I feel hurt...do scorpios do this?

So any suspicions I had about my scorpio not being social are totally gone, which is great, but now it's opened up a whole new ordeal.
We got to talking about how he wanted our relationship to come out to the public since we've been keeping it a secret (my request) until we are official. But now he's turned the tables and questions why I don't get out much at our college and that he wishes I would get to know more people because he knows a lot of people here. I actually just transferred here last fall so he understands it takes a while for me to get new friends and he thinks it's great I already have a group of friends here. The only thing is he wishes the people he knew also knew me as well so that they weren't asking who I was and making assumptions because we were together. He wants people to be congratulating us instead of talking about us. Which I understand...we are in a small college and people who are juniors (both of our level of college) know each other so for him and everyone else whos been here it seems normal.

However, this is when I came in and told him that it's not him and these other people getting into a relationship, it's him and I. I told him that he shouldn't be caring so much about what other people think and that if his friends judged me from the start just because they didn't know me (and didn't even try to get to know me) then they were pretty bad friends from the beginning. He agreed, but I think he's still feeling like I should know and be able to get along with his friends. I told him to think about what he said because it really hurt me. I mean I know we've only known each other for a couple of months, but all he's seen out of me is good. What reason would he have to go with what people are saying about me (someone they don't even know) over me and what he knows to be true about me already?

Idk, it's just unsettling, and it doesn't really match up to the way I thought scorpios acted, or even his moon in virgo acts...

So I guess I'm asking people to give me their thoughts on this...I feel hurt and I don't know if I should be or not or if I'm just worrying about something too trivial or if this is a deal breaker. :/

Well we don't really hang out in public at school because we're always busy with classes. Usually when we hang out it's at night because that's when we have time off.

Come to think of it right before that conversation we did talk about this guy who was trying to get me to come over, but he knows I shot him down so no worries there, but then it went into another conversation about how I have guys who contact me, which is why I usually have a list of guys I am able to go out with. Which then he retaliated with the fact that most guys also have lists too and that he hangs out with girls and this one girl he hangs out with there is tension between him and her and people actually asked if they were dating...then that's what started the convo that he didn't want people to think they were dating and then spring it on people that he was dating me, this random chick...

How weird. I don't care what people think about who I'm dating, except for people I care about a LOT (close friends, family) and even THEN they feel like they're beating their heads against a wall trying to get me to listen if they DONT like him. I do want to meet my partner's friends.. but mostly because I want to watch how he is around other people besides me. Can be very telling.

Ah. *sting* Yeah um, you've just been stung. He said that simply as retaliation, would be my guess.

Posted by exoskeleton
"The only thing is he wishes the people he knew also knew me as well so that they weren't asking who I was and making assumptions because we were together. He wants people to be congratulating us instead of talking about us."

"What reason would he have to go with what people are saying about me (someone they don't even know) over me and what he knows to be true about me already?"

did he tell you his friends said something negative about you? if not, maybe they've been bugging him about meeting you and he's excited about it.

and my scorp has virgo moon also and he doesn't give a fuck what his friends or family thinks.

The only thing negative that has been said about me is from his room mate who's car we did stuff in and now he's mad...but that was on both of us

I did actually meet one of his friends today. I know a few of his friends already tho because my circle of friends are people he knows fairly well...then again he knows a lot of people on campus fairly well

Posted by THEKingofLibra
What the fuck. You two have lists of people you may hang out with? This.. sounds.. a bit confined.

I have tension with dozens of chicks. Some think I'll rape them, some tried raping me, its all good. I don't .. think its healthy to have lists or conditions on a relationship. If you wanna hang out with someone, flirt with them, maybe even tongue them or pinch their tits.. discuss this with your beau and if he is cool with it, go at it. Or not. Who cares, really?? The world is coming to an end! *cracks a beer open* Fuck it!

Nooo....Before I started dating him I had guys lined up. You know, guys to date or do stuff with.

Posted by Skykomish
How weird. I don't care what people think about who I'm dating, except for people I care about a LOT (close friends, family) and even THEN they feel like they're beating their heads against a wall trying to get me to listen if they DONT like him. I do want to meet my partner's friends.. but mostly because I want to watch how he is around other people besides me. Can be very telling.

Ah. *sting* Yeah um, you've just been stung. He said that simply as retaliation, would be my guess.

Yeah I kinda figured as much. He's retaliated before one other time, but I got him back and then he got me back and then I got him and then I felt sorry for him so I invited him to come along and then things were ok :3

like you said, who gives a shit what others think? And yeah, that does not sound like how a Virgo Monn would act at all.

Posted by exoskeleton
and my scorp has virgo moon also and he doesn't give a fuck what his friends or family thinks.

exactly

Posted by AA

Posted by exoskeleton
and my scorp has virgo moon also and he doesn't give a fuck what his friends or family thinks.

exactly

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Is there perhaps another factor of his chart that could make him care more about what others think? Because he was telling me he doesn't burn bridges and often keeps friends that others would think are annoying. His birthday is right on the scorpio and sagi cut off line and I know that I tend to not burn bridges being a sagi, but I dont give a shit what others think about me let alone who I'm dating

rising maybe?

I get the impression he's a Libra Rising after what you've said about obviously not burning brides and wanting you to be more social to all his friends and acquaintances so people don't think wrongly of you as a couple.

Other than that (and i could be wrong here) It's the first scorpio iv'e ever heard of that actually gives a butter about what others think, especially concerning relationships. I mean they do they care what others think, but not in the shallow way you described

Well I had a long talk with my scorpio about three different things, including the above mentioned. I told him that I'm new here and that if he wants me to know his friends he needs to introduce me because Idk how how he expects me just to know them before we start dating. He agreed and said he'd try to schedule a time where we could all hang.

Then I brought up the issue of him retaliating due to the fact that I mentioned the guy who was trying to get me to come over. He smiled so I knew I'd guessed right. I told him I wasn't trying to make him jealous, but only trying to reassure him that when stuff like that happened I'd shoot the guy down because I'm with him. He agreed that he needed to work on that.

We then called each other later and discussed it further so I feel a lot better about it all. Thanks all of you who replied 🙂

Maybe this is just me, but it seems you might have to take a grain of salt with what Scorpio partner might say to you. Especially if it is criticizing something about you.

Many of us are open for opinions, but Scorpios who try to criticize you for not having certain friends, or saying they heard this and that about you, are really disrespecting the definition of "building a relationship".

Please don't take to heart any criticizing from a Scorpio.

Be open for suggestions, but watch out for manipulation. It can be harmless at times but you don't want to have to unwind all that all the time

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Posted by happykitsune
However, this is when I came in and told him that it's not him and these other people getting into a relationship, it's him and I. I told him that he shouldn't be caring so much about what other people think and that if his friends judged me from the start just because they didn't know me (and didn't even try to get to know me) then they were pretty bad friends from the beginning.

This.
I'm quite fiercely private with my/our business in the blossoming stages of a relationship that's actually worth the time, and I don't care what others think/try and pry out of me.
That's mine/ours, k ?
1st point: I think it's kinda hot and sweet at the same time.
2nd : Without sounding too much of a bitch, most people will have a jealous dig/converse with their coven at the first crumb of gossip, sad and desperate really (and I think this about my nearest and dearest and don't think it's offensive)
3rd : Did I mention "mine/ours!" ? 🙂
4th : It's kinda hot sneaking around 🙂
5th : I'm kinda running out. It keeps things simple, plus it gives time for strong foundations/connections without external influence. A good test of both peoples independence, train of thought and intentions.

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I'm not sure what you mean by the 5th one. Can you elaborate please?

Posted by heroic_guy
Maybe this is just me, but it seems you might have to take a grain of salt with what Scorpio partner might say to you. Especially if it is criticizing something about you.

Many of us are open for opinions, but Scorpios who try to criticize you for not having certain friends, or saying they heard this and that about you, are really disrespecting the definition of "building a relationship".

Please don't take to heart any criticizing from a Scorpio.

Be open for suggestions, but watch out for manipulation. It can be harmless at times but you don't want to have to unwind all that all the time

Thanks we talked about this and he told me that when he says things like he doesn't want his friends to think badly about me or he wants to make sure he wants to get in this relationship it's not that he's predicting these things will happen, but that he wants to be ready if something like that does happen since he has a very pessimistic view. So yes I'm now taking what he says with a grain of salt because he really only means well when he mentions these things.

Posted by SassyVirgo
Scorpio do test ppl by criticism, show him that you are an independent thinker in a polite way. If he invites you to hang out with his friends just join them. After all, Scorpio likes a confident woman 🙂 Don't stress about it and go with the flow!

Yeah I was actually the one who suggested he invite me to meet his friends. What I was getting at with him is that he expected me just to know them. I told him "hey, if you want me to know them you need introduce me. I have no idea who your friends are and I just transferred in. That's just not fair" So he agreed after the break he'd invite me to meet his friends. I'm proud of him for listening to me. At one point he even told me he felt like he should pay me for giving such good advice and that I should council our relationship. While I didn't think that was such a good idea I was flattered since I am studying psychology :3

Cool, thanks for the advice. I will keep it in mind