help! advice needed on scorpio males

So i'm an aries woman. Me and my scorpio boyfriend (now ex) dated for 9 months. I was his first relationship and first girl he ever fell for. He fell deep and fast. He was crazy possessive over me which I didn't mind. I honestly let him control me because I loved him so much which is usually against Aries nature but i decided to sacrifice. Besides, him being possessive just shows how much he cared about me.

Now during the relationship he would always emphasise how big of a deal it is for him to tell someone " I love you " and how he's never even let his mother or sister into his feelings so the fact that he let me in is so huge and how it feels so weird. But he'd always tell me it regardless. So one time, he was out drinking with his friends and he started drunk messaging me asking me to come get him so I did. He got in my car, he didn't say hi and after I started driving he asked me to pull over. He then got out of my car and started punching all these metal gates around a school and i got out and i was like whats wrong whats wrong why are you doing this? he kept telling me to leave him alone. I went back to the car, he came back 10-15 minutes later, hands bloody, sat down, pulled me ontop of him, buried his head in my chest and just broke down crying. I was like whats wrong— and hes like " i just love you so much dont ever leave me. i love you and need you so much" etc. Over time he started driving himself nuts like literally would worry about where i as 24/7 when i had never given him a reason to not trust me. I was such a good gf he even said it all the time. " you're such a perfect gf im so lucky"

Anyways, basically we spent a whole night together at a hotel one night, it was really good, the whole night he was telling me how much he loves me, except i noticed he kept picking at me for little things. I always let things go because he has a bad temper and I don't want to argue so i didn't get angry. When I got home, i messaged him telling him hey i had a really good night but is everything okay? because i noticed you were getting frustrated at little things. He then said he didnt know what he wants anymore. Fast forward i called him crying my eyes out asking him why. His reason for breaking up with me is basically this. "Since this is my first relationship, i didn't know what its like to be in a relo. I have been exposed to a world I am not familiar with and i cannot cope with it anymore. Being in a relationship has caused my emotions to becom

to become too raw and ive become weak/vulnerable as a person and i dont like it. As a consequence my other issues effect me more because I feel like im too weak. I feel dependant on you and i hate it. I have become someone I don't want to be. You have become my weakness and my mind is always consumed by our relationship and i cannot take it anymore. I have realized i cannot be in a relationship anymore and it hurts me so much to do this to you but its nothing to do with you you are the most perfect gf and i feel bad for putting my shit onto you all the time." I as an aries woman, am very strong so during our relationship I guess I was always the supportive one and he would sometimes tell me his feeling down and then i think he'd start thinking like " shit im weaker then her".. I dont know. My question is, is it normal for a scorpio male to feel this way—? I am absolutely heartbroken 😢 I did absolutely nothing wrong. All i did was love and care for him. He also said he feels depressed and needs to fix himself. Ever since the breakup all he's been doing is clubbing/drinking. He has not asked me how I am in 5 weeks but I heard from mutuals he keeps stalking my profiles etc.

Is it normal for a scorpio to feel this way?

jesus .... did you really have to blabber on when you could have summed it up in a couple sentences?


Translation:

I was a perfect, did nothing wrong and he broke up with me and I can't handle it ... now what? Is this normal for a Scorpio guy? What do I do now?

Posted by P-Angel

jesus .... did you really have to blabber on when you could have summed it up in a couple sentences?


Translation:

I was a perfect, did nothing wrong and he broke up with me and I can't handle it ... now what? Is this normal for a Scorpio guy? What do I do now?

haha you didn't have to read it if you didn't want to! just want some genuine advice from a scorpio male who i thought would understand my situation better if i added detail.

Posted by brokenheart321

haha you didn't have to read it if you didn't want to! just want some genuine advice from a scorpio male who i thought would understand my situation better if i added detail.

First..we have to look at you and WHY you decided to get into the relationship in the first place and your part in this toxic situation:

"He was crazy possessive over me which I didn't mind. I honestly let him control me because I loved him so much which is usually against Aries nature but i decided to sacrifice. Besides, him being possessive just shows how much he cared about me."

"I always let things go because he has a bad temper and I don't want to argue so i didn't get angry. When I got home, i messaged him telling him hey i had a really good night but is everything okay?"

I just bumped 10 TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE AVOID thread for you.

Your relationship revolved around #1, #3, #4, #8 & #9

Why is that?

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/10toxic-relationships-mentally-strong-people-avoid-5164833/

Posted by LetltB

Posted by brokenheart321

haha you didn't have to read it if you didn't want to! just want some genuine advice from a scorpio male who i thought would understand my situation better if i added detail.

First..we have to look at you and WHY you decided to get into the relationship in the first place and your part in this toxic situation:

"He was crazy possessive over me which I didn't mind. I honestly let him control me because I loved him so much which is usually against Aries nature but i decided to sacrifice. Besides, him being possessive just shows how much he cared about me."

"I always let things go because he has a bad temper and I don't want to argue so i didn't get angry. When I got home, i messaged him telling him hey i had a really good night but is everything okay?"

I just bumped 10 TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE AVOID thread for you.

Your relationship revolved around #1, #3, #4, #8 & #9

Why is that?

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/10toxic-relationships-mentally-strong-people-avoid-5164833/

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Wow, reading that made me realize maybe I was in a toxic relationship. I think I was just so in love and I thought love includes compromising. I also have heard that scorpios have the tendency to be obsessive so I thought it was just normal behaviour. He would always tell me "please don't leave me" thats another reason I always stayed as I'm very loyal, thats why it just doesn't make sense to me why he would just wake up one morning and feel "overwhelmed" by his emotions and leave.

He has issues big time.

You need to be aware of what messes you can get into by understanding yourself better and addressing whatever issues you have to avoid men and people like that. You are a magnet for toxic people. Change it!