Jealousy:How Far Will You Go?

I haven't posted on DXP in a very long time, but when I did I really valued the feedback I received from Scorpios. I need to know something about Scorpio jealousy.

How jealous are you? How often do you think about whether or not your partner is being faithful? How often do you accuse your partner of being unfaithful? How far will you go to seek out evidence to support your suspicions?

Your answers are very important to me. I need to know if my husband is just being a Scorpio or if he actually has a delusional disorder and might need to get some help.

Posted by Whimsy
I haven't posted on DXP in a very long time, but when I did I really valued the feedback I received from Scorpios. I need to know something about Scorpio jealousy.

How jealous are you? How often do you think about whether or not your partner is being faithful? How often do you accuse your partner of being unfaithful? How far will you go to seek out evidence to support your suspicions?

Your answers are very important to me. I need to know if my husband is just being a Scorpio or if he actually has a delusional disorder and might need to get some help.

Your husband is just being a Scorpio AND he actually has a delusional disorder and he just might need to get some help. You're welcome 🙂

I just know they'll come home to mama anyway? So no, I'm not the jealous type.

Posted by Whimsy
How jealous are you?

Like on a scale of 1-10?

Posted by Whimsy
How often do you think about whether or not your partner is being faithful?

I don't. The moment I do we---mainly I have a problem that needs to be addressed.

Posted by Whimsy
How often do you accuse your partner of being unfaithful?

See above.

Posted by Whimsy
How far will you go to seek out evidence to support your suspicions?

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The moment I think about needing to snoop, pry or look for "evidence" means the trust is broken and it's time to move on. I'm not interested in investigating someone I should trust. I'm just not interested in that type of relationship.

I do recall when I was 17 my boyfriend went out for a few and I redialed the last number he called because I had suspicions and a girl that had been trying to press up on him for a while answered. I stupidly cursed her out and hung up. He came back shortly after and I broke up with him. I haven't gone through a partner's things or looked for evidence ever since. Over the years I just learned all of that is not worth my time. If I don't trust you, you can't be in my life. It really is that simple for me now.

If you want to be there, you will be. Faithfully.

Not a scorp but my scorpio mars makes me extra sensitive to fidelity on top of my double Taurus. I think about it constantly (next to sex)... it's frustrating. dont even breathe on my property ? But I just act like I'm not aware or ignore it. But it's there. Always.

I get jealous but it's rare and fleeting. Of course, I've thought about someone I was with being unfaithful and I'm always right when I do. In the past I've found things that made me question the persons intentions/or supported my assumptions and really at that point, I start to distance myself from them. I don't make a big emotional deal about it..I just stop caring and walk away.

Relationships are exhausting enough and I don't have the energy to be consumed with jealousy.

I don't get paranoid and jealous unless given reason to be. I trust my partner until given a reason to think otherwise.

If you do something that I view as suspicious on a consistent basis, then I will start analyzing and investigating. And even with that, I will not outright call you out until I have factual proof of something nefarious going on, because I do not like making accusations towards anyone, partner or not, of something without definitively knowing you have actually done something wrong.

Don't give any reason is what I say... From my experience with Scorpio men... Zero tolerance for the BS if they spot... They will sit back and watch you hang yourself ... Love all Scorpios ... Keen intuition ... It's sharp ...

Posted by Whimsy
I haven't posted on DXP in a very long time, but when I did I really valued the feedback I received from Scorpios. I need to know something about Scorpio jealousy.

How jealous are you? How often do you think about whether or not your partner is being faithful? How often do you accuse your partner of being unfaithful? How far will you go to seek out evidence to support your suspicions?

Your answers are very important to me. I need to know if my husband is just being a Scorpio or if he actually has a delusional disorder and might need to get some help.

Is he insisting on using condons?

Because if he is really jealous - he would!

Posted by blackphase
Not even a Scorpio.. but Scorp dominant and I will tell you I think about my partner not being faithful more than I think about a lot of things.. It's a constant worry, even if they have given me no reason to fear that.

He is just being a Scorpio.. but that aspect of how some Scorp influenced people think is completely delusional.. you are right.

Same..

Normally I just sit with my phone on my chest for hours and worry. Like to the point I can't do absolutely anything but sit there and think the worse. I don't let them know either. Eventually those thoughts and emotions come out from being bottled up too long and I express it to them, which scares them away.

Thank you for replying, Everyone! Sorry I've been absent from the thread; I was at work.

I've been with my husband for 10 years, and have never even looked at another man. Still, he can't stop thinking that I'm cheating with everyone from his best friend to random people we happen to meet. In 10 years, he had never stopped looking for evidence of this cheating. Sometimes, this gets downright bizarre. One example: I was accused of having someone over to the house because I used the icemaker on the refrigerator. He found the glass of melted ice, and decided that a man must have been there because I "never use ice". Well, I used ice THAT day!

Any tiny deviation from what he thinks is my normal behavior will trigger his paranoia. I've tried absolutely everything to deal with it, from trying to reason with him, to sympathizing with his insecurities, to getting angry and shouting. The only thing that has even come close to working is this: the last time he accused me of sleeping with his best friend, I insisted that he pick up the phone and accuse his best friend, as well. He didn't want to do that and backed off.

I feel like I'm guilty of something all the time, when I've done absolutely nothing to deserve this. I find myself omitting details about my life so that he doesn't get triggered. I don't even tell him when I get off of work early, because he might think I'm up to something. I still do whatever I want to do, but I don't like feeling like I can't share everything with him. Is there ANYTHING to say to a Scorpio to reassure him and to help this situation? My husband is heavily Scorpio: Sun, Moon, and 30% of his entire chart.

I actually have done that. A little turning of the tables. But, we both know it's hogwash. You can never say for sure that someone wouldn't cheat, but I can say with 99.99% certainty that he wouldn't. He really believes, down to his bones, that cheating is one of the worst things a person can do.

Posted by Whimsy
Thank you for replying, Everyone! Sorry I've been absent from the thread; I was at work.

I've been with my husband for 10 years, and have never even looked at another man. Still, he can't stop thinking that I'm cheating with everyone from his best friend to random people we happen to meet. In 10 years, he had never stopped looking for evidence of this cheating. Sometimes, this gets downright bizarre. One example: I was accused of having someone over to the house because I used the icemaker on the refrigerator. He found the glass of melted ice, and decided that a man must have been there because I "never use ice". Well, I used ice THAT day!

Any tiny deviation from what he thinks is my normal behavior will trigger his paranoia. I've tried absolutely everything to deal with it, from trying to reason with him, to sympathizing with his insecurities, to getting angry and shouting. The only thing that has even come close to working is this: the last time he accused me of sleeping with his best friend, I insisted that he pick up the phone and accuse his best friend, as well. He didn't want to do that and backed off.

I feel like I'm guilty of something all the time, when I've done absolutely nothing to deserve this. I find myself omitting details about my life so that he doesn't get triggered. I don't even tell him when I get off of work early, because he might think I'm up to something. I still do whatever I want to do, but I don't like feeling like I can't share everything with him. Is there ANYTHING to say to a Scorpio to reassure him and to help this situation? My husband is heavily Scorpio: Sun, Moon, and 30% of his entire chart.

Apparently not if you've been at this for 10 years.

By the way I have more than 30% Scorp in my chart, so that really isn't the issue here. He sounds exhausting. Tell him to seek help to deal with his insecurities.

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Posted by Soul
Normally I just sit with my phone on my chest for hours and worry. Like to the point I can't do absolutely anything but sit there and think the worse. I don't let them know either. Eventually those thoughts and emotions come out from being bottled up too long and I express it to them, which scares them away.

in what way do you express this..?

Option A:



Option B:

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A with signs B could be possible. It makes me feel bad though because I give a super cool and down to earth first impression, which people love, but women drive me crazy over time and negative things come out. The best match for me would likely be a person with very small social needs and more on the protective side like myself.

Posted by blackphase

Posted by Soul

Posted by blackphase
Not even a Scorpio.. but Scorp dominant and I will tell you I think about my partner not being faithful more than I think about a lot of things.. It's a constant worry, even if they have given me no reason to fear that.

He is just being a Scorpio.. but that aspect of how some Scorp influenced people think is completely delusional.. you are right.

Same..

Where have you been hiding? In all the threads I don't go to I guess.. 😛

Hope you are having a good summer!! 😄

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Likely lol. I've been lurking lately looking for an interesting topic to write in.

Hope you're having a good one yourself 😉

Posted by Whimsy
Thank you for replying, Everyone! Sorry I've been absent from the thread; I was at work.

I've been with my husband for 10 years, and have never even looked at another man. Still, he can't stop thinking that I'm cheating with everyone from his best friend to random people we happen to meet. In 10 years, he had never stopped looking for evidence of this cheating. Sometimes, this gets downright bizarre. One example: I was accused of having someone over to the house because I used the icemaker on the refrigerator. He found the glass of melted ice, and decided that a man must have been there because I "never use ice". Well, I used ice THAT day!

Any tiny deviation from what he thinks is my normal behavior will trigger his paranoia. I've tried absolutely everything to deal with it, from trying to reason with him, to sympathizing with his insecurities, to getting angry and shouting. The only thing that has even come close to working is this: the last time he accused me of sleeping with his best friend, I insisted that he pick up the phone and accuse his best friend, as well. He didn't want to do that and backed off.

I feel like I'm guilty of something all the time, when I've done absolutely nothing to deserve this. I find myself omitting details about my life so that he doesn't get triggered. I don't even tell him when I get off of work early, because he might think I'm up to something. I still do whatever I want to do, but I don't like feeling like I can't share everything with him. Is there ANYTHING to say to a Scorpio to reassure him and to help this situation? My husband is heavily Scorpio: Sun, Moon, and 30% of his entire chart.

if you're omitting stuff and details about your life from your own man, (and you're married?)

then you aren't compatible.

Posted by Ellygant
Accuses you of sleeping with his best friend but then backs off when you ask him to do the same of his friend? No bueno.

Whether it's always been so or it happened over time, he stopped seeing you as a respected partner and more his loving possession. That incident shows he respects his friend, but not you. The thought of accusing his friend was embarrassing. But not you.

That sounds harsh I know. But it probably happened out of what was originally love. Some scorps can get lost in a relationship and enjoy it so much to the point they stop valuing the individual and see them only as an extension of their ego. (Common for a lot of fixed signs actually, especially if they have a few squares and oppositions in their chart.)

He needs a coming to Jesus moment because he's pushing you away. Withholding small details about your day just to preserve a sense of freedom is really bad. Really bad. Red flag that the relationship is deteriorating faster. I'd suggest signing up for counseling asap. If he won't go, then go alone and say he's welcome to join. Perhaps his jealousy you might be elsewhere will be helpful for once and might compel him to go.

huge red flags. going down the road of marriage counseling.

it just means you're very scared of him, OP. very very SCARED.

edit -- and if you're scared you lack to CONFRONT him head on. you are frightened!!

It's just that I'm TIRED. I've confronted him over and over again about it. Fights over this issue have been legendary. It's the one and only big issue in our marriage. It's become easier just to omit things than to feel that I'm always under a microscope. Not good at all, but sometimes I just want to have a pleasant evening in which I don't feel I'm being accused of something. I think that 10 years of fidelity should earn me some points, for crying out loud. It's not my fault that his first fiancé would get with any guy who would hold still long enough!

Posted by Whimsy
It's just that I'm TIRED. I've confronted him over and over again about it. Fights over this issue have been legendary. It's the one and only big issue in our marriage. It's become easier just to omit things than to feel that I'm always under a microscope. Not good at all, but sometimes I just want to have a pleasant evening in which I don't feel I'm being accused of something. I think that 10 years of fidelity should earn me some points, for crying out loud. It's not my fault that his first fiancé would get with any guy who would hold still long enough!

hm sounds like he still have feelings for the first fiance, after all he asked her to marry him years ago.

those things keep on trucking i notice. it's like you gotta be their first.

I agree that we need third-party help. Believe it or not, he has improved, but the issue is still there.

Wow, CrimsonGirl, I'm so glad you were able to get through that! Thank you for sharing it.

what happened, whimsey? everything ok?