scorpios, a little help?

U get a guy's #
he asks 4 yours
he calls u
u talk and find out about ea. other
u have things in common
u talk every day
he wants to know personal things bout u
u get 2gether after 2 weeks of talking and not seeing ea. other
u go out
u like each other
girl makes move on guy
Guy goes w/it(hint, he really doesn't want to)
u part at the end
he never calls back
girl calls and he always can't talk
says he'll call back but never does
girl calls and talks to guy (finally)
he says he wants to be friends
girl feels good to hear the truth
girl says fine and wants to be friends like before
girl asks guy to call her
he says he will
never does
girl wants to talk but guy doesn't
all she wants is to be told the truth
then she will have no problem
she will never hear it(sadly)
she won't call and try to make him say it
wants to make guy feel guilty for his actions(he might be)
thinks he is an ass
he doesn't care
she wants revenge
can't get it
he's too far
she lets go but it still haunts her

What to do?

are you a scorp too?...

believe me i know how you feel.

let go of it, no vengence. you will regret it. what are you going to acomplish with getting him back?... completely nothing but the satisfaction of being the upper hand. don' waste your time with that petty crap.

find another guy. so what if you made a mistake of making the move because he lead you on. don't grip the unattainable.

hope you find bliss with someone that is right for you.

I feel for ya, but I-sun is giving you the best advice your probably gonna get!! As long as you remain in that space, your never gonna stop obsessing about him. Let it go, and move on to something more fulfilling and healthy. Your losing your self respect by letting him stay in your head. Why would you want to be with a guy who acts like that? Do you like being hurt? I don't think anyone one enjoys rejection, but it isn't going to kill you. It is your pride that is hurt and that is all!!

Thanx! you guys are 100% right. My pride was hurt and that's why. I will listen to you guys and move on, I won't lose my self respect over that.Case closed.

Good for you, that's exactly where your head should be right now. This guy sounds like a real winner 😢 --I wish you the best of luck, and remember that one man's trash is another man's treasure, and since you're not trash, you're going to be some nice young man's favorite thing very soon--especially if you exude that confidence in yourself.

love,
phoenix

you'll be fine...
kind like phoenix's quote...

"if you let the bird go and it comes back to you, then its meant to be. if it doesn't, it's meant to be free"(billy corgan... vh1 storytellers).

i know its cheesey but its the only way i could think of because i was just watching the smashing pumpkins' storyteller episode in vh1... besides its very optimistic.

What happen if you set it free but it won't leave and sits on your couch and eats and sleeps all day! I guess he thinks its free too!! I'm thinkin of putting an electric fence around the place!!!!

Honey,

Fuck him, I mean forget about him. He's a LIAR. He LIED TO YOU. Doesn't that tell you about the kind of man he is— Besides, most men lie anyway. More so than women.

hey, im a man... i resent that

not all men are

I have been married for 20 yrs now and not once i have lied like that to my wife

good for you

She must give damn good head then!!! Because not lying about sex for 20 years is kind of f*** odd. I mean everyone has a few secrets we keep. Especially men!!!

Or, what the hell is wrong with you anyways—?

Even former President Clinton like to hide the knockwurst now and again...

what's knockwurst?

lol

phoenix

P.S: i-sun, did you catch the Dave Matthews Storyteller on vh-1 the other week? It was apparently a repeat, but it was very interesting--he did a beautiful "Crash" : ) Which by the way, if you want to know if a guy's *really* into you, ask him if he'll "drink you sweetly". I'm kidding. But I love the bird analogy. : )

i did watch that episode by the way, and loved it!.. DM is just the best in live performances.

phoenix, crash was the best part in that whole live concert... he was pretty funny about the hanging wannabe turd. LOL.

oh yea, drink you sweetly... how do you want it?

lol. jk

Afterall you made the first move even when you sensed he didn't want to go w/it. Now your angry because he's not interested. Don't push for the truth you may not like it. Just let go, learn and move on. Anger and revenge only make you bitter and ugly. Think more of yourself and choose your battles wisely.

Some guys aren't comfortable with an assertive women, they like to believe they're in control. Next time take a little more time, maybe go out again or a couple of times to find out what a guy's really like one on one (in person) before you decide you really like him and get w/it. Trust me if you go out again, you'll find out if he's worth your time.

People can be anything they want on a phone, and tell you anything you want to hear (operative word "want".) Hearing and listening are very different, if you listen real well you might be able to tell the difference.

Best regards,

Lily Nightbird

I posted this, and I want to say that I thought he wanted to hold my hand when he placed in infront of me So I thought it was ok to close my fingers.(that was the big move! not even!ha?) He didn't have 2 if he didn't want to. We weren't walking and holding hands, we're just sitting next 2 ea.other. And after a break he was the one who reached out for my hand again. I only found out that he really didn't want to hold my hand when he said on the phone he just went with whatever I did, and he didn't know why he did? So then he says I just want to be friends. That's fuked up, in my opinion.I want to hear the truth. That's all it matters to me. I would rather have it hurt than have him lie to me in my face. I didn't ask him to lie, the so called hurtful truth would actually heal me instead of hurt me. Some people would rather not want 2 hear it, if it hurt, but I'd want to know. Why keep hiding,and lying? I won't stick my head in the sand like an ostrich and pretend like the cheetah is not going to eat me because I can't see it. I'd hurt me 100times more for him to keep lying then for him to tell me straight he don't want to talk to me or be my friend. I don't care for him anymore, he's not worth my precious time, which he already wasted because I let him. It was a waste of my emotions too. Why play with my mind like that, I was salways being honest when I talked to him. But we haven't talked on the phone for more than a month now, and I'd never go with his sorry a** anywhere even after I die. I have better things to do. I'm not angry because he isn't interested but because he dared lie to me so many times. I really thought he was someone else, but I was wrong. HIS LOSS! & YES, I AM A SCORPIO.

Scorpio friend,

If you hate being lied to and used as much as I do, try to forget about him and immediately date someone else or hang out with friends. It'll get your mind off him. he can go hurt someone else. I'm a Libra and one thing Libs and Scorps dont like is being manipulated.

Right on! I love your response!!! This is the one who posted this topic. I already moved on, and am looking elsewhere. COOL, I was with a LIBRA once, we were so honest with each other I miss that. HE manipulate me, and won't forget or forgive him. I wish one day he would be enlightened and know how wrong he was. IT's true.