Help me understand scorpio man!

Sorry for the long post everyone...

I'm a cancer woman dating a scorpio man for 3 months. We've connected since day one but I want more. Today I did asked him where we are heading and if he's going to make that commitment of transcending to boyfriend/girlfriend status soon. He said that he would've asked me to be his girlfriend since week 2 BUT the problem on why we are still dating is because he doesn't know where we are going to be next year for the next 4-5 years(we both graduated from college, I applied to schools on the eastern region while he applied to the west... we both met after applying to schools). He said that out of all women he's dated, he's been the most open with me. I wanted to break up because he couldn't give me what I want but he didn't want to let go. He said that the best thing is for us to continue dating because he is seriously considering moving to that next step.

What scares him is knowing that I might not be ready for an LDR. He still isn't ready to become official because he thinks that being my boyfriend means that he's promising a future with me when he doesn't know yet of where we are heading. And being a scorpio man, he doesn't call me (even though he wants to, he said) because he's admitted that he doesn't want me to get as attached to him.

How can I make him see that I'm willing to make this work? I don't want him to fear the idea of me being too weak for an LDR, thus explaining why he doesn't give in to this relationship. And yeah, I did pressure him today (my mistake of pushing the scorpio man) so does this mean that we're heading downhill from here?

"He still isn't ready to become official because he thinks that being my boyfriend means that he's promising a future with me when he doesn't know yet of where we are heading."


That sounds pretty mature and responsible to me. So, maybe you should do the DLR, without any more emotional manipulations such as threatening to break up with him if he doesn't do what you want, and show him that you are mature enough to handle the LDR, also.

Perhaps then he'll see you in a different light.

Excellent advice, Atlantic. I dated a Cancer who was the same... Very clingy.

Not true. You can only head down hill if you allow it. Cancers aren't the best ones for taking control though.

"threatening to break up with him if he doesn't do what you want, and show him that you are mature enough to handle the LDR, also."

Don't pressure him anymore. Just go with the flow. Stay in touch with him but don't mention settling down anymore. Have you tried to apply for schools on da West coast? If not, you should considered it if you really want to be with him. I think its best if its his idea but it doesn't hurt to make the effort.

"Cancers aren't the best ones for taking control though."
Cancer is a cardinal sign. Cardinals (Aries, Cancer, Libra & Capricorn) have the best chance of being a leader and taking action. A cancer can do it if they set their emotions aside.

***cancerian men do not work with scorpio women.......::shudders::***

NOPE! Not at all.

Cancergal. Being a scorp and a man, he is hesitant about putting all his feelings out there and possibly getting hurt. Nothing is gauranteed. Everyone knows that - thanks Gem, I was wondering when someone was going to mention that.

However, I hear and in my experience. Scorp men do contact you when interested. They don't seem to be "phone people" per se. If he never contacts you and you are doing all the contacting. Back off (Cancers are clingy) give it a rest for a minute. Let him come to you. Scorp men like to be the one to chase - they like to be challenged. You make things too easy.

My theory... If you aren't getting what you need from a relationship or most of what you need (there is always compromises) then it isn't for you.

LOL! Ditto Roxi. If I am on the phone with you longer than a few minutes. It is some really juicy stuff we are talking about (with girlfriends) or I really, like you and you keep me interested (guys - mostly librans). However I am always the first to hang up. Especially with my cap girlfriends. They can be phone hoes!!! LOL!!! They just want to be on the phone, with nothing that important to talk about. Gets annoying.

Oh whatever, Roxi!! When we aren't talking on the phone (for a minimum of 26 days at a time) I am waiting for you to hang up with your friend Jude!

College is a different world experience than where you're at now. I can Guarantee you that you will meet so many guys on campus that you will forget about the Scorpio soon. When going to college it is best to be single so you can mingle with everyone and experiment. You will be fresh meat so unless you're ugly, lots of guys will be drawn to you.