HELP!! Scorpio men=Complex human beings

I was dating a scorpio man for about 5 years (i am an Aries!!)
and yes, we did have our ups and downs and we both had
qualites that we liked and disliked in each other but
other than that, we felt like soulmates.
Then suddenly, he dumped me about 2 months ago
saying he needed some time to think about things and "explore other options".
Sometimes, I see him around with friends at the mall
or on the bus and he won't stop staring at me with his beautiful
scorpionic eyes. Does he still want me or is he just playing games like
he always does??

P.S. I know how much Scoprio's luv sex and stuff
but i am a 22-year-old virgin (not b/c of religious reasons or anything)
so is it b/c we've never had sex??

No, he was quite honest and said he wants to explore other options! Other women!!! He may come back to you one day if he had any feelings for you. I think he wants to play the field. Does he speak to you at all when he see you? Or does he just stare at you??

PS did he know that you were a virgin? or did he think maybe you just didn't like sex—

He said explore other options!! mmmmm, could that be men do ya think too? He said 'options' that could be both!!! I don't know. Why don't you go right up to him on the bus and find out what he is doing with his life. If someone gives me just a minute I end up with a whole story!!! I don't know why, but they tell me stuff!!!

lol. .64, it's obvious why they do that! It's cuz you're a Scorpio. .duh! Those eyes make people wanna bare their souls to you while you've probably already started your own search.

honey, i would let it go becaue scorpio are so unpredictable. He means what he says most of the time. Let him explore his options and you do the same. Remember whatever he says he means.

News flash 64. Were really not that complex , in fact our complexity lies in our simplicity. Were only percieved by others as complex due to our ability to mask our emotions . As a coping device we usually develop reflective personalities; that is we only give back what is given, even though we always want to give our all. Thats why we are sometimes percieved as brooding ..Its all or nothing ,0's and 1's with us yes or no. As far as the sex , 5 years is a long time for a hot blooded scorpio male to wait, he really must have loved you ,however something eventually had to give. Since you didnt , he went in search of someone who would. Youre lucky he stayed around as long as he did and in the end was honest enough to tell you that he needed something more than what you were able to give.
In light of the facts I'd say that he really did love you but then again a man has to be a man

Addendum to previous post: BTW When he stares at you ,hes telling you that he still loves you but also needs the space to get what he needs, even from you........ You need to make a choice

64.26, from one Aries to another, I really think you should be applauded for still being a virgin at your age. That's a wonderful and rare thing. You continue to hold onto it until you're ready and when you meet another person who is worthy of such a gift.

I feel awful that your ex left you, but if he's truly the one, he'll come back to you. Sometimes, you have to let someone go, in order to see if they'll come back to you. If he does, you'll know that he truly loves you. If he doesn't, perhaps, he wasn't supposed to be the one for you.

In the meantime, concentrate on healing yourself and whatever you do, don't do anything impulsive (us Aries tend to do that sometimes).

64.40,

That was very good advice! What a refreshing change!

198,

You sound like my mother who would say almost the exact thing you did "a man has to do what he......well, why does he have to rush someone who isn't ready?? 5 years is not exactly rushing though! I wonder what the hang up is? Maybe marrige! In that case she held on to her principles and won! You GO orig. poster!

64,

I didn't mean your advice was refreshing for a change, I meant that, oh geez I am just gonna make matters worse. It was good advice, ok!!!!!!

Ok, have a great day and be careful out there or in there!!!

Hey 205.188 I may sound like your mother but I'll bet I look a lot more like your father. Even you admit that 5 years is a little long.......
Reality check

Addendum to above: Dont get me wrong 205 and original poster. Im not just passing along my own feelings on the matter because I really dont have any. Its not a personal thing for me. A question was asked and I knew the answer simple as that. The fact that your mother sounds like me only indicates that she has acquired wisdom and insight into the male mind over the years.... something you need to pay attention to. As far as myself I am a man and I know plenty of men therefore I think I am more qualified to speak on behalf of the male mind set than any female. Add to that the fact that I am a Scorpio and you wont find anyone better suited to answer your question.... If you dare to ask a question , you had better be prepared to hear the truth.

My mom will also admit that the reason she told us that was because she is weak. Depending on the situation I belive I have a better handle on things now?? on chipping away at old destructive habits, including loving men that don't respect me or give a s*** about me!

Are you saying you represent the majority of men? And what is that suppose to mean as far as the OP having to 'give- it- up' if she wants Mr. 'Options' to care about her! There are plenty of her own 'OPTIONS' she can create! Just a woman giving a womans point of view!

198, you're right, you have every right to state your opinion and I think being that you are a Scorpio male you bring insight into what her ex was thinking.

My only issue is that you seem to be saying that as a woman, she should be GRATEFUL that this man stuck around so long without getting any.

I think it sends a negative message that in order to keep a man, a woman must give into sexual relations. Being that she knew this guy when she was only 17, I think she did the right thing.

There are people who can be friends for more than a mere 5 yrs. and still not have sex! I think it is a MAN who should feel grateful when a woman decides to surrender such a gift to him. It means she's not only given of herself in a physical sense, but also in an emotional, intellectual, and spiritual context.

Given that there are so many young people out there, not to mention adults having casual sex, it's refreshing to see a young woman who still values those things. Thing young woman needs to be applauded, not told nonsense like she's lucky he stuck around so long. That's rather sexist as well.

Perhaps, I'm saying all this and you didn't mean it that way. If you didn't, I apologize.

Thing=This

To Twinkee: In your 8/19 reply first you say that Scorpios are so unpredictable, that he means what he says most of the time, then in your last sentence you contradict yourself by saying, "remember whatever he says he means." From what I have read about Scorpios when it comes to their feelings they try to hide them so well that they say one thing when they mean another. Are you a Scorpio? I've had the experience with my Scorpio man that he has tried so hard not to show his feelings that he will say things that I know from experience that are not true. Not that he's lying - but that he doesn't want to be considered by me as a softie and that he cares. He wants to maintain this "player" personna. Scorpios what do you think? What's your opinion of what Twinkee wrote? Do Scorpios mean whatever they say, especially in love matters?

64,

To all of those concerned about children. Were off topic I suppose, but this is important!

I think that waiting to have sex until you are mature enough to handle the consequences, is SMART! We have too many children trying to raise children who are not prepared emotionally, financially or have any idea what they are getting themselves into and it creates a lifetime of problems. Young people ruin their entire lives by being saddled with that kind of RESPONSIBILITY!

I had the opportunity to learn a lesson in responsibilty, at 17, that I did not forget. I had the opportunity to take care of a screaming infant for two weeks. It certainly changed my mind about having sex at that age! I never did have kids; one because I didn't want them and two because the right time never came with the right person. I am thankful I never did! Sometimes I regret it, but that was my choice!

Children should be allowed to grow up and enjoy their precious youth. It doesn't last long, and then it's all over. So enjoy your youth while you have it and there is plenty of time for RESPONSIBILTY later in life! You sould find love and then marriage and then children, in that order!

I give the OP all my applause and respect!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry i havent' posted a response to ur questions
(this is the Aries girlie w/ ex scorpio guy)
but yeah he knew i was a virgin and i wasnt interested in sex
till i was ready. oh, and he loves GURLS WAY TOO MUCH
to be thinking about sleeping w/ a man. yeah we still talk and stuff
but girls are always around him and just like what one person posted
he has to keep his "player status". im pretty sure it was the sex thing but im just
not ready for it and i honestly dont know when. (so the thing about Aries's being sex animals
doesnt apply to me *lol*)