Little help plz..

Okay, so this Scorpio girl contacted me out of the blue a few weeks ago. I have no idea how she got my number, but whatever... Anyways, she was a friend of a friend from over a year ago and we probably hanged out at most three to five times. So, she wants to hang out...

I sort of ignored her for the first two weeks. Then she sends me an email, I reply, we joke around blah blah blah... I'm thinking this girl isn't too bad. So then we start chatting on messenger and I'm starting to like her sense of humour. Now I'm thinking she's not so bad and I can definitely use the company right now 😢. She keeps giving hints about us hanging out but she never says it explicitly. That's fine, I don't expect her to, she was brave enough to call me, normally girls don't even do that.

Ummm, I want to take her up on her offer, but I'm a bit apprehensive b/c I don't really know this girl very well. I think it's a bit obvious that she likes me but I don't understand how??!! b/c we have only hanged out like three times at the most. And, I know I'm not that attractive, maybe above average to semi good-looking but definitely not drop dead sexy. So, I don't really understand this...

Any insights would help, thanks.

I don't want to get involved if she has mental issues.. I know it sounds funny, but doesn't it seem like that..? I mean I would never contact a girl I've only met a couple times and ask her out after one whole year.. maybe that's just me..

And to add to that, I know that she had a boyfriend a year ago.. I saw them walking down the street once. Obviously, they broke up? And, I'm just thinking that she ummm... needs love and is sending out invitations to everyone...? I really don't know. If it is the case, I definitely don't want to be a part of that b/c I don't find it meaningful.

hun i think u should b flattered after the 3 times that uv met u obviously made an impression on her... she probably has thought bout you at least to give it a go!! even tho itz a year past you really must shown her sumthing... haha uv been givin an opportunity just take it an run with it for a lil while...

I can't think of anything I've shown her. The times we did hang out we were with other people, it wasn't even 1 on 1 type of situation.. Isn't it true that we fear what we don't understand? Well, I don't really understand this..

What I want to know from you guys is whether a normal person would do this kind of thing? I know I wouldn't and I'm kind of normal 😛

lol i would haha n i think im normal... thtz how me an my first boy got 2getha hehe cute... wed only met a couple of times an then a year later haha i get this random txt message an he was like iv met u at the movies a couple of times (he worked there) n i remembered who he was coz funnily enough id thought about him randomly.. hahaha i jus think itz cool tht she did that i mean tht takes gutz... it doesnt hav to be tht u went out of your way to impresiv u itz wen were not tryin and jus being ourselves that we really impress ppl!! haha

You're one krazy chick Misty. I think you can start your own language 😛

lol gooo 4 it hun!!! jus do the whole coffee thing... that means if your still not sure you can be quick...n get outa there

hahaha ohhh man im sooo sorry i 4get tht no1 else can really read wat the hell iv written... haha ppl must think im nutz!! lol gawd babe sorry i jus get a lil carried away... il try remember.. haha

LoL, I don't drink coffee, although that hasn't stopped me from asking girls to coffee a couple times. I just think it's funny and ironic hehehe..

lol hahaha man i do that 2!! haha i h8 coffee... but im 4ever at starbuckz... hahaha wat a crazy life we live eh.. haha ohh ur sawt hun!!

I don't know about that one,kupo,unless she's going on just "feelings" alone.:S
Is there a chance one of the mutual friends may have suggested that you should get to know each other?But as far as the look thing goes im not really attracted to the really,what's considered "HOT" guys though so she could actually be attracted to you even besides that fact.I never done that though,it has to be more consistant in running into each other for me to get involved with someone even on a dating or the like level but do know other scorpios who are kinda fast in that department.I gots a taurus moon though,so the slower,steadier and more consistant route is what works for me better.

hehe are you saying i'm ugly? Grrrr....

Funny thing, she and the mutual friend doesn't even talk to each other anymore. I asked her what happened, she doesn't even reply. I think I'm thinking too much about this. I need to be more like a regular guy and just go with it and see where it takes me.

You tell me what's wrong with me? I just thought it was odd that a girl would do this and I wanted to get other women's opinion on whether they would do the same thing so that I know if this is normal or not. This way I can proceed appropriately.

And, no I don't have any sisters or close girl "as friends" that I can talk to this about. The guy friends I do have just all say hit that sh!t up, not very insightful..

And, in case you're asking me what's wrong with me for not proceeding... Well, when I was younger I was actually hounded by this krazy girl who wouldn't stop calling me and s/h/i/t. I got so tired of it and I couldn't make her stop. It may sound great that someone likes you a lot (on paper), but trust me when you don't feel the same way and they keep bothering you.. It's not a good situation. I don't want to deal with that again. You would feel the same way if the same thing happened to you.

And yo, I don't appreciate your comment. I see you asking for advice on s/h/i/t too, that's what this board is for.

Listen,

1) This is the first post that I've talked about her.
2) This has nothing to do with macho society, and girls taking the initiative.
3) I thought it was strange and wanted to know if this was normal.
4) Your attitude won't get you far in life. Starting a conversation by insulting someone? Go learn some tact.

LOL @ Shaka!
I agree.
It probably took every ounce of nerve she had to get in touch with you, and you must have made an impression as a very nice guy for her to have done that. From what you say about her email to you, she isn't really the "forward" type either, so she was really going out on a limb here.
As far as the "not that attractive" comment, I agree with Tiamat...the hottest ones never think they are! 😛
Tell ya what, let her know that you have a lot of things going on, but you can meet her for lunch....that way you can zip off after without hanging out if it doesn't go well.
But most importantly, did you remember liking her when you hung out before?
And, at least she has a sense of humour! That is never a bad thing.

Kupo, you're such a crab. Find something that can't last long, find an hour somewhere to see her somehwere or doing something you're comfortable doing. Go shopping together at Eaton Center or something, you can talk while walking, you'll both like commenting on people around you and you probably both need something from the store.
And you can buy some F1 memorabilia for me at the F1 store while you're at it. A nice jacket, can't be more than 230 $ or something.

Kupo, I think you really like this girl. However, the fact that it was her who took the first move has intimidate you this far. For the reason that you even ask advise from total strangers is enough to justify that.

Well you see, theres no point on knowing if she likes you that bad or just simply wants a companion if you dont like her as well. And regarding you childhood experience of being stalk by a girl, men get real if you really doesnt want someone to stalk you its easy to eliminate them. Just be cruel or in other expression "Show the real you!", because if you let them continue with it only indicates that your enjoying it as well or never the less your ego is starting to get over you.

You have no idea the things i said to a gemini 2 years ago. She said hi on msn the other day, i wanted to throw the pc out the window.

Empathy
That's the word you are looking for

I think Bird of Flame's Advice is pretty good.
Take Heed.

You know as much as I don't like the tone of your post. I do think you're right. If this girl is normal, then it must have taken a lot of courage to make that call, and even though I ignored her for about two weeks, she still sent me an email afterwards, which is nice.

I wasn't mocking her if that was the way my posts came across. I will ask her out, but I have to go hit the gym first 😛..

I was referring to bird of flame's post.