Just a simple question for you Scorps ;-)

Me and my male scorp friend have become very close over the last month or so. He's been revealing things to me that I'm sure nobody else knows about him, which I think it's pretty cool that he can trust me. But here is my issue/question. I've noticed that when it's MY turn to tell him something about myself that is really personal or something that only he will know after I tell him I get no response. I should probably mention that we live in different states at the moment so most of our talking is texting through out the day, but we've had some very deep convos via text. So the conversation will be going at a rapid pace and then I'll tell him something private and then...nothing.

The other day I finally said something about it, and told him that his silence after I tell him something private worries me because I'll be thinking that I said something wrong that scared him away. He took a bit longer to respond and said to relax and that I didn't scare him away. He ALWAYS does this after I tell him a secret or something serious.

Is this just a weird thing he does or do Scorps in general need to take time to process the stuff that their friends tell them especially if it's something serious?

It's definitely a Scorpio thing and you have NOTHING to fret about in regards. As far as why.... I haven't a clue. I cannot figure myself out for anything.

sometimes i need time to process you telling me your favorite food.

Posted by ellessque
Anon310,

I remember you, even though you deleted your thread. Is this the same scorp who you were trying to get to see you as more than just a friend?

How has that progressed? did you tell him?

Yea I figured someone would remember me lol. Yes this is the same guy. I did indeed tell him my feelings. He didn't understand why I would tell him that when I knew that he really liked someone else. It was more about telling him to get it off my chest. It was eating away at me. He was really nice about it and we didn't even skip a beat in the friendship.

A few days after I told him my feelings and such he said he ended it with the girl. When I asked him why he said not to worry about it and that it wasn't important. I found that odd..but only he knows why he does the things he does...so I didn't question it anymore after that. It's kind of funny though I was prepared to never hear from him again and for things to be "weird" between us but it never happened. I think it's because of my ability to get over things quickly and not dwell on them. So I guess he felt comfortable going on as normal because that's how I was acting.

Posted by ellessque
....and I believe you did the right thing.

it's always a good thing to be honest with yourself and your feelings, even if they are a bit "icky" and awkward.

I agree, but I felt so much better afterwards and it feel like a huge weight has been lifted and now I can move on with me life with him AS A FRIEND. I'm finding that I'm perfectly ok with that too. He still really needs me and I really need him so letting something small like a crush get in between an awesome friendship would be just silly.

Posted by JangNara
He did not react because he does not need to react and he is wondering why do you share your personal and private stuff and wanting to develop a closer bond with him when you already know he like someone else.

Ok, but the question could be asked of him because he's been sharing personal and private info with me too while he was "interested" in this other girl..which by the way he has since dumped because he said he wasn't into her anymore. That's neither here nor there at this point, me and him are just friends anyway and don't friends share things with each other? Well that's what I thought anyway.

Posted by DazedScorp
He trusts you. Simple. You're in his sacred inner circle.

Do you guys often still test those people in your "inner circle"?

Posted by DazedScorp
Yeah, but it's more for just shits and giggles.

Oh I'm sure as he laughed at me this morning because I told him I was afraid to talk to him after he pulled his famous disappearing act on me this week. When I looked back on the last thing I said to him before he vanished I could see how it would have pissed him off, but he says he wasn't mad. I don't believe it though.

Posted by ellessque
depends on what you said. you are a taurus, right? you can say things to us that make us timid and we'll retract for a bit.

Yes I am.

We were talking about consistency when it comes to people and how they act. I basically told him that I'm always consistent what you see is what you get. He said he'd take that into consideration...then I said "Well you probably find consistency boring and think unpredictable people are more fun, but I am who I am I can't help it." I tend to make assumptions about a lot of things and I'm trying to work on it. After I made that last statement..*crickets* Nothing for a week.

He threw that "I am who I am" back in my face this morning when I asked him why he feels he has to disappear and push me away. I guess I had that coming though.

Posted by ellessque
yep, looks like he was testing your stance on the "I am who I am" platform.

Hmm, yea I guess you're right. But I don't think he realizes (or maybe he does) how his ignoring me all week made me feel. Then when I confronted him about it I sort of felt like he just kind of blew my feelings off as no big deal. I'm sure it's just me, but I feel like he just hit the reset button on our friendship and the wall is back up. I get this vibe that he doesn't want me close to him anymore. I hate how I over-analyze everything...

Posted by JangNara



Regardless of sun signs. IMO, I personally don't share too much personal and private matters about me to someone especially with a guy if I am not interested in a guy (being more than friends). I have plenty of male friends even best friends but I rarely share with them personal information about me unless I like the guy. If he shares personal matters to you, that only means he is comfortable with you and that he trusts you. We never know - it could be that he like to build a closer bond with you (as more than friends). That's also one possibility.

Him liking me more than a friend is out of the question at this point because he already told me he doesn't see me as anything other than a friend. Without being my usual over analytical self, it's probably just a case of he wants someone he can be himself with and I just happen to be the person who's stuck around in his life long enough for him to feel comfortable to do that. When he told me that he only saw me as a friend, that solidify my position in his life (for me) Usually people don't go back on that sort of declaration.

Posted by JangNara



Looks like you weigh things down with your overanalyzing.

Definitely and I hate it, but no matter how hard I try to push that part of me down it always comes creeping back.

Posted by JangNara
And being a real good friend do not question a friend who disappears (which I think was not done to intentionally hurt). Real friendship is not measured by how often they talk to each other, because even if it's from afar the friendship should always be there - same amount, not back to square one but the same intensity right where they stopped talking or the bond is even stronger. Should not being judged even in the silence.

I totally understand that, but I come from a place where I "constantly" need reassurance that the people close to me still love me. I know that's no one else's problem but my own of course.

Posted by JangNara


What kind of love are you looking for though? Does he know this that you are hungry for attention?

No he doesn't. I keep those kinds of feelings under wraps, because I don't want to appear needy. So even though it was bugging the hell out of me with how he disappeared, I didn't contact him at all. Except for today, because I saw he was online and was tired of wondering what happened.