Breaking up with a scorp male.

Any of you gem girls done it?

I could use some advice. What's the best way to deal with the situation?

How did your scorp react?

Do elaborate please.....

Oh I do plan on it. I just would like to know what kind of shinanigans I should expect lol.

Posted by PixieDust
Do elaborate please.....

be careful of their temper, they will get angry easy. make them focus on a benefit for themselves why they should be without you

find him another gf to replace, that seems like a good place for him to catch his emotions with

Posted by zeoblade

Posted by PixieDust
Do elaborate please.....

be careful of their temper, they will get angry easy. make them focus on a benefit for themselves why they should be without you

find him another gf to replace, that seems like a good place for him to catch his emotions with

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I hinted at a possible break up today and he about lost it. I'm driving to his place tomorrow to do it officially and I'm a little scared...ha.

Posted by PixieDust

I hinted at a possible break up today and he about lost it. I'm driving to his place tomorrow to do it officially and I'm a little scared...ha.

go find him another gf quick

treat it the same way you'd detonate a bomb. duck down, fingers in ears then scream 'IT'S OVER BETWEEN US, KAY THANKS FOR THE MEMORIES'. in the following carnage, run. it doesn't matter where. just run.

Why don't you take someone with you if you're actually scared? My friend brought two people with her when she decided to break it off with her volatile BF and kick him out of her house. Not sure if he was a Scorpio!

Ha....wonderful. At least I have a heads up.

you make it out to sound like hell throw a tantrum, in that case tell him to grow a pair...seriously you cannot use your zodiac sign as an excuse for being childish in a situation like that..

He was pretty good about it, actually. The reason I was worried was because when I was sharing some concerns with him over the phone yesterday, he was quite angry, cussing, raising voice etc.

But it seems by the time I got to his place today he had calmed down quite a bit. He cried a little bit, he asked me lots and lots of questions. Then he pleaded for me to not break up with him now, he asked me to tell him what I specifically didn't like about him and then he said he's flexible, he can change. To which I told him that's crazy, he should be with someone who likes him for who he is, someone who wouldn't need/want to change him. The whole time he seemed very nervous and confused. I hate breaking up with people. He was pretty understanding though, no violence whatsoever. He walked me out to my car and asked me if he could kiss me one last time, I said sure. I could barely get him to stop hugging me before I left.... breakups are shitty. 😢

Posted by DazedScorp
That sounds like my breakup with the aqua three years ago. Almost exactly. I've started taking breakups a bit more cold heartedly lately.

I wonder what he's doing now that he's not standing in front of you.

Your aqua broke up with you?

I felt so terrible because he was just pleading with me, over and over to not break up with him now. Then he started saying that he will wait for me for a while to see if I will change my mind. His eyes were full of tears and he asked me why he wasn't good enough...it about broke my heart. He said he still wants to be friends, but I told him right now I don't think that's a good idea. So we'll see.

He's put up a few sad statuses on facebook and put up a banner that he used to have on his facebook before we were dating that said "single and winning."

Female Scorpio's from my experience...... DO NOT LIKE TO GET STUNG BY THEIR OWN STINGERS!!! Be careful, whether it be male or female Scorpio. I've got a restraining order against a Scorpio female that's still current. :\ Once you've figured out that there is a lot of superficial, pretentious b.s. underneath that supposed hard exterior, Gemini's tend to bounce because we don't feel that the person is true, to themselves. We know it's just a matter of time before that Scorp tries to sting us, yet I just squish them before they get a chance to sting. I have been very harsh to some Scorpio women in my family because they think that they're slick. Slick, maybe. Quick? Not even close. Very volatile people when they don't get their way. Stomp the arachnid, or you'll give them a reason to stick around, they'll try to sting you, and you might get yourself a stalker. Serious biz.

Posted by GeminiMind
Female Scorpio's from my experience...... DO NOT LIKE TO GET STUNG BY THEIR OWN STINGERS!!! Be careful, whether it be male or female Scorpio. I've got a restraining order against a Scorpio female that's still current. :\ Once you've figured out that there is a lot of superficial, pretentious b.s. underneath that supposed hard exterior, Gemini's tend to bounce because we don't feel that the person is true, to themselves. We know it's just a matter of time before that Scorp tries to sting us, yet I just squish them before they get a chance to sting. I have been very harsh to some Scorpio women in my family because they think that they're slick. Slick, maybe. Quick? Not even close. Very volatile people when they don't get their way. Stomp the arachnid, or you'll give them a reason to stick around, they'll try to sting you, and you might get yourself a stalker. Serious biz.

your wise words are heeded.

I was afraid that he has stalker potential. He seems like he can get pretty obsessive...

I don't want to make any cruel assumptions though. He seemed to take it pretty well, who knows what he will do when I'm not looking. Hopefully nothing too bad!

Like someone else said, its impossible to generalize Scorpios as what is in their astrological charts matter, and how the upbringing was. Also, you have to take age into account.

Its sound like he is in the early 20's like you. Most guys in their early 20's regardless of astrological placement, act immature and insane when getting dumped.

Now if was me getting dumped, I just go "Ok,good luck to you, maybe Ill see you around" in the most nonreactive way. And then start looking for women who are way hotter than the ex.

I'd be upfront about only looking to be casual telling them I just came out of a relationship. Yeah nothing pisses off an ex more when you a)act like you dont care about being dumped 2) move on quick with hotter people.

But Im just talking in my situation. Ive only gotten dumped once. But this was by an ex who was bi=polar, so she saved me a nightmare really.

I think being in my 30's that Im too jaded at this point to ever care about being in another relationship. I'd rather be in a casual fb relationship. FB's can work if both parties are jaded enough🙂

I don't think he acted immature per-se. He didn't get violent with me. I sort of out of the blue sprung it on him when he thought all was going well so I wasn't surprised with all of the questions and pleading. The crying, yes, I was surprised but I guess he coudln't help it.

All in all I think he was mature about it, I'm impressed. And I agree, ZenArcade, that the best thing to do when an ex breaks up with you is to act aloof, although sometimes when you really truly love someone, acting is impossible.

Not with me. I can be devastated but I save it for being alone in my room blasting songs like That's What I Get By NIN, Love Sick by Bob Dylan, etc.

I wont give someone that validation by being emotional. People on a unconscious level anyway, seek that ego validation when they dump someone hoping for a emotional reaction. It pisses them off when they dont get it and the ex acts like they never cared at all.

But to me, begging and pleading doesnt show maturity. But hey, he's just a kid like you. He'll learn eventually. The only thing I suggest for you Pixie,is holding off on serious relationships for a long while.

You're in your 20's so there's plenty of time. I think people make that mistake in going into one serious relationship after another in the 20's You're still figuring out what you want out of life. Just have fun in dating.

I think most women who are serial monogamists in their 20's do it because they're scared of being judged by women or men for dating casually when single. The thing is, it will always be one thing or another that people judge you. You have to learn to live your own way and not by others standards.

But that is just for life in general, not just dating.

Posted by Norcalman67
Scorp / Gem ya...my boss and his wife are this combination. All I can say is yikes! Some of the worst knock down drag out fights I have ever had the displeasure of seeing!

I read about the gem/scorp relationship before getting involed and because of my inexperience with the combination, I thought the obstacles would be easy to overcome. They aren't! He drove me insane. And, although my scorp would never admit it, I think I drove him insane too... but the opposite kind of insane, the insane that makes you want someone even more. In my case, the insane he made me feel put me so far off that I didn't even want to physically touch him anymore. Eeek.

Posted by Norcalman67
Scorp / Gem ya...my boss and his wife are this combination. All I can say is yikes! Some of the worst knock down drag out fights I have ever had the displeasure of seeing!

i second that 😄

How did it go down in the end? Would love to hear... I didn't have much success with mine either...long story.

Posted by zeoblade

Posted by PixieDust

I hinted at a possible break up today and he about lost it. I'm driving to his place tomorrow to do it officially and I'm a little scared...ha.

go find him another gf quick

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This is one of the sagest pieces of advice I have seen on DXP.

No breaking up with a Scorp unless they have a replacement lined up. Either because they need to "have" someone or just need someone to be suspicious of/grizzle about/accuse/regular Scorp stuff, whatever. It is just their nature.

Hope it turned out well for you. I hope hikers won't be stumbling across your remains in the mountains in 12 months time.

Posted by PixieDust
Any of you gem girls done it?

I could use some advice. What's the best way to deal with the situation?

How did your scorp react?

When my gem bf broke up with me, i was tearful and sad- then anger and resentment started building up- so i completely stoppped communicating with him since he "wanted a break" from me. Well, less than a week later- he wanted back in once he starting seeing that i could move on without him. Just make sure its what you want. good luck

This back and forth relationship really starting wearing on both of us til finally i just picked up my stuff and moved cross country. no i never stalked him but that may have to do with my sag traits.