How to deal with my selfish Scorpio sister?

My sister is a 26 year old with 2 children (both of which are still very young). She has never lived on her own or taken care of her children by herself. She's always lived with my parents (hasn't really worked at all except occasionally part time), and doesn't take care of her kids. My parents pay all the bills with no help from her, and buy everything the kids need. While she's busy off somewhere staring at her phone. This weekend and last weekend she pawned the kids off on the baby daddy (Who also doesn't work) and ran off to spend nearly a week with some dude she just met a month ago. Mean while this weekend and last my niece has been sick. I can't take it anymore watching someone treat their children like they're puppies and take advantage of my parents who do far more than they should for my sister. How do I approach this to make her listen? She NEVER listens to anyone. It's always in one ear and out the other with her, and not to mention the lies. Every word that comes out of her mouth is a lie.

She's a Scorp Sun/Leo Moon/Libra rising.

Yeah, I realize that them enabling her isn't helping at all, but we're all concerned for the children's well-being. She can't even remember to give them medicine when they're ill. She did stay with the father of the kids for a few months, but my niece told my mom that they never had any food to eat at their house (I have no idea where all their food stamps went). When she moved back home, my niece was a horrible off color and looked malnourished/dehydrated.

Posted by e11e
why don't your parents try to get custody and then kick her to the curb so she has to get herself together?

I've been talking to my mom about this. Or I'd even be willing to take custody of them. My mom worries that she won't be able to get custody of the kids from her. I'm also even more worried because she recently told the father of the kids she was going to take the children and stay at a home belonging to her newest boyfriend's parents.

Posted by djbuck1
I foresee local Child Welfare getting involved at some point. But it requires no "sixth sense" to make that predication.

Seems inevitable at this point.

Posted by TornadoFlame

Or I'd even be willing to take custody of them. My mom worries that she won't be able to get custody of the kids from her.

Oh, how easy it is for you to bitch and complain, since you're not the one taking care of them and supporting them.

to say you'd be willing, and then to actually it ... isn't the same. I notice that you did NOT say that you were in the process of finding out what you need to do to get custody of them. NOPE, not even once. The only thing you said is that you'd be willing to.

I see no action from you at all, even though you just described child abuse.

How easy your tongue wags when you don't actually have to do it.

Then, right after you said that, in your next breath you made the insinuation that custody couldn't be obtained anyway.

If your mom can't get custody ... then you're lying.

You're not fooling me.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by TornadoFlame

Or I'd even be willing to take custody of them. My mom worries that she won't be able to get custody of the kids from her.

Oh, how easy it is for you to bitch and complain, since you're not the one taking care of them and supporting them.

to say you'd be willing, and then to actually it ... isn't the same. I notice that you did NOT say that you were in the process of finding out what you need to do to get custody of them. NOPE, not even once. The only thing you said is that you'd be willing to.

I see no action from you at all, even though you just described child abuse.

How easy your tongue wags when you don't actually have to do it.

Then, right after you said that, in your next breath you made the insinuation that custody couldn't be obtained anyway.

If your mom can't get custody ... then you're lying.

You're not fooling me.

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You can think whatever, I'm not sure why you're all angry and hostile. My mom is the one raising the kids and taking care of them right now not my sister. We've seen family members go through custody battle and lose, hence why I said she was worried about not getting custody. I lived with my sister and parents for the first 3 years of my nieces life, and I helped care for her that entire time. I know what having a child entails. More than anything I'd just like for my sister to grow up and be responsible and start taking care of her children and stop being a leach on my parents. Yes I said I'd be willing to take custody, have I researched fighting for custody yet? No, because until now my parents figured she'd just live with them forever anyway and they take very good care of the kids. My mom just doesn't entirely want to raise kids all over again, so if she decided she didn't want to raise the kids, I would is simply all I meant.

Posted by TornadoFlame

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by TornadoFlame
Or I'd even be willing to take custody of them. My mom worries that she won't be able to get custody of the kids from her.

Oh, how easy it is for you to bitch and complain, since you're not the one taking care of them and supporting them.
to say you'd be willing, and then to actually it ... isn't the same. I notice that you did NOT say that you were in the process of finding out what you need to do to get custody of them. NOPE, not even once. The only thing you said is that you'd be willing to.
I see no action from you at all, even though you just described child abuse.
How easy your tongue wags when you don't actually have to do it.
Then, right after you said that, in your next breath you made the insinuation that custody couldn't be obtained anyway.
If your mom can't get custody ... then you're lying.
You're not fooling me.

You can think whatever, I'm not sure why you're all angry and hostile. My mom is the one raising the kids and taking care of them right now not my sister. We've seen family members go through custody battle and lose, hence why I said she was worried about not getting custody. I lived with my sister and parents for the first 3 years of my nieces life, and I helped care for her that entire time. I know what having a child entails. More than anything I'd just like for my sister to grow up and be responsible and start taking care of her children and stop being a leach on my parents. Yes I said I'd be willing to take custody, have I researched fighting for custody yet? No, because until now my parents figured she'd just live with them forever anyway and they take very good care of the kids. My mom just doesn't entirely want to raise kids all over again, so if she decided she didn't want to raise the kids, I would is simply all I meant.

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i kind of agree with P. I mean, why are you so upset with her so much?? there seems to be a deep jealousy from you. You are NOT her and she is NOT you. Kudos that you wouldn't do that if you were in her place, but let's be real. You are not ever going to be her, and it seems like you would rather put your own sister down, than try to find solutions or help her out.

Maybe help her get back on her feet, which we don't know, if your parents are doing just that. If her child is being taken care of by your parents, then there is no abuse. (i'm assuming your parnts are caring, loving) but the abuse may come from your sister because she doesn't even care about their hygi??ne, food/nutrition, ect. and just goes out and have fun. Yeah it'd be best if your parents take custody at this point.