
NotYourAverageAquarius
@NotYourAverageAquarius
13 Years5,000+ PostsAquarius
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Posted by xxnightbynight
I don't think ANY woman likes to be given that much attention upon the first few weeks of meeting. - I'm not a sun scorp but I have more scorp placements than any other in my chart... and I know that's a total turn off to me. If you call me twice... I'll see it, and I will return your call (as long as I'm interested) - then again I have venus/aries ... so I tend to do w/e the fuck I wanna do anyway. - lol... but... back off on the attention for a few days. 😉

Posted by Poisson
do.not.look.desperate.


Posted by xxnightbynight
Do you feel desperate?!
I don't think Scorpios torture you until you bare your soul... Torture is such an ugly word. - Just ... wait a few days.
Games suck... TBH... If I'm REALLY feeling a guy I will WANT him to call me... I don't fuck around with emotions and feelings when it comes to how I feel... (This is me as a woman speaking here) - but who knows what she's thinking.
Why don't you just ask her out on a date next time you see her in person?

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Despite what the mind game logic would TELL me to do I left a message and told her I MISSED her and wanted to chat but left it at that.

Posted by PoissonPosted by ScorpSuperior
If you call her again within the next 24 hours, she's going to be frightened. Because I will be frightened and I've never even met you. That's not speaking from a Scorp POV, but from a the average person's persceptive.
I'd heed to this.
I'm not telling you how you should feel. But hold back little bit, you know? Like ScorpSuperior said, this isn't about a scorpio thing.
Maybe "desperate" wasn't the right word to use. "Coming on too strong" might have been better choice of words... Just relax and let her make the next move.click to expand

Posted by OvSPosted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Despite what the mind game logic would TELL me to do I left a message and told her I MISSED her and wanted to chat but left it at that.
I would try to forget her if I were you.
Why did you say you missed her? you just shot yourself in the foot.
Texting should be used only to get a date first. "Hey, I'm kind of bussy this week but I would like to see you for a cofee one of this days. When are you free?" But even if you do it properly if you text her after a week you got a number you still sound like a creepy stranger.
You displayed feeling for her for what? she gave you nothing. And you sounded needy. That's a turn off for any girl.
Also you asked if you can call her. You should have just called her and not ask for her permission.click to expand






Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
thanks "night" you always have insightful comments
Good Luck to you too





Posted by ScorpSuperior
Perhaps she's just not thinking about it as hard as you are? I mean, it would be kinda difficult to tell someone whether or not you're romantically interested in them if you aren't even aware that it's a topic of concern. If you two are friendly toward each other, maybe she thinks of you as a friend? I don't know. You do wanna make sure you're on the same page so to speak before you start jumping to conclusions or assuming there's some sort of "mind game" going on.

Posted by xxnightbynightPosted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Yes I do .... do it alot... but why does that mean I have to have it done to me... I mean I don't pursue anyone... seriously... Like if she really isn't attracted to me BE FUCKING RUDE CHRIST... and not just KINDA RUDE I MEAN FRANK AND COLD... that would do the job nicely 😉... BUT NO she is like the sweetest little thing when I'm around her and she is warm and nice to me. Tells me about her family or w/e the hell is on her mind at the moment only weird sometimes when she is leaving... it only gets weird when we are apart... If I were her and I would have received some of the shit I've sent her... LOL if was not interested I would have told the chick flat out... I think it would cruel to be nice...? It's the main reason I'm never friends with girls unless I'm interested in them because they almost always get the wrong idea!
All woman that I meet usually come across as so fucking superficial... I lose interest really quick...
I get turned off by selfish... superficial bullshit... but I guess anyone would...
to top it off I've been so damn bitter about this subject I wouldn't even give the mildly decent ones attention...
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Silly. It's called the law of attraction. What you put out into the universe comes back to you. - Consciously, or unconsciously. - It's a Karmic rule... Do onto others as you wish done to you. - You can't flake on other women and then be butt-hurt when you get flaked on.
Now I understand the whole... getting along with someone when you're with them... feeling special... feeling liked... and then just like that, out of site out of mind. - It's strange. - I have it done to me, but I have done it to others.
I don't know why I do it... I think that there is usually just something that doesn't sit well with me, or click with me when it comes to the guy whom is trying to catch me. - He could be the funniest guy in the world, or the hottest guy in school... but if he lacks any time of intellect... and he can't stimulate my brain... he's dunzo. There are girls that don't mind a man without intellect... they like a funny guy that takes them on nice dates and makes them feel special. Each person has a different view on what it is they want in a partner... and sometimes we just don't make the check-list.




Posted by IntriguedScorp
Hi. If you read through the Scorp pages you will see that Scorps are socially inept in many ways. Sometimes we don't answer phones. texts, etc because the mood just strikes us not to.
Sometimes we don't go on dates because we aren't feeling it on the day. Sometimes we act like we don't care because we feel too exposed if we look to interested. Sometimes we use horrible excuses to get out of things for no particular reason that would sound logical to most sane humans. Once you enter the cavern, you'll see that word 'eccentric' sort of applies to Scorp as much as Aqua--maybe that's why we get along.
Frankly, Aquas are very good at getting the Scorp to be more socially adept and we appreciate it.




Posted by PoissonPosted by NotYourAverageAquarius
MY venus and my my mars are in pussy ass PISCES wtf lol
!! Uhm. excuse me...
Seriously though. Don't take any of it too personally... some women are just generally open and friendly, and can come off as more interested than they really are. I don't see your interactions with her, so I'm not saying that this is the case. She gave you her number. You've called and texted. The ball is in her court.
Good luck, bud. If things does progress with her, then maybe she can help you wax your chest.
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Posted by xdimplez
NYAA you seem clingy. you need to relax. nothing deters me more then clingyness
there is that saying you know, which i find to be true about relationships, regardless of the sign. " the power of the relationship goes to the one who cares the least"
gandalf, has a great write up on 'detachment' you should find it and read it. its helpful
plus asking how much attention a scorpio woman wants is the least of your worries.



Posted by ellessque
he's clingy now but wait til she calls him back.
he'll suddenly turn aloof.
damn aquas! 😉


Posted by OvS
If she's hawt(or not), she has someone that fucks her man, committed or not. You might not even like her once you get to really know her. You may be attracted to her but when you think about how cool it would be, you develop feelings for the image of her, not for her person. It's a mind trick we boys do to ourselves
Next time you see her in class go to her like a motherfucker and ask her out.(pretend like nothing happened with the calls, you don;t have to appologize for liking her). Tell the girl that you find her interesting and would like to have a friendly chat over a cofe(make a joke that it will be only a cofee and you won't let her do anything more to you.). And don't try to impress. Ask her stuff that get an emotion out of her and you get to know for who she is. She;s just a human after all.
She might think that you are needy but this will prove the opposite.

Posted by ellessquePosted by NotYourAverageAquariusPosted by ellessque
he's clingy now but wait til she calls him back.
he'll suddenly turn aloof.
damn aquas! 😉
Anyone I have these sort of feelings I will always want be in close contact with
I only get distant when people don't try to work with me
Give me fucking ultimatums and try and control everything about me
Granted I'd probably put up with that from her if she did do it to me only because while I am pretty responsible
She is way more than even me.... She is never close minded....
Honestly I feel we both have a lot we could learn from each other
They're is a lot of ironic things when it comes to her....
do you have her chart?
scorps can be pretty controlling. typically very controlling over ourselves, not so much controlling of other people.
however, that still could come off as "people don't try to work with me".
"I'd probably put up with that from her if she did do it to me"
^^^^^^^I hope you don't think that is a good thing.
I am not attracted to men I can walk all over....and trust me, I will try just to see if I can.click to expand

Posted by ellessquePosted by ScorpSuperior
""If she's hawt(or not), she has someone that fucks her man, committed or not.""
I totally had to reread this sentence. lol
three times.click to expand


Posted by PoissonPosted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Man is it so weak to let someone know how you really feel about them?
Look I speak my mind and when your being ridiculous I'm going to point it out and not do what you'd say
When I'm wrong I'll quell and do what is asked of me
If I have to give a little I will... I will after all.... For love I would do almost anything
It's not weak. It's just a little akward when a person you're starting to get to know seems a little over bearing. I mean, I cannot speak for for or anyone else, but for me I would feel a little pressured a little too soon.
I personally think it's sweet that you feel strongly for this girl. But at the same time you have to find a balance between expressing your emotions and not scaring the Bejezus out of her.
Get my drift?click to expand

Posted by ellessque
the sad thing is....he's building her up in his head to be almost god-like. he should take the aries's advice.
she is only human.
when she's not the image he has in her head......he'll drop her in five minutes or do a "fade a way".


Posted by ellessque
I can't speak for all scorps but I'm not all that impressed with what you have or how much money you make.



Posted by ellessquePosted by OvS
Come on, as a woman it's natural to be interested in money. As long as the man is self made and does not brag about it.
are you fucking serious?click to expand





Posted by ellessquePosted by OvSPosted by ellessquePosted by OvS
Come on, as a woman it's natural to be interested in money. As long as the man is self made and does not brag about it.
are you fucking serious?
Yes I am, it's something called survival instinct. Don't tell me you ain't got it.
I meant no disrespect.
A man with money has power and probably he is a leader. If you don't like money that much you certainly love that alpha vibe.
I certainly like the alpha vibe but I certainly don't equate it to money.
It's about ambition, drive, passion and persistence....not about a fat wallet.
Survival instinct is personal for a scorpio, it's not projected on to others.click to expand
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I call first time no answer...
I try once more still NO ANSWER....
Despite what the mind game logic would TELL me to do I left a message and told her I missed her and wanted to chat but left it at that.
I'm fine with sending this girl tons of w/e kinda attention with no response if IF... It will speed this process up... I mean I"m fully aware that it WILL ALWAYS probably be this way just I want to get it to where it is in a more reasonable range I mean If I had contacted her it would have been the third day I would not have contacted her and her 5th day not responding to me.
MY QUESTION IS would it be good to just give as much as possible— Or do different scorpio's have different degrees of pleasure derived from attention?