how can you make up with a scorpio?

If a scorpio female is mad at you and refuses to speak with you even though you've apologized for whatever it is you thing they are mad at
(because you don't know for sure)...is the friendship pretty much over? Will they eventually cool off and talk to you or do they cut you off for good?
How can you ensure not to be cut off?
Need help from empathetic and insightful scorpio females.

Thanks.

ps. I think she's mad because I may have inadvertently made her feel that what she's done is unappreciated...but I'm not sure.

That all depends where you stand in her world. If you are friends, then she most likely will give you another chance. Family is unconditional and there isn't much that will not be forgiven! If it was something serious, you may not find a way back? Like if you deceived her or cheated on her or something significant. I can only speak for myself, but from what you are talking about that would not qualify her axing you unless she really doesn't care for you in the first place. Need more infromation in order to be of any assistance/

No, I haven't done anything treacherous. I've been very open, honest, and loyal.
I've also been a responsive and caring person to her. Mostly, I just think that she thinks I don't appreciate
her level of giving in our friendship because she doesn't talk much and she's very secretive. So, I basically called her on that.
Now she refuses to talk to me. But what I need to know is how to get back in her good graces. I don't want to lose this friendship, but she isn't willing to ever talk about
anything. How can I know what bothers her or what the issues are if she refuses to talk?

All I want is for things to be OK again. I do need help in how to do that with a scorpio.

Wow...as a Scorpio female I can speak from the other side. I have been angry with friends and have not spoken for days. I'm not sure if it's a Scorpio trait, but I think when we are scorned we hold grudges for a LONG time. My advice...make contact...definitely. A couple of times may be needed. Do it on the phone even as a start. Leave a message...speak to her. If she gives you resistance ask...I feel like you are upset with me...and I don't want you to be...let's talk about it.

scorpio hold grudges in my opinion that are very unnecessary. I mean, I have been hurt or wronged before, but I get over it. Life is too short to hold such grudges. Think this way, people with cancer and life-threatening illnesses don't think of such things. Every time I get upset or feel depressed, I always think that someone could have it worse than me. That get me through such petty things.

What did you do to him/her now? LOL!

Poor thing is probably hurt and you don't seem to care!

I agree with the idea of trying several times...as a scorp female I know when someone pissing me off, its usually because they have been insensitive in some way..we normally go days and even weeks without even looking at the person who hurt us, but in the end, we always give in....but we don't forget and believe me our antennas are alays up ...

Being a female scorp when I make up my mind not to speak to someone it's because I have given then enough chances to act like someone normal and they have refused......what did you do to piss her off?

Do you ever get to find out why you pissed them off? I dont even get a reason. Scorps are just mean sometimes! They like to make you suffer.

146,

Do you want to talk about it! Maybe we can give you some insight and help? Need for you to tell us the whole story and then we can figure it all out?

Here's the latest - since we have to work on a project together,
she's e-mailed me...but all communications have just been work related.
Since I already spent almost a month apologizing (for I don't know what exactly),
I figure if she's not going to bring it up, then I won't bring it up again either.
But as a gemini, it goes against the grain of my being, not talking things out and clearing the air.
So, I'd say that our friendship is very much affected, but I've still been acting like a friend as best as I can,
even though it is completely one-sided.


I think it sucks that scorpios so demand loyalty, honesty, and openness, yet don't
give it themselves and feel that it's OK to be rude, unresponsive, and non-communicative
to someone (me...a friend) who is interested in finding out what is wrong and willing to own up to it
or deal with it (whatever "it" might be). It's not right and frankly, I certainly haven't done anything
that would cause such an extreme reaction.

I have been guilty of that myself. I have known people and I have just cut off completely and would no longer communicate with them, ever. The reasons were varied but serious enough for me to not trust them anymore. I felt they knew very well what they did! There was never any demand for something I would not do for them too. The only difference, I kept to my end and they didn't!

I have been reading this post to try and understand my own predicament and would be grateful if you could answer my question. Yes I did do wrong to a male scorpio but I think he knows it was due to the circumstances. But heres the question! I apologised to him by sending a card and he has never gotten in touch with me. But he has stood up for me and tried to help me in the background. Eg has telephoned people and help clear up misunderstandings etc (found out through a friend of a friend). Do you think he has accepted the apology but no longer wants to be in a relationship with me but doesnt want to see me hurt as a friend! Just cant get my head around this! please help

I would agree with AB; grab the first guy that is somewhat appealling and go for it! Make sure to use protection! You would be suprised how fast you will forget about the past. You can turn you mind off when you need to!

I don't know if you can make up with a Scorpio. It would depend on whether or not they deem you useful in their world. I am a Scorpio woman and if I am done with someone, for whatever reason, then that is it; I am done. Once I lose intrest in someone it usually doesn't come back.

145,

Your Scorpio male friend may very well feel somewhat resonsible for the situation, and it sounds like it to me. It isn't like we don't have a conscience; quite the opposite. We just have our own way of dealing with the situation; as for me, I would consider the outcome of the situation, and what would be best for everyone involved. If I feel the relationship is not going to workout, why carry it on. Wouldn't it be better to end it before anymore of your heart is invested?!

I know you feel like you deserve a better explaination, but I wouldn't waste another tear on it because it may never come, and you don't need to waste anymore of your precious life on someone that is not going to give you what you need. Do you really want someone like that in your life anyway? Find the type of man who will give you the love you need and deserve and really for the sake of your self-esteem lose the attachment for this one.

Good Luck,

Sincerely,

Sunflower

Speaking from personal experience, and as a Scorp Female, I think what happens to us is that we give some much when we are in a relationship that sometimes we smother the other person. In the beginning they like that but at some point they rebel and when they rebel we're like "Where the hell did that come from" and then we go into a self defense mode of shutting up and not communicating that is a real problem if the other person is a Gem...they can't understand the thing about why we keep to ourselves when we are pissed off....personally, I do it because If I am forced to talk about how I feel my true temper surfaces....and my stance is always "you should know what you did" I don't think I have to tell you what you did wrong...and normally with a Gem, they DO know, they just want to play games. But my advice, is talk to her, if you really care about her and you are a gem, you will find a way to charm your way back into her life.....give her a little space right now..... hope this helps

Personally speaking, I want the temper to come out, you bet! No, I don't always know what is going through someones mind. Especially if there has been any inconsistency!

I want the temper to come out because it clears the air and then we know where we stand! It also shows a level of commitment and caring.

Just keep talking. And work it all out, somehow! If you can Scorps are the most solid mate you could ever want, truly!

Oh, the smothering part. I wouldn't have it any other way! HAH! But then again, that is just me!

...and I truly hope (145) got some relief. I could feel the pain and the heartache and attachment in every word and in every post she wrote. That is why I suggested to just let someone love her, if only for a warm body! Maybe that was a mistake!? I shouldn't have said that, because I did that after my marriage ended, and it was the worst mistake of my life!

Hi Suzy-Q 145 here

Thanks for your post. Yes I still am in pain, one year later and I still love this person very deeply. I have tried your advice (before you wrote the post) but it hasnt helped I just woke the next morning feeling very cheap and not sure who was used the most - me or him. I do go out and try to met people on a level pegging but I have never connected with anyone as I did with him. The only hope it gives me is that maybe one day he may return or that one day I met someone and share that bond with them. Thanks for your help and words of wisdom they do help to comfort. Best Wishes. Unsure