Do Scorpio men play it cool?

Hey all...I am newly dating my first Scorpio guy and I find him a little hard to read! I am not sure if he is holding back, or not that interested and I don't know how to get him to open up a little bit more? He does sometimes but I feel a lt like he is feeling me out to see how I feel or what I think without giving any of his own thoughts and feelings away.

I'm a little shy too but I really like him. He has no idea I really like him yet.

I'm a Leo if that helps!

"Do Scorpio men play it cool?"

They don't have to play the part...they are just cool. 😉

Posted by Twilight77
Hey all...I am newly dating my first Scorpio guy and I find him a little hard to read! I am not sure if he is holding back, or not that interested and I don't know how to get him to open up a little bit more? He does sometimes but I feel a lt like he is feeling me out to see how I feel or what I think without giving any of his own thoughts and feelings away.

I'm a little shy too but I really like him. He has no idea I really like him yet.

He prob won't open up till you have poured your blood and guts down at his feet


Pffff scorpio shit

I really am taken by suprise by how much I like him. Every firework in the universe is going off and I am feeling a bit like this is the guy I have been waiting for. He's like a puzzle but I like everything about him. He's smart, kind, loyal, gentle, strong, thoughtful and just so interesting. Everything about him is like one suprise after the other. When he is with me I feel like the universe stood still.

What are the signs a male Scorpio is into you?

And do I try and play it cool? I usually wear my heart a little on my sleeve.

I know, I don't want to pretend to be something I am not - I just don't want to risk it all if I'm not feeling prettyy sure he likes me a lot too.

I know he is really full on into me when we are together and wants to talk, kiss, touch and really great sex and he is really a gentleman and goes out of his way to look after me. When he sees me he kinda rushes into my arms and just hugs and kisses me for a really long time and I feel like.."wow"...but I guess he's also not too verbal.

Posted by Twilight77
Hey all...I am newly dating my first Scorpio guy and I find him a little hard to read! I am not sure if he is holding back, or not that interested and I don't know how to get him to open up a little bit more? He does sometimes but I feel a lt like he is feeling me out to see how I feel or what I think without giving any of his own thoughts and feelings away.

I'm a little shy too but I really like him. He has no idea I really like him yet.

So you want him to open up about how he's feeling, yet he doesn't even know you like him? Hmph.

What exactly is it you want him to open up about? How long have you been interacting with each other? I'm not sure what else to call it at this point.

Ok guys, let me try and explain a little etter what I was trying to ask for help with.

I am insecure myself but really ike him. It's his birthday in three weeks..I wanted to invite him out with me that night. Stuff like that. I am not ure if he will think I am too forward of if he will apprecite me showing how much I like him.

I usually rebound off other and have only dated for people so I am not the most experienced. Usually guys use words more to tell me where they are at.

I don't know if I am just sex to him or not.

Sorry for all the typos. I am sick right now. I can usually type better

Posted by Twilight77
Ok guys, let me try and explain a little etter what I was trying to ask for help with.

I am insecure myself but really ike him. It's his birthday in three weeks..I wanted to invite him out with me that night. Stuff like that. I am not ure if he will think I am too forward of if he will apprecite me showing how much I like him.

I usually rebound off other and have only dated for people so I am not the most experienced. Usually guys use words more to tell me where they are at.

I don't know if I am just sex to him or not.

😕 this is what you were trying to say in the OP? What the many f*.... These two post are not even close. Here I thought you simply had a crush. Then I read you've been working his pole, but haven't stated how strongly you feel and are lost as to how he feels. Now there's this.

So is it you're sleeping with him and don't know where the two of you stand in terms of a relationship, or you need advice on how to simply ask the man out for his birthday and spend time with you? Seriously, what are you looking for?

Anyway, to address what I think you're trying to ask. If you're usually being used as a rebound by some man, then perhaps take the time to reflect on what you can do differently with this guy so that doesn't occur. Is there some reason you think he's not into you other than the fact that he hasn't actually said the words? Not every Scorp feels the need to verbalized their feelings. They merely express it through action and deed. And no, utilizing a stiff penis regularly doesn't count.

At this stage, I'm not sure why you feeling you can't talk to a man you're having sex with. This isn't about bucking up the courage to simply say "hi" or something. You're well pass that I think. Sounds like you're waiting for him to say something first. It may not happen that way. I know it doesn't with me. That doesn't have anything with playing cool. Some Scorps simply don't communicate very well when it comes to their emotions.

Posted by Twilight77
Sorry for all the typos. I am sick right now. I can usually type better

Typos aren't the issue.

Posted by Twilight77z
He has no idea I really like him yet.

Even though you're dating?

I figured that would be a tipoff of sorts. ..

Okay maybe this will help if I explain better. It's more me wondering if he likes me or not. I feel unsure.

Let me give an example.

My last boyfriend met me, asked me out, we went on a date. After the date he was messaging me like crazy about how amazing it was, how much he liked me and he wanted to know what I was doing, where I was, how I was and to connect emotionally. It was like he could not stop thinking of me. He called all the time between dates...sometimes for like 3 hours a day talking into the night or whatever and just "falling in love" in kind of a passionate way. It made me feel like "wow, this guy likes me" and that gave me confidence to be free to express my own feelings of growing liking towards him. We dated for 5 years.

This new boyfriend is very diferrent. He was interested in me for a while before we started dating and he was the pursuer in the dynamic. We got together and it was all fireworks but his attention dwindled after we got together when I expected it to increase. So my natural instinct is that he was after the thrill of the chase, so I kind of back away as a result. I feel like instead of escalating intimacy he kind of goes back and forth with it which knocks my confidence.

So what I am saying is that with the last few people I dated, I never sat there wondering at all if they were into me because they left no doubt at all. This guy is way diferrent so I guess I have come to worrying that it's purely a physical attraction for him and that he does not want to build real intimacy or a relationship with me. He for sure can't get enough of me when he is with me, but I guess he drops off the face of the earth at times.

I was thinking that I should either try and be patient and see what happens, or if I should ask him flat out or if I should bite the bullet and tell him I really like him. No, I haven't told him that yet, for the reasons above - I haven't felt a full green light so when he behaves distant, I do the same and copy his pattern because I don't want to be rejected.

I was hoping from some info on how Scprpio guys act when they like a girl so I can maybe figure if it fits.

He doesn't seem shy he seems cool and calm and confident and pretty sure of himself.

I don't want to be someone's fallback girl 😢

They're calm but you certainly know if they like you, they can't stay away

Ah ok, well maybe he doesn't then. My gut feels very unsure.

Charts?

Him:

Rising: Sag
Sun: Scorpio
Venus: Scorpio
Moon Capricorn
Mercury: Scorpio
Mars: Libra
Jupiter: Aries
Saturn: Sag
Uranus: Sag
Neptune: Capicorn
Pluto: Scorpio


Me:

Sun: Leo
Rising: Scorpio
Moon: Pisces
Venus: Scorpio
Mercury: Scrorpio
Mars: Leo
Jupiter: Cancer
Saturn: Virgo
Uranus: Scorpio
Neptune: Sag
Pluto: Libra

xxx

Posted by Twilight77
...My last boyfriend met me, asked me out, we went on a date. After the date he was messaging me like crazy about how amazing it was, how much he liked me and he wanted to know what I was doing, where I was, how I was and to connect emotionally. It was like he could not stop thinking of me. He called all the time between dates...sometimes for like 3 hours a day talking into the night or whatever and just "falling in love" in kind of a passionate way. It made me feel like "wow, this guy likes me" and that gave me confidence to be free to express my own feelings of growing liking towards him. We dated for 5 years.

This new boyfriend is very diferrent. He was interested in me for a while before we started dating and he was the pursuer in the dynamic. We got together and it was all fireworks but his attention dwindled after we got together when I expected it to increase. So my natural instinct is that he was after the thrill of the chase, so I kind of back away as a result. I feel like instead of escalating intimacy he kind of goes back and forth with it which knocks my confidence.....

Okay, well it sounds like you need a man that will give you a lot of reassurance and he may not be that type of man. That doesn't mean he doesn't like you. Simply not everyone is going to fawn all over you. You're comparing him to other men that may have simply been more expressive with their emotions. Please stop running with these generalized statements about Scorps constantly calling, constantly staying in touch etc as a sign of interest. Some do, some don't. I personally don't in the beginning and it's not because of lack of interest. There are also too many variables to consider, so keep that in mind. One being the length of time you've been dating.

You seem to be relying a good deal on sex as a way to win this man over. Basically, you were hoping he'd get hooked on the goods and his interest would increase because it has with other men. So rather than communicate what you want and discuss your desire to be in a relationship beforehand, you're here trying to "figure him out".

Posted by Twilight77
...I was thinking that I should either try and be patient and see what happens, or if I should ask him flat out or if I should bite the bullet and tell him I really like him. No, I haven't told him that yet, for the reasons above - I haven't felt a full green light so when he behaves distant...

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Yet, you're still sleeping with him. I simply can't wrap my head around this line of dating because this feels backwards to me. Tell the man you want a relationship and get it sorted already.

No not relying a good deal on sex as a way to win this man over. I have dated 4 men and 1 I had sex with on the first day we met and we were together 5 years. One I had sex with after we dated 18 months and 1 I had sex with after around 3 months.

I have sex with a guy if / when it feels right for me and I sense a connection / attraction and I feel it;s what I am into doing. There as no motive behind it. I wasn;t expecting the sex to be so great or for me to like him a much as I do but you never know what is going to happen.

If anything I wish I had waited because the sexual intimacy before emotional intimacy causes the confusion for me.

As I said anyway....I am not any specialist at this stuff. I haven't dated many people and have had serious relationships with 3 out of the 6 or 7 I have been on a date with so not a lot of experience to draw on.

I am not really expecting to be fawned over, no, that would be gross but I want to sit there thinking "yeah, the guy I am dating really likes me" and dont really feel that way. I feel that way 50% of the time and 50% of the time I am more "huh?" because he's kinda up and down. I have only had experience dating more open / upfront / simple to read men - yes- but we only form our views from our own experience and I am open to the idea not everyone is the same,

Jst wanted to use the "stars" if I could to maybe figure a little what makes this guy tick, if I am just sex to him, how best to get him to open up a little more

Posted by Twilight77
Him:

Rising: Sag
Sun: Scorpio
Venus: Scorpio
Moon Capricorn
Mercury: Scorpio
Mars: Libra
Jupiter: Aries
Saturn: Sag
Uranus: Sag
Neptune: Capicorn
Pluto: Scorpio


Me:

Sun: Leo
Rising: Scorpio
Moon: Pisces
Venus: Scorpio
Mercury: Scrorpio
Mars: Leo
Jupiter: Cancer
Saturn: Virgo
Uranus: Scorpio
Neptune: Sag
Pluto: Libra

xxx

Okay... but LEOs can't have Merc in Scorpio--

only Cancer, LEO, and Virgo.

Posted by Twilight77
As I said anyway....I am not any specialist at this stuff. I haven't dated many people and have had serious relationships with 3 out of the 6 or 7 I have been on a date with so not a lot of experience to draw on.

I am not really expecting to be fawned over, no, that would be gross but I want to sit there thinking "yeah, the guy I am dating really likes me" and dont really feel that way. I feel that way 50% of the time and 50% of the time I am more "huh?" because he's kinda up and down. I have only had experience dating more open / upfront / simple to read men - yes- but we only form our views from our own experience and I am open to the idea not everyone is the same,

Jst wanted to use the "stars" if I could to maybe figure a little what makes this guy tick, if I am just sex to him, how best to get him to open up a little more

Understood. Talk to him.

To clarify my comment about you relying on sex, I meant you are using sex as a way to measure his interest. Basically playing guessing games and assuming intamacy would increase with this man without having to state what you want. You stated this:

Posted by Twilight77
...We got together and it was all fireworks but his attention dwindled after we got together when I expected it to increase.

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My point is, what he does or doesn't do after sex isn't going to tell you everthing you want to know. If this man wasn't much for talking about himself and wasn't very open to you before sex, that won't magically change because you had sex. Maybe it is a Scorp thing idk. I know I don't change who I am simply because I sleep with someone.

What you were expecting and hoping for only comes if a foundation is built with a Scorp. It also come by being clear about what you want and having that conversation. Especially if he has no idea that you want more. You went in with blurry lines and expect them to just be cleared up because of what exactly? Yes, you should have talked about your intentions and desire to be in a relationship beforehand so you know where you stand, but meh that won't change your current situation. So address it with him now. You feel more and would like more, so simply talk to him about it.

It may just be sex for him. You only know if you ask.

Hopefully that made sense. I'm multitasking and didn't read it over.

Wow this is totally my situation. They are DEFINITELY hard to read. I also feel confused with my scorp as well when im with i feel like hes really attracted to me but it is hard to get him to open up. & he is really hot & cold whicg confuses the hell out of me. I guess this is just how they are. We just have to be patient & see where it goes. I want him so bad tho

I also feel unsure of what he wants, the confusion is really irritating me.

I filled in our birth dates online and copied it out...I'm not an astrologer so sorry if I didn't type it correct or the website I went to gave to wrong.

Pheonix yah that makes perfect sense. Thanks.

Libressa, sorry you're in the same boat there. Hard to read huh?!

Posted by Twilight77
I filled in our birth dates online and copied it out...I'm not an astrologer so sorry if I didn't type it correct or the website I went to gave to wrong.

Pheonix yah that makes perfect sense. Thanks.

Libressa, sorry you're in the same boat there. Hard to read huh?!

Very hard to read. Which complicates things being that im an air sign i like to communicate. Me not knowing where his mind is at makes it hard for me to be my usual open self. Although i do FEEL like we're both on the same page i just want his reassurance. usually when i ask him questions he says "i go with the flow" im trying to go with the flow too but its hard when idk where the flow is leading lol.

Sorry you have it on your mind too Libress. It's not a very nice feeling and makes you feel bad. I agree I also struggle to be my usual open self. I genuinely some days have no idea if he is crazy about me or trying to get rid of me. He behavior is so mixed.

I made a decision to move on after thinking on it overnight. For me any good relationship doesn't require me to ask a bunch of strangers..."does he like me?" I should know that without needing to ask a bunch of strangers. I am sure he is a very good guy, but maybe mismatched to me if I need people to be a bit more open. I don't like the uncomfortable way it sits on me and causes me to step back. It's sucked the enjoyment of new relationship away for me.

I am going to talk to him and just be totally honest and say his cagey / up and down ways make me feel bad and an we go back to being friends please.

I think I'd rather date someone who was just easier to read.

Posted by Twilight77
I filled in our birth dates online and copied it out...I'm not an astrologer so sorry if I didn't type it correct or the website I went to gave to wrong.

Pheonix yah that makes perfect sense. Thanks.

Libressa, sorry you're in the same boat there. Hard to read huh?!

Soo... what is it then?

I might do the whole lot again Montgomery because if I mucked up that one I could have mucked others up too. Let me find a better website. i clicked on the first one and it was kind of hard to read the one I went to.

you know he just sent me a message that he'd forgotten basically about our plans together this weekend.

That was the final straw from my end...not interested in being someone's low priority so am going to end it 100% for sure.

Thanks all for the help.

I'll go date someone who acts like they want to date me! Life easier that way.

Try astro.com

Good luck... keep us posted on next week's drama.

There's bound to be a little, at least.

Esp if you have LEO Merc.

that chart I got online was really wrong Montgomery...this is the one I got from another site:

Sun Leo
Moon Scorpio
Mercury Virgo
Venus Cancer
Mars Gemini
Jupiter Cancer
Saturn Leo
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sagittarius
Pluto Libra
Lilith Gemini
Asc Libra

I don't know what any of it means, but anyway!

Not really usually a lot of drama, I guess just a guy who didn't like me that much!

We don't play it cool. We eat your fucking corpse up and make sweet love to it at the same time. Just kidding.

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Posted by Twilight77
Hey all...I am newly dating my first Scorpio guy and I find him a little hard to read! I am not sure if he is holding back, or not that interested and I don't know how to get him to open up a little bit more? He does sometimes but I feel a lt like he is feeling me out to see how I feel or what I think without giving any of his own thoughts and feelings away.

I'm a little shy too but I really like him. He has no idea I really like him yet.

He prob won't open up till you have poured your blood and guts down at his feet


Pffff scorpio shit

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LOL! this.
And even then i still wouldn't hold my breath.
They dont like to open up, they'll never tell you everything, and you'll never hear him tell you to your face "exactly" "everything" he feels for you. NO WAY! You'll do better just watching how he treats you. To me thats the only way to know for sure.