Help with this Taurus girl....

So I met this girl through a mutual friend. I got really interested in her and checked her out on Facebook and all other possible websites to know more about her and I really liked what I found. I always do that before I ask any girl out to find out more about her personality and if it's interesting to me at all. She is very shy around new people.We got along really well and it was alright for 3-4 months. She used to cut herself a lot and since she met me she stopped it and told me that it was coz of me that she was able to stop and that I was the best thing in her life.Then she goes that she doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment coz of some personal problems and family things and wanted to be friends. She said she loved me many many times and I love her too. I told her that I got very strong feelings for her and I can't be friends with her and I was mad at that time so I said I will have to cut her off from my life, I dunno if I meant that seriously.So she was afraid to lose me I guess so she came back to me the very next day.It was fine again for few weeks and then she starts ignoring me. She added her ex on Facebook and that just pissed me off. I told her that you can't be friends with your ex coz he still has feelings for her and that's just an unnecessary complication in out relationship and she got mad for that! She thought I didn't trust her whatever. I apologised to her and told her that I did trust her but I don't like her being friends with her ex who got feelings for her. Then She breaks up with me and comes back apologising to me after a week.She told our mutual friend that she made a mistake and she knew that i loved and cared but it was too intense for her. Just two days after coming back and telling me how much she loved me and missed me she came up with something wired. She said she is scared of me and doesn't feel safe in this relationship. I joked around with her couple of times that I am a serial killer and stuff. She actually believes that now! It's just ridiculous coz we been together for so long and been to so many places even lonely places after midnight and I can't believe she thinks of me that way! That's just ridiculous. Her best friend has been my housemate over an year and she is like my sister. How could she even feel like that? Is there some other reason she doesn't wanna tell me coz I could tell she was so much into me.we had an argument over this and then she just cuts me off. Blocked me everywhere. What should

I am scorpio sun,scorpio rising, libra moon if that helps

Chaos.
I think I saw this post somewhere else.
Shouldn't you be enquiring on the Taurus board? Are you a Scorp?

Posted by FixedWater
Chaos.
I think I saw this post somewhere else.
Shouldn't you be enquiring on the Taurus board? Are you a Scorp?

Yeah it's on Taurus board as well. Yeah I am a scorpio do I I thought may be I should post it here to get more answers.

Your post is very confusing. I wouldn't know where to begin except to say this: Nothing ever gets accomplished when your thoughts are so chaotic. Take a deep breath and some time and really think about this Woman and if you want to be involved in a relationship that is so full of drama.

I don't really know. It wasn't like this at all for the first few months, dunno what happened. I am just trying to figure out if I am at fault or if I did something wrong.

I will read again and see if I can make some sense of it

Posted by FixedWater
I will read again and see if I can make some sense of it

Ok thanks.

How old are you both?

I think this probably is more about her history and upbringing simply because she's cutting herself. That would be a big concern for starters.
I could see how you'd not be able to be friends and in all reality that never really works anyway. Scorpio Men and Women, for the most part, can be very possessive. I always say "I don't share" and I make no apology for that.
If you are self-protecting because she wanted to be friends that could be where she feels scared. If you are not sharing, being honest and upfront with someone you are involved with then there is little chance the relationship will survive. As hard as it might be, sometimes when someone is really worth it, you have to make yourself a little bit vulnerable. I think this might be what she is referring to when she says she is scared, moreso than you physically hurting her. As a sidenote, if you are and are just not saying any and all advice I have given is null and void. If you are, you need help, not her.
You have to remember that communication is key and that you both communicate differently.
Not to mention the fact that she seems quite unsure if she wants the relationship or not and my suggestion would be to just come right out and ask her, if YOU still want it.

Theres a starter from me, maybe others will have more to contribute

Posted by FixedWater
How old are you both?

I think this probably is more about her history and upbringing simply because she's cutting herself. That would be a big concern for starters.
I could see how you'd not be able to be friends and in all reality that never really works anyway. Scorpio Men and Women, for the most part, can be very possessive. I always say "I don't share" and I make no apology for that.
If you are self-protecting because she wanted to be friends that could be where she feels scared. If you are not sharing, being honest and upfront with someone you are involved with then there is little chance the relationship will survive. As hard as it might be, sometimes when someone is really worth it, you have to make yourself a little bit vulnerable. I think this might be what she is referring to when she says she is scared, moreso than you physically hurting her. As a sidenote, if you are and are just not saying any and all advice I have given is null and void. If you are, you need help, not her.
You have to remember that communication is key and that you both communicate differently.
Not to mention the fact that she seems quite unsure if she wants the relationship or not and my suggestion would be to just come right out and ask her, if YOU still want it.

Theres a starter from me, maybe others will have more to contribute

She is 19 and am 22. Yeah she cuts coz of family problems and coz her ex treated her like shit. Her ex would always try and come back in her life and I just don't like her being even friends with her coz it's an unnecessary complication, well at least that my perspective. I couldn't be friends with her coz I have strong feelings for her and honestly if I were friends with her I would be 'faking ' it which I really hate. I never harmed her physically in anyway and I have always treated her nicest way possible. She mentioned to our mutual friend that she knows that I care a lot for her but she reckons it's just too much and it's big change for her. Dunno what does it mean exactly ! I understand what you mean. I just need to think over this.

Sorry not butter*. Her ex treated her like shit. Autocorrect error on my phone.

Yes, shric, giving it some real thought is exactly what you need. You are so young still ~daydreams about younger years~ and there is that one little saying I always Love to fall back on. If it's meant to be, it will be. That may be hard to trust, but its true.

You can never really judge a relationship based on those first few months either. I wish we could, but you just can't. It is all about getting to know someone and there is someone out there that will adore all of your 'Scorpioness' and treat you as well as you treat her. Just remember that communication really is the key, even if it comes down to "I have to think about what's happened here for a little while so don't take offense if you haven't heard from me for a few days".
You would be surprised how far that will go in life.

Just to mention also, she doesn't handle stress well obviously right? Things/people that are different than what she is used to will more than likely agitate her.
She has some pretty serious issues to work out with the childhood upbringing and the ex that treated her like shit. These are things she needs to work through. It is really hard to Love someone else when you do not Love yourself.
I am not one for walking away from someone who is hurting but I would be concerned here that she will drain you and you will be fighting for yourself in the long run. It is already happening....

Yeah you are right, it's it's meant to be, it will be. Thanks a lot for all your advice, means a lot! 🙂

Posted by FixedWater
Just to mention also, she doesn't handle stress well obviously right? Things/people that are different than what she is used to will more than likely agitate her.
She has some pretty serious issues to work out with the childhood upbringing and the ex that treated her like shit. These are things she needs to work through. It is really hard to Love someone else when you do not Love yourself.
I am not one for walking away from someone who is hurting but I would be concerned here that she will drain you and you will be fighting for yourself in the long run. It is already happening....

Yeah she can't handle stress at all. Small things frustrate her, for example if I accidentally pulled strands of her hair she would get so mad. Small accidents like these happen when people come really close together. I tried to help her a lot but she wouldn't let me. If I suggested her something she would get mad for that. I helped with her uni work as well but yeah dunno it didn't seem to get better. Yeah she can get so hot and cold for smallest possible things that it drains me emotionally. Last time when I addressed her about the way she is treating me and other stuff, she was crying and said she wanted to kill herself for hurting me. I really dunno how to handle her, it's like I can't fight with her coz I am scared that she would do something bad to herself, she doesn't want me to suggest anything, it's just so complex and as you said it is draining me emotionally and on top of that I gotta deal with my own problems as well which are too complicated in their own way.

I see a little bit of manipulation on her part by what you've just said. It's sad to hear and I am sure it's tearing you up but you have to look out for your emotional and mental well being at this juncture. I know, I've been right where you are and you can't fix them. They have to fix themselves. Trust me when I say that staying and trying to help her will eventually put you in a place you will have to fight to get out of. We are emotionally strong, yes, but we have limits to what we can handle. If we don't have limits then those boundaries need to be made and enforced.

Your welcome, and good luck to you.

hahaha... shric

If you type the word *sh!!t* dxp try to translate is as *butter*

so use some other version yet still pronuonce as * $ h!t*. lol