He really seduced me!!!!!!!!! HELP

I met a Scorpio(Libra Asc)guy a year ago. From what i heard he was a male whore! We met through common friends during dinner and he said that he found me a very smart woman(we had a philosophical conversation earlier). The next time i saw him he tried to kiss me and of course i pulled back(because of his reputation). So i told him that i'm not interested in getting laid. He pursued me many times after that but i kept rejecting him. He told me that he wanted to be my boyfriend! The thing is this all of these times he talked to me like he was in my mind! I don't open up easily and people don't get me but he did! He was like he was reading me and i was shocked! But back then i liked someone else... So, someday i found out that he found a girl. In the meantime, every time we were together he was constantly analyzing me(successfully) and telling me that he thought I was really special and any guy would be happy to have me. At my friend's birthday we met again and i was a little drunk and i teased and gave all of my attention to him. He was amazed and he was looking me in the eyes & said that i have very beautiful eyes(does my venus in Scorpio counts?). To make a long story short, he started grow on me. A few days ago we met again after a looong time and he revealed to me:
That he was extremely hurt by my rejection, because he valued a lot my approval as i am very smart. He took it to heart. And then he said that he settled for this girlfriend to prove to me and himshelf that he could be in a relationship. And he said "look at me I'm with her for a whole year". I felt so bad & apologized to him because I can't stand to be the reason why anyone feels that way. He kept saying how special he thinks I am and looking me deep in my eyes. I started giving complimemts to him, truthful compliments and he was amazed. Then we went with our friends to a club and\ whenever we came close to talk(because of the loud music) he was kind of rubbing his cheek against mine...was that a hint to kiss? i don't know but what i know is that i felt seduced! I felt him penetrating my mind and soul several times at past, but to the bar i felt pure sexual tension! But i couldn't do anything. he had a girlfriend. Suddenly he said to me I have to go to my girlfriend & i said "too bad". He didn't say goodbye to anyone else and left(he could't obviously control himshelf any more).
Do you think that I should do something now? Or wait for him to contact me? I'm just thinking of his girlfriend..

I wrote "from what i heard he was a male wh***" not "just like me", lol!!! Aparently we 're not aloud to use these words and the system rephrase them... And my question at the end is this. Do you think i should do something now? or let him contact me? But will he— And I totally respect that he has a girlfriend, but he made me wating him so badly! help!!!

...that you should wait till he's single?

yes

Posted by amamoiri
I wrote "from what i heard he was a male wh***" not "just like me", lol!!! Aparently we 're not aloud to use these words and the system rephrase them... And my question at the end is this. Do you think i should do something now? or let him contact me? But will he— And I totally respect that he has a girlfriend, but he made me wating him so badly! help!!!

LMAO! That's the second time someones misspelled the word "allowed". Are you from the midwest? 😛

And yes it does censor certain words. That's our "moderator" in a sense.

Taking the initiative now, as opposed to later when he's single is the difference between following instincts and carnal urges like a common dog, or being a human being and having a conscience. Not condemning you at all. Simply letting you know how this appears to others and what it ultimately means.

I say wait, but it's your call 😉

LMAO! That's the second time someones misspelled the word "allowed". Are you from the midwest? 😛
I'm definately LMAO too... Midwest? No! I'm from Greece. I know that is "allowed" and not aloud, but I firstly hear words in my head and then write them. SORRY!
As for your answer, yes I know that I'm not ALLOWED to follow my carnal urges with him, that's why I did't! My body, yes I do control it, but my emotions, no...
Now that I see what happened between me and him written, I'm totally sure that I have to wait and see... What he will choose. Because he can't have us both! But I wrote down all these because I wanted to know if you think i must let him know how I feel about the whole incident!
Anyway, thank you for your response!

Posted by Let*It*Be
"Do you think that I should do something now? Or wait for him to contact me? I'm just thinking of his girlfriend.."

The last paragraph where he manipulated guilt from you successfully...not good. I read your post twice..I smell a snake. He sounds like he won't stop until he gets what he wants..to get laid. Be careful. Why would you want to be with a guy who has a girlfriend and is all up in your face for a kiss? Don't you think for one second he'd do that to you too? Just a thought. Good luck.

Thanks for your response, but I think you're wrong. He knows me by now. He knows that I'm not the kind of person who would get laid even though he's "taken". And neither is he! Because he left! He didn't cheat on her! And I'm very suspicious in general and if that was manipulation I think I would recognize it! I don't think you 're right, because we have a very good connection and he shows his interest in me in so many ways. It's been a whole year after his sexual approach to me. I'm just saying...
Again thank you!

*SMH*

He is SOMEONE ELSE'S MAN!!

Get it?

Posted by Let*It*Be
"But I wrote down all these because I wanted to know if you think i must let him know how I feel about the whole incident!"


You said it earlier...he reads you well and probably already senses how you feel. We see right into people's souls, so it's up to you to tell him, or let him bring it up first...Nothing wrong with subtle hints though either.

Very helpful! You 're absolutely right! Thanks! I guess I just can't wait to hear from him but I have to be patient!

It sounds like hes introducing you to his world. His world is the world of sizzling intense chemistry. Its a hobby for him. He thrives off showing women these things and taking them into electrifying experiences. For him falling in lovwe is something to develop as a hedonistic pursuit. This sort of guy will tell you hes never felt these thinsg before but in reality he prides himself on the ability to be able to develop these experiences with any woman.

I knew a guy like this. men can develop seduction as a skill and want all the feelings of romance, idealism and deep levels of infatuation. You have to remember when they are quoting the poetry etc at you though that these are just tools they use to light you up. For them you are just an enjoyment.

You can see this by his history and by the fact hes cheating on his girlfriend. He may not have touched you but the fact is he sought you out and used you to inspire him when hes not single. He will always follow his heart and his heart is telling him to worship women en masse...not just worship one woman. If you became his girlfried it is a fact that he would fall in love with another woman and you would be 2nd best even though you live with him and she is just a project of his.

Hes like this cos he always wants the initial flush of love, the 1st touch the 1st kiss etc. And he wont give that up for a wife I dont think

yeah, it's not actually that attractive when someone comes on to you when they're attached. what does it say about him? it's hard to resist if you are very attracted to someone outside of a relationship because when your mind is consumed with lust, it's not thinking clearly about the consequences.

what kind of jerk gets into a year long relationship to prove a point—??

sounds like a total arse!

Not single eh? RUN AWAY!!

Now that i cooled off, I can see that this could be easily characterized as manipulation.. but then again, he seems so weird and awkward when he's near me...so I don't know(and I'm not willing to find out because he has a girlfriend). What I do know is this:
Girls, don't think like that(and i'm not referring to my situation)! Yes, there are a lot of guys out there who use us for an ego boost or sex! But so do we! Guys can fall in love! And maybe harder than us! I agree that they can tell you whatever you want to hear to get what they want, but pls we 're smarter than that! I know that if I allow myself to believe him(when nothing is proven) is because i want to...for several reasons(e.g. get laid, feel special, feel worthy). My point is that we do what we want to, don't blame them, they just give it to us!

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Posted by amamoiri
Now that i cooled off, I can see that this could be easily characterized as manipulation.. but then again, he seems so weird and awkward when he's near me...so I don't know(and I'm not willing to find out because he has a girlfriend). What I do know is this:
Girls, don't think like that(and i'm not referring to my situation)! Yes, there are a lot of guys out there who use us for an ego boost or sex! But so do we! Guys can fall in love! And maybe harder than us! I agree that they can tell you whatever you want to hear to get what they want, but pls we 're smarter than that! I know that if I allow myself to believe him(when nothing is proven) is because i want to...for several reasons(e.g. get laid, feel special, feel worthy). My point is that we do what we want to, don't blame them, they just give it to us!

Then enjoy. You've got our (or at least, my) permission. That is, in fact, what you wanted all along. 😉

So let him take you into that world for a while. You can pick up and leave any time.

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I think you didn't read what i wrote! Let me rewrite it. I'm not going to do anything! There's a girl in the middle and i totally don't want to hurt her. I like him, yes, but he's not single. 😢

what with a tickling stick?

"I misread nothing.

You won't do anything now. But you *are* waiting for him. The fact that he isn't single means nothing to you beyond an inconvenience. I'd like to actually see you refuse his further advances, if he makes them. Something tells me you won't, girlfriend or not. You are, indeed, fascinated by him.

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Maybe you 're right...Let me "see"... To be honest I think at this point of my life I could easily be sedused(don't judge, pls). And because I know that, I'm tryind to hold on and not give myself to anyone.

Don't judge? Yet you want us to "advise" you on this situation?

Ok, go on with your bad self. Just remember, if he can cheat on her, he WILL cheat on you. But I ain't judging.

amamoiri

hi, sweetheart

I don't think he is flirting or manipulating you or doing any kind of "cheating" with you. I feel this guy really likes you but since he has a girlfriend he feels "responsible" for her. I won't compare a great love story of liz taylor and richard burton with yours but he was married before he got hooked with liz taylor. He gave her an engagement ring yet was married to his wife. It was only when liz taylor objected to such a relationship, a very sad Richard Burton asked his wife for a divorce. SCORPIOS INVENTED THE TERM "LOYALTY" they can't break the ties even when they want to. Don't be guilty he is for you, he is not meant to be with the other girl. Be positive and show him your affection. He'll come around. If you feel his energy, then he is into you. I met a scorpio almost a year back and unlike what people said over here, "he really likes me". I can't reveal much on a public forum but trust me, he is not conning you. Scorpios are complicated and if he's a typical scorpio he'll seldom be a con man. They are brutally honest even about themselves. Read his eyes they'll say much about him than words. If he really likes you will see a silent expression that goes deep.