Just broke up should I contact him

So me, a libra, just broke up with my scorpio. I love him but he was going through a tough time. He lost his job and was just getting a new one. Everything was good but then 2 months ago he started acting like he was too busy for me. No calls or texts and he always wanted to hang out with his friends. I warned him I was getting frustrated with his behavior and the arguing it was causing. He admitted he needed to change but it didn't seem to be happening. Right before I left he said he wasn't himself and needed to get a job to feel better. We got into another petty agreement later that week and I took his stuff to his house and dropped it off. It's been a week and I really miss him. He hasn't called or texted like in the past when we've had issues. Should I contact him or just leave it alone?

Stay strong.

And no, don't. Otherwise you set a standard that that behaviour is acceptable. Think of it like training a dog.

Also, he sounds depressed kinda. But that is not your responsibility. If he is putting his mental health before you, do the same with him.

It all depends on how patient and sure of yourself you are. Don't be manipulated by his silence

What they said, scorps and caps get all distant when their careers and stuff aren't going good. It makes us really weird. It's like a panic mode that shifts us into freak out internally, come up with game plan , freak out, start acting on game plan to fix it. We like to analyze and attack our hurdles . It gives us tunnel vision though. I promise it wasn't you. Just be there for him, and try your best not to give up, and just be there. Be supportive. Don't criticize it only makes us feel worse. There's nothing more bothersome than when a Scorpio or a cap doesn't feel in control. It really throws us off.

But there never really is such thing as control that grand. There are certain things we can't control, and we need to accept that and live life. I'm saying "we", because I'm like that kinda and I don't like that about myself. It's inherently selfish.

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Posted by Chanel82
So me, a libra, just broke up with my scorpio. I love him but he was going through a tough time. He lost his job and was just getting a new one. Everything was good but then 2 months ago he started acting like he was too busy for me. No calls or texts and he always wanted to hang out with his friends. I warned him I was getting frustrated with his behavior and the arguing it was causing. He admitted he needed to change but it didn't seem to be happening. Right before I left he said he wasn't himself and needed to get a job to feel better. We got into another petty agreement later that week and I took his stuff to his house and dropped it off. It's been a week and I really miss him. He hasn't called or texted like in the past when we've had issues. Should I contact him or just leave it alone?

The scorp male I'm dating lost his job a month ago and on top of that he has his thesis due first week of May. He isn't much of communicator through text so it makes it a little difficult to really talk to him. He thrives off of real human one on one conversations in persom, so I've grown accostumed to his way of communicating. Let me tell you, your guy is going through a tough tme and you need to be a little more understanding if you want it to work longterm. Scorps need support. Although sometimes not vocal about it, believe me they highly appreciate the patience a partner has. You him while he was down, so it might have damaged his faith in you. Try, but learn from it.

Contact him, explain and let him come to you. If he wants you in his life, he'll respond, but at his pace.

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It's not just his life that should be taken into account here. Both people matter, even as the other is going through hard times.