Figure this out male scorps

I'm a female scorpio and I have the hots for this scorpio guy.We are aquainted. We don't really talk, never had a one on one conversation we just saw each other around, said Hi and little things or comments. I let him know in a friendly way that I want to know him and gave my # 4 him 2 contact me. He still smiles my way, but he hasn't attempted to make a move. I'm pretty straight 4ward and don't waist my time waiting around for prince charming. I make things happen. But he gives me no other choice.
Are u scorpio men quiet by nature? Shy even?You sure make up for your quietness with that sexy body language. When u like a girl do u tend to wait around for the right time, make a move asap, or kind of let things be which ever way the wind blows? Maybe he just doesn't know that much about me,(I'm pretty mysterious)and can't start a conversation, but where there's a will there's a way. How might I get his full attention w/out being slutty? I really want to get to konw him, but He has to also. I may be rushing, but a phone call would be all it takes to give us a boost. I'm sure U have expeienced similar situations and have some good insight.

amazon

Maybe he is a happily- married man—

Do you fit the handle description (Amazon)? Maybe he is turned off by a large women—

You guys make me laugh,😄 I'm not a large woman, and go to High school. He's my age and single. I'm just very sure of myself, and I may not be a woman weight champion, but I am a strong character. As you can see I still need some help every once in a while. Give me something good now, wiil you?

I'm in shape and actually skinny. Not to brag, but I do attract a lot of male attention, including his. But I'm not slutty at all. I'm well rounded, including a good head on my shoulders, and people say great smile. He's like me, in that way. Is he playing hard to get?

Of course you are! It goes without saying because YOUR A SCORPIO!!! Relax and stop wanting what you can't have so damn bad!!! Let love find you; your soul connection is out there in one of the crowds your in. Go find him. Keep your eyes open and be on the lookout. And let me tell you, HE WILL FIND YOU!!!! That is what I am picking up off of you! From now until December, you might seriously think you died and went to heaven!!!

I'm really frustuated. Every one is telling me to wait. I've already experienced the waiting phase and nothing good came out of it, that's why now I have the go for it attitude. Every one says I want what I can't have. How do u know I can't have him? That is just an excuse to me. "Oh! I can't have him, so let it go." Nothing comes w/out hard work. Truth is I could have him, so why say I can't? It won't be bcuz I'm not good enough, and if he thinks he's too good well that's not my problem. I can't depend on him to find me. What if we alrady found ea. other? That's why I want to get to know him. How hard is that? I know a lot about him, but he doesn't know that. My resources are unknown to him, so I have a jump start. Unless he has some resources he knows very little about me. WILL someone answer my original questions please? And not tell me to sit on my behind and wait like SLEEPING BEAUTY. That's so old fashion. Girls should go for what they want even in love. And guys should appreciate that and be thankful. But guys are too shy it might take a life time for them to make a move, SO FOR ALL U GUYS OUT THERE, BE A MAN AND MAKE THE MOVE IF U SEE HER LOOKING UR WAY AND SMILING, I'TS NOT THAT HARD!!!!!!!!!!!! WHY WAIT, WHY HESITATE, WHY SO AFRAID OF REJECTION? WORLD IS NOT GOING TO END, AND IF SHE DOES REJECT SHE WON'T BE MEAN ABOUT IT LIKE SOME GUYS ARE. THAT'S HOW WE WANT OUR MEN TO BE, BRAVE AND NOT AFRAID TO COME UP AND TALK TO US. AND IF U WON'T AND WE COME TO U DON'T BE A JERK AND ACT TURNED OFF WHEN U DIDN'T HAVE THE GUTS TO BREAK THE ICE IN THE FIRST PLACE, WHEN U LIKED US. Yeah girls kick ass!! And there are many of them like me out there. JUST DO IT

One more thing men or guys , whatever, don't know how to interpret the situation when a female makes the first move. They feel intimidated, like we are in contol, they think she's easy, they have no fun chasing. WRONG. MEN like that chase RIGHT?. BUT AIN'T CHASING like they should.If they wanted control they'd go out of their comfort zone and do somthing. So we have the right to approach first if u ain't chasing. DO ALL MEN WANT TO MAKE THEIR FUTURE LOVER WAIT? THAT'S LIKE SAYING "I WANT TO WAIST YOUR TIME, AND WHEN I'M READY U WIL BE THERE WAITING AND READY." We have a life, goals, & dreams to chase too and won't wait around for some "grandpa" or "5 year-old scared of girls boy" man to come and ask us out or sweep us off our feet. Ain't worth it!! WE WANT TO SEE HOW HARD YOU ARE TRYING TO WIN US OVER. HOW MUCH U VALUE US AND RESPECT US. WHAT MOTIVATES U? IF YOU THINK THAT LOVE WILL JUST FALL IN UR LAP IF U WAIT AND DO NOTHING, U GOT SOMETHING COMING. MEN SHOULD TAKE A CLASS IN WHICH THEY WOULD GET WOMAN EDUCATION. AT 21 they still don't know how to do it right.I'm very relaxed thank you. AND IF U THINK THAT I NEED MAN EDUCATION , EDUCATE ME. I'M LISTENING. I'm not making a big deal, I want to know the reactions to what I had to say,MAKE SOMEONE WANT TO PROOVE ME WRONG SO I CAN GET SOME ANSWERS.

Ok, Amazon woman, wrestle him to the ground and throw him over your shoulder and take him hostage!! Your gonna do what you want anyway, right!! You are only wanting someone to give you that little extra support; isn't that what this is all about. If you feel like your on the right track, then make your move. Don't listen to what he say's watch what he does. If you want to hunt him down, then do it!! I know one thing, the more you push a Scorpio into trying to do what you want them to, the more they will refuse!! They hold their own council when it comes to important decisons(like a mate); they will listen to themselves and NOBODY ELSE.

Thanx that's what I wanted to hear. Any ways I only put Amazon at the bottom because I saw the amazon.com search right next to my comments box, It was spontaneous. Couldn't think of anything else.

Scorp male 25

Haven't written anything on this board in over 6 months ... please bear with me.

Some of my own personal opinions to your original questions [opinions, not laws you flamers :-) ]

Thinking back to my own highschool days, I remember being hit on by at least 8 different girls. In each case I was turned off by the fact that

1. I wasn't the one initiating (i.e. I didn't have the control - a biggie on a Scorp's wish list)

2. I generally distrusted 'aggressive' girls and perceived them negatively as sexually promiscuous which is a big turn-off for a Scorp male on the noble end of the spectrum. (Generally this flavor of Scorp demands utter and complete faithfulness and purity - a promiscuous Scorp wouldn't care)

3. I was offered everything from phone numbers, meals, free car rides to invitations to come over and watch porn (yeah, you read that correctly) by these girls, and these 'freebies' just set off my DISTRUST and SUSPICION even more. "What's your angle? What are you setting me up for?" Suspicion ruled the day.

Some other generalities: In high school, I don't think I was really ready for any sort of deep relationships. I was simply too busy indulging my curiosity and intellect to really care. Also, as a scorp, I tended to prefer anonymity and my own company, tending to shut everyone out and only let quality people into my life. As far as sexuality, I abstained as I couldn't bring myself to trust anyone with the sensitivity and scope of my sexuality until later - at the same time thoughts of unplanned pregnancies and other responsibilities scared the s**t out of me. Nonetheless, during the last 2 or 3 grades, the inner world of my imagination was rife with constant fantasies and scenarios. You would've been shocked.

I think the boy you like isn't so much shy as unsure of himself and his power and how things work in his world. I guarantee you his inner world is very alive with relationships and sexuality - a scorp's mind is always running. As far as the two of you getting together, two true scorps together is a pretty intense combo - mostly because there will be a constant struggling for control. Something to consider, because it will color every aspect of the relationship. At his age and experience level, the sex will probably be more quantity than quality - watch out for jealousy, though. You'll have to make a conscious effort to constantly reassure each other of your mutual faithfulness. On the positive side, his devotion should be incredibly intense and his romantic/sexual qualities would match yours. Both of your intellects would also be matched well, especially the desire to dwell on "deep" subjects and cutting through bulls**t to get to the heart of the matter in different situations. Consider all of the factors before you start tip-toeing into this pool - there is a lot hidden in it.

Oh, almost forgot. Ironically enough my first (and in my opinion best) girlfriend got through my defenses and snagged me as her boyfriend. Wanna know how? I'll tell you next week.

Kiddiiiiiing .... (heh. couldn't resist)

Well, she did what I believe you should do if you're still wanting this scorp male of yours. She was PERSISTENT in asking me out. I think she actually asked me out at least 15 times over a 2 month period. Eventually I just gave in. In my mind I figured she earned the chance to have some of my time. Weird, huh? Once the relationship started, I took over and she made it easy by being ecstatically happy with anything I came up with for us to do together.

So, my game plan would be to very matter-of-factly ask him out constantly until he gives in. Make sure it's a no-pressure type of question, as if you don't care either way. Anything else will probably just make him put up his defenses. As far as him initiating anything, I don't feel he's sure enough of himself to be the leader

Thank u so much! I can't say it enough on how much u've enlightened me. I appreciate ur response greatly, thank u for taking the time to help me and write such a great response.
I totally understand what u have written and it sounds very acccurate, as in real life stuff.
U almost got me with the "I'll tell u next week". U were gonna give me a heart attack, all that climax was still building....and then stop.
COol, I've never gotten such a complete answer ever, By the way are u still with ur best gilfriend? Hope this isn't too nosy; If u guys broke up, since I too want a deep and lasting relationship, is there anything u learned from ur experience that would do me good to know in the future? Just wondering nothing here suspicious.
Ur plan sound like a good one to follow, and make no mistke I'll give it a try. Hope it'll work as good as the first time.
Now I'm more sure on myself because I got feed back from a scorpio, my kin, and I had the same feelings about my problem as u (he might think I'm controlling,easy) but now I know i was on the right track.
Again I'd like to show my gratitude with a humble and sincer Thank You.

male scorp 25

Hey, no problem. Like you said, we're kin. Scorps need to stick together more often - it multiplies the power.

I had to let that girlfriend go because of her choice to continue her education out of town. I simply loved her too much to stand in her way, even at the risk of losing her. It was painful for a short time, but I'm glad because I have nothing but good memories. I've yet to find anyone who came even close to her.

Lessons learned? when I enjoy people I'm close to without trying to own, control, or change them things stay stable and I feel less threatened ... a person's belief in me releases incredible power and leadership in my psyche, giving me incredible clarity ... that if I focus more on giving into a relationship rather than expecting something from it the positive energy and emotion just skyrockets ...

It was a great relationship. No stings at all.

take care

p.s. I forgot to mention in my last post that when that girlfriend was originally asking me out, I didn't detect the faintest trace of deceit or guile like just about everyone that asks me out to this day. What struck me most was simply that she enjoyed just being close to me for her own reasons (which only she knew). She wasn't trying to bribe or come on to me, she simply wanted to be close to me. There wasn't the disturbing sense of selfishness I sense from most of the people I come across from day to day.

Male Scorp ...can I ask what sign your ex girlfriend was ? I'm just curious. I'm a scorpio myself , and I am talking to another scorpio who is in another state. We seem to have communication problems , and I always feel so suspicious of him and wonder if he does me as well. He thinks I hide things and I'm not open enough about my feelings and thoughts. I do admit , I have issues about opening up until I know someone well. It's not like I'm intentionaly hiding anything. He confuses me at times. He can seem so caring , and then the next day so short on words and so distant. Any advice ?

Dear male scorp 25, this is the girl whom u gave the super response to. Thanks again, and I hope one day from the bottom of my heart, that u will find someone who will be even better than ur past girlfriend. U deserve it, with that kind of personality, soul, and depth. That's rare these days. Wish there were more like u, Ok I don't really know u. But from what I know I can tell u are a good man.

I admire and applaud you for what u did,the higher thing to do, let her go because u loved her so much. I did that once, and as much as it hurt it made me feel like I did the right thing, and almost prooving to myself that I loved him because I wanted the best for him and didn't want to be slefish and cut his chance at a better life...I know I'd love to be loved that way by someone...We must belong to that better, superior species of scorpios.

But U know what? This is bizarre. I feel the same way about this scorpio as your girlfriend felt about u. I just feel good being close to him. It feels like home. I would never want to try to bribe or come on to him. Or be selfish like that. There must be something about scorpio men. I know what it is but I can't describe it.

Good luck my friend.

-*dust

It feels like I'd known him 4ever.,And It gives a sensation like there is nothing to be scared of and he would never hurt me. I hope that's how it really is.

-*dust

Hi...I am a Scorpio woman and I flinch when I see females chasing a man. I do not believe that most men respect what comes easiely to them.
I also figure if he can't see what an awsome person I am, its really his loss and he is not worth my time.

Well, Im not a scorpio but i say "here here" to that. I think that if you chase someone you are coming away from the crease and that is a dangerous place to be. I also believe that the pattern for a relationship is set very early on in the piece and if you are the eager one at the start then the other person will take you for granted because he/she knows how far you will go. The beginning of a relationship is all about testing boundries and if some people know you will step away from the crease, they will stay behind theirs and have nothing to lose, whereas you will have everything to lose.
ML.

That is a very wise response; I never thought about it that way. Thank U ML

-*dust

Dear 64.12.103.37,

I believe that certain girlfriend was a Gemini with a dominant Capricorn or Aries influence. Hard to say, I'm not too familiar with those signs. Definitely not a run-of-the-mill Gemini, though. Of that, I'm sure.

As for your second question, I think that deserves its own thread as to avoid messing up this one. Look under "Long Distance Scorps" for my opinion.

It has been my experience that Scorps sabbotage their own relationships by suffocating their partners... It is not possible for ANYONE to be happy in a relationship when you have to be aware AT ALL TIMES of your behaviour (his jealousy which is totally unfounded) and who you may and may not be friendly with, (not to mention the fact that you have to account for your every move) (you are even expected to disown your own family because he is not even willing to share you with them) etc. etc. Scorp moods and criticism of people, their unrealistic ideals for their partner, their suspicion, their over active immagination etc. etc. It is so sad because it is usually totally unnecessary when you know that the particular Scorp is a wonderfull person at heart but won't believe you telling him so and refuses to believe in himself. Why so insecure?? (Had a brief relationship with one who was very good looking, very good lover, very attentive, very intellegent, etc. could even be very gentle at times, (very cruel other times), but for the above reasons, it was destined to fail). (He was 28 at the time)

I am the person who wrote a previous message about dreaming of the perfect lover... He was almost THE ONE and could have been ... if we could have lived on some deserted island..

Yet he broke my heart and almost destroyed me..

Reading Scorp 25's message has woken all the feelings and memories.. Good and Bad...

The perfect Lover in heart, mind and soul but not able to have a sensible, stable relationship with a mere mortal like me...

I am now married to a LEO. He is a wonderful husband and has the generous heart of a lion..

BUT HE IS NOT THE LOVER I FOUND IN THE SCORP...

Does Scorp 25 have an opinion??

The melancholy almost brought a tear to my eye. The thing is we are both scorpios and can work together to make things and fantasies happen. I'm sure it won't end up that bad.

-*dust