Downward Spiral till Self destruction.

I have a friend with a Scorpio Moon. Uncomfortable with expressing their intensity, unable to find a way to release said emotions in a controlled way, and would rather take out pain on herself than at the surroundings or others. The fact I know this proves I'm trusted, but there is still reservation about showing how intense things can be. Boxing seems like the closest thing, but that's more a crutch if anything. Also refuses to seek help.

Am I only to watch and let the Scorpio self destruct/resurrection happen or is it possible to help in many way?

Sun: Leo
Moon: Scorpio
Mars: Gemini
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Notable aspects:
Sun trine Pluto
Pluto conjunct Moon.
Moon Square Mercury

Posted by Rabbit
Like a prairie fire...sometimes we need to burn ourselves to the ground to start new and fertile.

The best you can do as an outsider sometimes is just do some strategic counter burns in the path of the main fire to keep in contained.

+1

She has to come to these realizations on her own. All u can do is be her support if she seeks it. Chk on her from time to time & see what happens.

strategic counter burns? Create mini-crises of sorts? Can you elaborate or give an example?

I have to re-create the universe every morning when I wake up. And kill it in the evening, which is a bit outrageous, but there you go. Well, maybe not every morning, but maybe twice a year I have to destroy everything. - Bjork (Scorpio Sun, Moon, Ascendant)

Posted by Rabbit
In other words don't be one of those "nice guys" stepping in to coddle her.

To be honest I know that route wouldn't work from the start.
Thanks for the advice all.

Would telling her she can overcome the pain be coddling?

Insane??_

But interesting nonetheless.

My question, what happens after the destruction and '' resurrection''?
Dyou guys actually get over the emotional and psychological pain?

When you start over, dyou actually forget everything you went through before?
Is it actually a new life in which you're happy again?

( I highly doubt it is, I bet you lot keep your '' favorite pain" safe for later)

Posted by Piscescrazy91
Insane??_

But interesting nonetheless.

My question, what happens after the destruction and '' resurrection''?
Dyou guys actually get over the emotional and psychological pain?

When you start over, dyou actually forget everything you went through before?
Is it actually a new life in which you're happy again?

( I highly doubt it is, I bet you lot keep your '' favorite pain" safe for later)

I remember everything that has ever hurt me. I use it to grow and learn, but I do not forget it. Later on, when I see signs of it happening again, I know to approach whatever is happening differently. Sounds a little twisted, but that's how I work.

Well good! cause I'm done trying to ' help' Scorpios anyway -_-

Should have read this thread earlier.
But why do they come complaining to you if they dont need help?

Do they just want somebody to listen to them?

They complain and complain, and any advice you lend is ignored.
However if you figure out a hidden part of their minds for them, they get so happy and jump around like a scorpion on marijuana.

Posted by Shruikan

Posted by Piscescrazy91
Insane??_

But interesting nonetheless.

My question, what happens after the destruction and '' resurrection''?
Dyou guys actually get over the emotional and psychological pain?

When you start over, dyou actually forget everything you went through before?
Is it actually a new life in which you're happy again?

( I highly doubt it is, I bet you lot keep your '' favorite pain" safe for later)

I remember everything that has ever hurt me. I use it to grow and learn, but I do not forget it. Later on, when I see signs of it happening again, I know to approach whatever is happening differently. Sounds a little twisted, but that's how I work.

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That's not twisted. That's wisdom

Well thank you. That makes me feel a little better. 🙂

Posted by Piscescrazy91
Well good! cause I'm done trying to ' help' Scorpios anyway -_-

Should have read this thread earlier.
But why do they come complaining to you if they dont need help?

Do they just want somebody to listen to them?

They complain and complain, and any advice you lend is ignored.
However if you figure out a hidden part of their minds for them, they get so happy and jump around like a scorpion on marijuana.

Usually if I tell someone about my problems, it's for one of two reasons.

1. I respect them and I am generally interested to hear their take on the situation. I take what they tell me (experiences they've had etc) and use it to help me through a problem.

2. I love them and I just want someone to empathize. I don't want them to help. Just to listen to me and nod. Maybe share a drink with me or something. I only do this with people I truly do love.

Posted by Shruikan

Posted by Piscescrazy91
Well good! cause I'm done trying to ' help' Scorpios anyway -_-

Should have read this thread earlier.
But why do they come complaining to you if they dont need help?

Do they just want somebody to listen to them?

They complain and complain, and any advice you lend is ignored.
However if you figure out a hidden part of their minds for them, they get so happy and jump around like a scorpion on marijuana.

Usually if I tell someone about my problems, it's for one of two reasons.

1. I respect them and I am generally interested to hear their take on the situation. I take what they tell me (experiences they've had etc) and use it to help me through a problem.

2. I love them and I just want someone to empathize. I don't want them to help. Just to listen to me and nod. Maybe share a drink with me or something. I only do this with people I truly do love.

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Okay thanks for clearing that to me.
Next time I'll probably just nod in reply :'D

Posted by Piscescrazy91

Posted by Shruikan

Posted by Piscescrazy91
Well good! cause I'm done trying to ' help' Scorpios anyway -_-

Should have read this thread earlier.
But why do they come complaining to you if they dont need help?

Do they just want somebody to listen to them?

They complain and complain, and any advice you lend is ignored.
However if you figure out a hidden part of their minds for them, they get so happy and jump around like a scorpion on marijuana.

Usually if I tell someone about my problems, it's for one of two reasons.

1. I respect them and I am generally interested to hear their take on the situation. I take what they tell me (experiences they've had etc) and use it to help me through a problem.

2. I love them and I just want someone to empathize. I don't want them to help. Just to listen to me and nod. Maybe share a drink with me or something. I only do this with people I truly do love.

Okay thanks for clearing that to me.
Next time I'll probably just nod in reply :'D

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Don't forget the drink part. That's essential. Ha ha!