Flirting in your 40's

It has been over a decade since I went on an actual "date" with anyone but my ex-husband. I finally met someone last week that I am attracted to who is in the appropriate age range and also single. He initiated the conversation and we found that we have quite a few things in common. After a few minutes we exchanged "nice to meet you", shook hands and parted ways. We were both with groups of friends and I figured he was just being courteous while waiting for the bartender to refresh his drink. I really didn't think much about it until I ran into him again last night.

He went out of his way to come say hi and gave me an awkward side hug (I wasn't expecting the hug so it wasn't very smooth but we managed). We exchanged a few pleasantries and then he went back to his friends like the last time. However, when he came back to refresh his drink he managed to sit right beside me again. I turned and wished him a Happy Veteran's Day and thanked him for his service which got everyone around us thanking him and wishing him well also. He mentioned how nice it was seeing me again. Before I could say anything else the person to my left pulled me back into their conversation (this put my back towards him). I didn't get a chance to say another word to him but as he was turning to leave he put his hand on the small of my back for a second and then walked away.

There are so many articles on body language and flirting but they seem to be for teenagers and most are more than a little silly. Men casually touch me all the time on the back and they aren't looking to date me. He knew I was stuck so I couldn't say bye right then. That could of just been a nice way to say bye? I was surprised by the touch but, again, it's not like I have a ton of experience in this department. I am just curious if I am reading too much into polite interaction? When I like someone everything they do is proof they like me back ha ha. So yeah- bring me back to earth people.

I suppose I wasn't imagining it because he came right up and said hi again last night. At some point we played a game a pool together and he made sure to come and give me hug bye. No man gives a female that much attention that isn't interested ha ha. So I will wait for him to work up the courage to ask me out. 🙂 Thanks for the feedback!

Well, I have to tell someone...I have an actual date tomorrow. Don't know if I will get a lick of sleep tonight I am SO excited lol...I finally have hope of getting over the TM that is not available to me. Wish me luck peeps 🙂 I really like this one!

Looks like flirting is like riding a bike. Have fun on your date!

Posted by elllesque

Posted by busyeyes88
Shaking hands is rather "cold"! It feels like a business meeting! Kisses on side of both cheeks seem far more warm and friendly

but you live in Europe....

in the states, shaking hands is the norm.

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i find something new every day.

really, shaking hands is the norm?

we hug and kiss on both cheeks.

Posted by Damnata

Posted by elllesque

Posted by busyeyes88
Shaking hands is rather "cold"! It feels like a business meeting! Kisses on side of both cheeks seem far more warm and friendly

but you live in Europe....

in the states, shaking hands is the norm.

i find something new every day.

really, shaking hands is the norm?

we hug and kiss on both cheeks.

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Yes, when two people don't know each other well, shaking hands is the norm.
One exception would be comforting someone at sad events (like funerals).
Otherwise, the reaction can sort of be like this:

Posted by starlover
Have fun! 😛

I will try ha ha. I'm a nervous wreck....

My Venus is in Libra but I'm not sure what all that means exactly? The nice thing was that he admitted to being nervous too. So at least I'm not feeling it all by myself 🙂

Posted by WhiteChocolate

Posted by Koniucha
Where is your Venus?

I have Venus Virgo and don't know how to flirt lol

I think giving the other person a toothbrush/toothpaste or hygiene products is the way us VinV people flirt.

Like "Hey baby, let's do it...but brush your teeth first. And take a shower"

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As a Virgo moon with Venus in the 6th, I approve of this comment.

Posted by elllesque
awe.

she has a venus libra 😄

Ha ha! But what does it MEAN? 🙂

Ha ha ha ....You nailed it! I am just sitting here agonizing over it and just trying to live through my butterflies. And even though I know he likes me enough to be nervous too I wonder just how awkward this evening is going to be. I hate first dates...it is easier when you develop feelings for friends and you are already comfortable. When you have a lot of chemistry with someone it is hard to focus on conversation and act like you aren't constantly thinking "let's get naked" . Prior to getting married I never dated very handsome men and my husband was average also. My date this evening is smokin hot ...definitely the most attractive man I've had a date with. So that aside..I think I'm less nervous when I don't feel so intimidated just by my attraction to the person. This will be somewhat new to me.

Best date EVER lol...and I just got home 😉 But I wasn't a hussy we spent most of the night parking in the woods. I felt like a teenager again. Maybe the best first date I have ever had!

Posted by hexum
Best date EVER lol...and I just got home 😉 But I wasn't a hussy we spent most of the night parking in the woods. I felt like a teenager again. Maybe the best first date I have ever had!

Best of luck. Very happy for you. So when is the next?

This afternoon 🙂

OP, how it is going? I hope splendidly