Love, Arrrgh!!! Help?

Hi. I am new here, and am amazed at all the insightful advice! I found this looking for a way to better understand a scorpio guy I have been dating, and although I'm not sure what will become of us...I have learned so much and would love some advice about how to help myself as well as maybe have a clue how to deal with this amazing but complicated guy. I am just learning about astrology, so bear with me. I am a Libra sun with venus in scorp, neptune scorp, ascendant scorp, and I'm a redhead. Oh, mu moon is Leo (don't have a clue about this).

We met, all was amazing( like I really thought we were something special) he very much wanting me to commit very quickly. I did, we were great for a while, misunderstanding happened. He ignored me (tends to make me craaazy) and I told him in many many words (damn me-shut up!) to take a leap. A week later we both apologized, and all seemed ok, but not really. I was as patient as I could be, really needing to see him but he was distant. We talked a few times, I told him flat out how I felt about him. He said he cared about me just was thinking about some things. Next week and a half went by, and I can't hold on to someone if he doesn't seem to be in it anymore. So, I told him to go away if he wasn't willing to risk this thing with me. He calls, talks about nothing but asks everything about me, for ex. who is at my house? what am I doing? what guy has called me? etc. However, since our fight, he never lets me in on anything, just wants to know about me.

Any advice would be appreciated. I need to learn how to deal with myself as well as him or whatever guy I may feel as strongly for in the future (if that ever happens)

Ok, puurrrty please— Specific question...Should I keep convincing him I really like him (he was very unsure at first), or ignore him completely? To be honest...for my sanity I think I have to try to move on, it's killing me with the in between. Patience is not my best quality, I'm working on it.

Well with a venus in scorp and a scorp rising I'm sure you can handle this.

Do you know what his chart is?

Plus that Leo moon will get fixed on angry if you aren't getting enough attention and probably walk off pissed off.


Hmm you say he only asks about you and tells you nothing? How funny.

I'm always told everything and say nothing.

^^ get away with alot that way.


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hahahahahaha sounds like a typical scorpio male being insecure. You either stick with 'im through this bs or you don't. Either way you'll never really be free again.

If you keep telling him you love him, he'll keep being aloof and distant. If you ignore him completely he'll chase you.

Not the scorpio men I've known.

Thanks to all for responding!

So, its my Leo moon responsible for me getting so pissy!! Good to know, and tonight I did!!

His chart: sun-scorp
moon-taurus
merc-scorp
venus-scorp
mars-libra

He really is an amazing person... I was actually able to completely trust him (soooo hard for me due to my past). Even when he was distant and "working through his stuff" I always knew that his few attentive or caring words were sincere. And that was great..not having to worry or needing to hear a bunch of butter to know that I was still important to him.

I told him everything straight up. Told him I needed attention. He said "I won't wait too long"

Well now, the problem with that was I am not going to ask for attention until I am almost at my breaking point. And I was, so I told him I was finished. Needed more. OOOOOH but was he not happy when I went out to dinner with someone tonight!

So, why his request and expectation of complete honesty from me, but he cut off letting me know him after that lil fight?

Of course he texted me while I was out.

I'm going to let him sit on it for a while. As special as he is to me (and he really really is), I won't beg anyone for attention. I've made it abundantly clear how I feel about him, after his many requests that I do so. I think he is too worried that I will hurt him. Guess it will be a self fulfilling prophecy!

This board is amazing. I know if things work out with him that I will learn many important things about myself. Reading all the posts help me a bunch with that as well!

I am so picky about who I seem to click with. But I am also too intense for most to deal with. I just wonder if I will ever find a guy who is all that I want, and can deal with me!!

I hope it all works out for you. But I think, as a scorpio, if you went out with another guy you've lost some of his trust. Maybe a lot of it. They play games with you to make sure you're the right one.. and from what I've learned you really have to 'want' to be possessed if you want be with him. There's intense jealousy.. obsessiveness..
You really need to want this guy if you actually want it to work.

But if you don't want to be with him anymore, just keep dating others and ignore him. I wonder how much that will hurt, though.

Ouch. His sun and moon are both square your moon. That's probably why there is such great tension in both a good and bad way. In fixed signs no less! Pain in the ass. Squares tend to be awesome for the short term bursts of passion.

thanks for helping me out!

Yes, I thought that going out with that guy last night might really be the end of it for him. I did it because I was "DONE" anyway...bullbutter!
As I calmed down today and thought about it, I may have done it as a way to make sure we didn't get any closer, ya know...my messed up way of
protecting myself from possibly more hurt? Geez, I'm a piece of work sometimes!

Surprisingly, he texted me relatively early this morning, (some days during the recent freeze out, he hasn't texted me at all) and a couple more times today as well. Just his current form of a few words that reveal little to none, and some inquiries into my doings. If this deal was to continue, I obviously have to find a way to stop my scared lil self from screwing it up on purpose. Heartbreak is effin rough on me!!!

However, the advice on our charts is sooo appreciated...I'll be very cognizant of it, and it will be somehow much easier for me to be comfortable with things if it is not to be. I'll just take it for what it was (intense and pretty darn perfect, at first) and what I learned!

OMG, I was just thinking that I was acting like a darn 20 year old!!! No offense to the 20 year olds, you probably are more grown up than it seems I must be!

Oh but no... I'm 36. WTF? Guess my scorpio dude messed my head up!!!

Posted by everevolvingepithet

Posted by ZombieCat
I hope it all works out for you. But I think, as a scorpio, if you went out with another guy you've lost some of his trust. Maybe a lot of it. They play games with you to make sure you're the right one.. and from what I've learned you really have to 'want' to be possessed if you want be with him. There's intense jealousy.. obsessiveness..
You really need to want this guy if you actually want it to work.

But if you don't want to be with him anymore, just keep dating others and ignore him. I wonder how much that will hurt, though.

Probably not much, just invite games. You sound young lol

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How young am I? I'd love for you to guess.
I wonder how people can type like they're young.. lol. But I'm definitely new to astrology, so be prepared to correct me often.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
42?

LOL.
Is that how old YOU are?

Actually, I didn't mean for that to sound rude.
You called me on it, I'm 18.
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