Dealing with a withdrawn Scorpio.

My boyfriend is really stressed by a lot of things right now. He told me a couple days ago that he needed me to give him space so that he could work through some things on his own. He's also going through withdrawal from a tobacco addiction. He told me he would text me to let me know he's okay because he knows I worry, but he hasn't. He told me to not push him, so I haven't texted. But I am super worried & I don't know what to do. Is this normal for a Scorpio? Should I let him be or check on him?

Lmao @ "tobacco addiction".

ALSO, an additional question about Scorpio men in relationships. I'm Pisces, just for background on us.

So, as I said above, he is going through tobacco withdrawal in addition to other stresses in his life. Before he gave up the tobacco (cold turkey ugh) he was a little down, but still responsive to me. He has told me that he's never loved anyone like he loves me, he misses me (long distance relationship) and I have NEVER EVER doubted that he loves me. Not for even a second. BUT, the crazy girl in me (and I know the distance doesn't help) wonders if he's about to leave me or something. I have read that Scorpios are really loyal and when they say they love you, they mean it... for those of you who know this sign well.. do you think I'm just being crazy or should I worry?

Posted by Arielle83
Okay so he has 1) lots of stress, 2) trying to quit smoking and 3) has asked you for some space

The first two are reason for the last behaviour. You need to back off and quit making it about you. He was clear that he has shit going on so needs to step back and get himself back together. Some people can't do that with someone constantly needing attention from them. He is doing what he says. If you can't take what the man says at face value, maybe you should reevaluate yourself and why you are thinking this way.

I know that it's not about me. I have no problem giving him space. But if he didn't feel like he could check in and just send me a text saying "I'm okay" or something, he shouldn't have agreed to it. The fact that he HASN'T is what is making me wonder & worry so much.

Posted by pinksparkly
But I am super worried & I don't know what to do.

He told you what to do. Your "worry" is about you. Not him.

Posted by pinksparkly
Is this normal for a Scorpio?

I like my space and if I ask for it, I need my partner to respect my request. If I am asking for space vs talking to my SO about it that says a lot. Therefore read my first reply again.

Posted by pinksparkly
Should I let him be or check on him?

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From my experience men generally don't ask for a lot of things. When they do, woman sh*t all over their request. If he's not at risk of doing something crazy (deep depression, suicidal) then I would say he's a big boy and can handle being alone just fine.

I'm not sure about other Scorps, but I don't take space to test people ("does he really care? Will he call to make sure I'm okay"). Usually when a Scorp is taking space it is because they need to sort things out. Let him do that.

What you can do when he comes back around is express your concern then. Not necessarily about taking space, because the man has the right to do that. Talk about his communication style and not following through with what he stated he would do to keep the lines of communication open. Set boundaries about what you also need and hopefully when he does it in the future (because he might) it will look different for the two of you.

Coming off Tabasco is really hard. Give him space