I NEED CLOSURE FROM THIS SCORPIO!

I don't get him at all. I just need closure and thats all I'm looking for because I can't seem to find it in him...My scorp and I (Virgo) broke up about 5 months ago and it is still a big part of my life. I even moved across the country to get away from it and its even worse now!

To start, we were completely in love when we first started dating. Long story short, we started fighting a lot. Mostly because I let him live with me for 3 months, rent free, vegan meals every night (i'm not vegan), his dirty clothes everywhere etc. I was working 2 jobs to pay my rent on time, all of which he knew and was compassionate towards but never bothered to pitch in a dime. I wanted to be in a very serious relationship with him, and it just started to feel like we didn't have a future.

Anyway, I tried to break it off but couldn't...I was helping him out because I've never loved anyone so much. Then he broke it off with me a couple weeks after. I was upset but I knew we were going downhill fast and I just put all my effort into recovering. THEN he calls me 2 weeks later to tell me how much I mean to him and that he wants to be friends with benefits with me. He explained that getting back together would be too much for both of us, and I agreed. Minutes before I was about to head over to his place, he called to tell me that I should know something before I come over...that he was seeing someone til the previous week. I was shocked, but we were broken up and I only cared about winning his heart back so I forgave him. I guess his guilt struck and he told me he couldnt see me that night. I was so upset. I felt like he lead me. Months later, we start talking again he asks if I want to see a movie and get dinner. I agree but I was worse than before...I hadn't moved on. I decide to move back home because it all got to be too much (amongst other things going on in my life). He is the only person I want to be with during my last week and it felt like we had fallen in love again. He drove me to the airport told me he loved me, I was his best friend, and we both needed to grow (that screamed future to me). He called me constantly for the first week I was back telling me how much he cared and at some point shut down and started ignoring me and telling me I was under the wrong impression, that we weren't dating anymore. We fight, apologize, and he tells me again that he cares about me.

I've never been so hurt by someone. I wish he would just disappear but I also want to be wi

i need to mention i rushed through the last part...i was using up all my word counts..

Send him an email telling him to kiss your ass and to never contact you again. How is that for closure?

This guy did you dirty and you actually want him back? Unbelievable. He was clearly seeing another women as he was with you then he reduces you to a FWB. He sure did move on when you two broke up. Didn't even waste any time. You should be cursing him out whenever he calls you but you keep going back to him.

The best way to get closure is to recognize your situation. Based on what you have written this is a toxic relationship that needed to end. Let it end! Don't take his calls, texts, emails, etc. The only closure you are going to get is if he tells you it's completely over and doesn't contact you ever again. But he's not going to do that because he is to busy enjoying you as his human yo-yo. Dig deep and find your back bone and use it stand up and walk away.

Yeah I think he's already given you closure 5 times but you missed it. It happened when...

He moved in and used you for rent free accommodation and housework
He dumped you
He asked to be FWB (i.e. not a proper girlfriend)
Despite you offering FWB he still couldn't find the time to see you and didn't bother to get in touch for 2 months
He ignores you and tells you that your aren't dating any more.

How much closure do you want?

you;ve lost your identity and sacrificed every ounce of your self-respect for a man.

You need to find you again. and it's not within him.

damn i feel for you. were there any warning signs? red flags that you may have missed? what kind of closure r u looking for?

scorpio or not. men who know how to play on woman's emotions will do this. ive had it done to me by a leo, and a few other signs have tried me. i def dont fault you for helping someone out that you were in love with. its your nature. i wouldnt change that spirit about you or let him deter you in the future. there is a man out there who is more deserving of you servitude.

i am a mars in virgo and venus in cap. i like to be helpful especially to the people i love, especially my man. im also a cancer rising and come off as "easy, low self-esteem". so i attract alot of men who are eager to take advantage of me and my money.

funny thing is, i met this virgo guy who told me that i would be subjected to men after men who wont really like me but will want to move in and eat for free. i listened and how right he was.

i dont think its a matter of you not having self respect or dignity. i think you just have to sharpen up your "picker." be a bit more analystical and discriminating. at the first sign of a "takeover" from a man asses the situation for what it is.

i think virgos and scorpios make great couples. u just have to find a scorpio more deserving.

Your closure should have come when you moved away. Scorpio aside, he is playing with your emotions. Why? Because you are letting him. From the start, when you were slaving away making money to pay for shelter to cover HIS head you were not sending him the message of "devotion, love and commitment" you were actually sending the message "I can be easily taken advantage of". Scorpios respect and seek out strong people. Point, blank, period. We gravitate towards them like bees to honey, even if we don't know why we are drawn to them at first. In contrast, we do not respect weakness. You moved to another town and at the flick of his wrist (and dialing finger) you came running back. Come on. You don't think he had a wicked little grin knowing EXACTLY what he was doing to you as you packed, booked your ticket and came running to him? He wasn't "confused". And to add insult to injury, he had the NERVE to tell you you weren't dating. Don't get confused by the "I care about you" statements for "I love you". Scorpios don't mince words or say what we don't mean, and the fact that he hasn't said "I love you" is no mistake or slight on his part. I would ignore him, his calls, his emails, his letters in the sky, whatever. Just heal your heart.

Virgo824, I think you are waiting to hear from his mouth what he feels. But do you really need to hear from him what you already know. Will it help you to hear that he was just using you and has no real connection with you. As women we need verbal confirmation.