I never know if I should be texting the guy because "phones work both ways" and "guys are scared of rejection too so you should show that you like them" or "if you text first he will know he likes you and will take advantage of you" or "he'll know you like him and that will scare him off" Is there something so wrong with wanting to talk to someone every day, especially when you don't see them in person all that much? How are you supposed to get to know someone if you don't talk to them?

1a. I hate the "let's see who can pretend to care less" game. Can we not just be upfront about "yes I like you and want to get to know you better" or "I don't like you anymore/I've changed my mind"? I don't care if someone doesn't like me, I'd just like to be given an explanation instead of wondering all the time. There are so many guys I'd like to confront about their doo-doo but apparently if I call them out I'm a crazy bitch....I just hate wasting my time wondering about someone who doesn't care about me. I also hate investing time into dead-ends. I think you can know after a first date/hangout/meetup/chill sesh if you want to get to know someone better or not.

Gender norms suck. Any other Scorp females deal with this, or am I just not normal (or is it in my planets)?

1. There is hate because there is a so called ego. A bruised ego is too painful than a broken heart.
1a. There is game - dating is a game. If we play it right we're not going to lose. If we disclose ourselves too early then the game is over. It's a process to
like and love someone - we try it first. Only fool rush in.

I'm scorpio but I am not the daydreamer one. Love for me is foundational. I don't need a rush romance and a rush break ups.

Posted by Impulsv
hey after u play it right do u continue playing for the next 30
Years because what ever is left is just u. N if u got them by a facade when u Finally have them they really want u??!

Will u tire of continuing this game forever?

Have u ever locked eyes n loved someone soul. Beyond looks, the mystery beyond the chase, physical sex ect. . I've experienced It so know there is more out there than that.

You know a man who is serious in a relationship. lay down his card and you know when to act on it and what words you have to say.

in reverse you know a man who is just playing cool only to get inside your pants. manipulating the whole situations and acting sweetly.

I am not going to deceive myself to believe all those shadows of mystery.. you know your feelings. you master it. you know how to give compassion.

Yes, I had those moments talking a man with a heart to heart and eyes to eyes , down to his very soul - indeed it was a part of him that frozen ice

had broken. I took 100% shots to work it out. The dosage I took made me think it's not going to work. We cannot control our partner. We only need

to respond.

I am traditional, man leads for awhile, i give positive reinforcement. Besides, venus in Capricorn do not chase.

Also, you as a woman were given all these ways to signal to a man that you're interested. Smile, wear sumthin sort, bend over seducing him. That kinda shit.

I am also an aggressive masculine sag who hapens to be a woman. Much like scorp women, you're aggressive too. Gotta go about chasing in a more underhanded way.

Gotta let the man be a man or youll be left with a boy wearing a skirt. Wondering why he isnt assertive?

Posted by yamilette7410
Is there something so wrong with wanting to talk to someone every day, especially when you don't see them in person all that much?

Jesus Christ, yes! Who the hell wants to talk to someone everyday when you're just starting out? 2-3 times a week on the phone and seeing the person once a week (total of 3-4x week of contact) is more than enough in the beginning. People have lives and need down time to do their own thing---or at least I do. There will be time to spend every waking hour with each other once the relationship starts moving along and you get more serious. You should naturally begin to think "I want to see more of you" not force that type of interaction under the guise of "getting to know you better". What's the rush? In the beginning though, calling me everyday is an easy way for me to block you.

Also, I don't really agree with the idea that you can learn more about someone over text. The ear and the mouth piece on the phone works, no? Too much miscommunication and "distance" with texting. If someone was using that as the main source of interacting or trying to learn about me, I'd write them off as lazy and move on.

Posted by yamilette7410
I hate the "let's see who can pretend to care less" game. Can we not just be upfront about "yes I like you and want to get to know you better" or "I don't like you anymore/I've changed my mind"?

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You set the standards and the rules for your life. You can't really complain about the game if you're playing along. Meaning, there's no reason you can't be upfront about how you feel when you want, without the expectation that the other person do the same. Set the stage for a clear, honest and open relationship and real suitors will follow your lead and do the same. People playing games won't and you know what you're dealing with. If you're holding onto your cards, then you're no better. This whole thing reads as quite passive.

Posted by yamilette7410
There are so many guys I'd like to confront about their doo-doo but apparently if I call them out I'm a crazy bitch....

All depends on the delivery. I'm wondering why you would care enough to want to call someone out for wasting your time though. You weren't a helpless bystander. You go out on a date or two, you feel like you want to see more of Prince Charming, say so. Prince Charming act wishy washy, you don't wait months to figure out he isn't on the same page as you. Keep it moving and put him on the back burner until he'a ready to step up---or not. He gets placed back into the pond with the other frogs. No need to call anyone out on anything. A simple, "we seem to want different things, take care".

I just don't get that invested in people until they give me a reason to.