kt22
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Both good answers from p-angel and exo in my opinion.
Posted by exoskeleton
short answer: pride.
scorpio men have a ton of it and want to handle things on their own. he doesn't want his stress on your head, so even though he needs you he doesn't feel good about it.
I can understand that too... thats understandable to his actions. I guess backing off and not being emotional is the best take.
Haha..I can so relate to you're brother...But basically P Angel nailed it..you will never get the emotional gratifcation you seem to need from him for 2 reasons..
1. He's a Guys..thats a little soft to run to your sister for help when you're in trouble (thats up there with my girlfriend beating up someone because I couldn't)
2. Pride
The reason he's hot in cold about this is simple...We don't like asking for help at all and when we do..we've come to the conclusion that we can't do it ourselves and that we HAVE to ask for help...We literally have to be forced into the situation. Also, it seems like he feels bad for needing your help in this regard. I hate asking for things..especially money. We like to do it on our own..as far as him snapping at you.."I'm not worried about who wants to help me later but who can help me now" kind of statements..that's just stress and at that moment..he thought you were going to be the actual solution to his problem..hearing he has to wait a little longer probably irritated him a little. All in all..just tell him to keep hustlin and watch his ass...He'll get everything straight..us dark side Scorpios always find away..its just usually in crunch time :-| I've been in the exact same spot...Just help anyway he allows you too..if all he wants is money, then so be it..he's not gonna lay on a couch and confess all his drug dealing issues so hang it up.
1. He's a Guys..thats a little soft to run to your sister for help when you're in trouble (thats up there with my girlfriend beating up someone because I couldn't)
2. Pride
The reason he's hot in cold about this is simple...We don't like asking for help at all and when we do..we've come to the conclusion that we can't do it ourselves and that we HAVE to ask for help...We literally have to be forced into the situation. Also, it seems like he feels bad for needing your help in this regard. I hate asking for things..especially money. We like to do it on our own..as far as him snapping at you.."I'm not worried about who wants to help me later but who can help me now" kind of statements..that's just stress and at that moment..he thought you were going to be the actual solution to his problem..hearing he has to wait a little longer probably irritated him a little. All in all..just tell him to keep hustlin and watch his ass...He'll get everything straight..us dark side Scorpios always find away..its just usually in crunch time :-| I've been in the exact same spot...Just help anyway he allows you too..if all he wants is money, then so be it..he's not gonna lay on a couch and confess all his drug dealing issues so hang it up.
Well i am a scorp and i did the drug game...sounds kike he may have a problem as well i did and eventually ended up in rehab! Fortunately it
Only took me one trip, but i did wait 14 yrs...i eventually haf to go to my older bro for 16k to fix a situation with an italian guy...then 2 yrs later my dad had to fix another one that was abiut 10k...scorps always always think we can fix it on its own when it goes way wrong is when we get emotional and hate to ask for help...scorps amd drugs dont mix we can sell the shit out of them and be the man, but when getn high we do it all amd have to be the best at getn high! I see this now full circle! It masks the yearning feeling wr live with...get him help now and he will thank u later
Only took me one trip, but i did wait 14 yrs...i eventually haf to go to my older bro for 16k to fix a situation with an italian guy...then 2 yrs later my dad had to fix another one that was abiut 10k...scorps always always think we can fix it on its own when it goes way wrong is when we get emotional and hate to ask for help...scorps amd drugs dont mix we can sell the shit out of them and be the man, but when getn high we do it all amd have to be the best at getn high! I see this now full circle! It masks the yearning feeling wr live with...get him help now and he will thank u later
Posted by ScorpioMackin
Haha..I can so relate to you're brother...But basically P Angel nailed it..you will never get the emotional gratifcation you seem to need from him for 2 reasons..
1. He's a Guys..thats a little soft to run to your sister for help when you're in trouble (thats up there with my girlfriend beating up someone because I couldn't)
2. Pride
The reason he's hot in cold about this is simple...We don't like asking for help at all and when we do..we've come to the conclusion that we can't do it ourselves and that we HAVE to ask for help...We literally have to be forced into the situation. Also, it seems like he feels bad for needing your help in this regard. I hate asking for things..especially money. We like to do it on our own..as far as him snapping at you.."I'm not worried about who wants to help me later but who can help me now" kind of statements..that's just stress and at that moment..he thought you were going to be the actual solution to his problem..hearing he has to wait a little longer probably irritated him a little. All in all..just tell him to keep hustlin and watch his ass...He'll get everything straight..us dark side Scorpios always find away..its just usually in crunch time :-| I've been in the exact same spot...Just help anyway he allows you too..if all he wants is money, then so be it..he's not gonna lay on a couch and confess all his drug dealing issues so hang it up.
Thank you this reply helped so much! If you can relate to him a little bit than maybe i am the one over reacting. I think the pride thing is a huge aspect of this other than him just being un emotional. He is my older brother and I have never seen him in this kind of dark light so to speak. I guess now looking at it I can see how it would be more uncomfortable for him than me. I appreciate your answer as it helped me put a better aspect on it rather than thinking I was doing something wrong.
Thank you so so so much
Posted by exoskeleton
short answer: pride.
scorpio men have a ton of it and want to handle things on their own. he doesn't want his stress on your head, so even though he needs you he doesn't feel good about it.
indeed
All above seem on the right track.
If you really want to help, you should:
Determine the amount owed.
If it is within your reach - you take the $ $ $ to whoever.
Why? That way your addict brother won't spend it on drugs
and end up getting hurt or killed AND you are out the $ $ $ .
There is indeed high probability that if he was not doing
drugs before the problem, then he is now, due the stress.
Do not confront him about it until AFTER this issue is over.
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