missing my scorpio

"Could he also has feelings for me but just not ready for a relationship(he is foreign and has never planned to stay permanently)?"

You will never know you left him remember?


"I thought:WTF!didn't even try to fight for me!" (Stupid)

Is this a game your playing you called the man and left him why would he chase you and if he did would you have reconsidered?

He will probably contact you again if he really liked you though. Life is short we are never promised tomorrow, live for today... Why cut it off if you enjoyed it so much. I have noticed (self included) we worry more about the future than right now. Enjoy life right now, let the future happen.

Believe me, there is some attachment their.

Thank you Emeraldgem🙂 I think I'm going to trust my instinct this time even though it hurts me now.

"Good luck abbeyness. I'm really sorry you did that to yourself."

If I was wrong about his intentions I'm sure he will be man enough to come and get me.

Abbeyness whatever you do, do NOT call him or go back to him because he's not in love with you. All you've had is a physical relationship. You know that, which is why you cut him off. Do NOT go back or call as a "friend" because he already has the upper hand in this game that was never about falling in love or having a normal relationship. All the signs are there that he wasnt interested in the way you want.

1. " the chemistry was incredible..so we slept together very early on(big mistake I know!). " Big mistake indeed.
2. "After 6 months I have never met any of his close friends or family" This is your BIGGEST sign that it was all about sex for him.

Scorpio men know they want you long before you do (unless you're really in tune with them) and they will go for you. They dont waste time once they've made their mind up about you. They tell EVERYONE close to them about you...parents, friends, siblings, etc. And it doesnt take 6 months for them to do so. They would do it within the first 3 or 4 months...some even as early as the first month. Remember, they make up their mind way before you know about it so while you're counting 1 month...he's on 2 or 3 (from when he decided he wanted you and you didnt know about it)

There are also other signs you've mentioned but I wont bother going through them in depth. Bottom line is...move on...or you'll surely get hurt worse than you feel right now.

"I'm sorry abbeyness,
My intent was not to cause you to feel worse than you already do."

SIL, I really appreciate your input on this and thanks for taking the time to read my post🙂 I guess I was a little defensive because after that phone call, it is very difficult for me to back peddle now and to contact him again without coming across as playing games and indecisive. I kind of regret not asking him directly about his intentions first before ending it. Now I'll never know for sure.

"It wasn't until we actually started falling in love that the communication problems started and we got stuck in some strange friendship limbo. It wasn't until we learned to how to talk to each other and ask for clarification that the communication problems stopped.

Virgos and Scorpios are notorious for misreading each other at this stage of the relationship. How much of this is your Virgo perception of how he feels about you, and how much are his actual words?"

You are spot on about this communication problems. I was never very good at communicating my feelings and my scorpio doesn't seem to be much better at it. I felt there were so much left unsaid and so much mind guessing, I still don't know how he really feels about me. I am dying to know how he feels about all this(just in case I was wrong) but since I jumped on him so quickly have I burned my bridges with him now?

"I still hoping your situation is salvageable"

I don't know how to salvage it now? I want to keep the door open to him(in case I misread him),but now he probably thinks I prefer to be left alone.

"Take it as it comes. You stopped the flow. What makes it an attestation that the person you dated a few times will propose to you? He has been sincere and I think you opted out prematurely."

If that is the case what can I do now? It's hard to know what to do without ending up in a bad place and feeling worse(if he does intent to string me along), or come across as unstable(if I call him back) since I was the one to broke up with him in the first place.

"Abbeyness whatever you do, do NOT call him or go back to him because he's not in love with you. All you've had is a physical relationship. You know that, which is why you cut him off"

Thanks for your input newbie. I was awake until 4am last night thinking about this(couldn't sleep.)I wonder if I had unintentionally sent out the wrong signals to make him believe that I am happy to keep things casual. Is it a typical scorpio male behavior to keep things casual for as long as he could(for sex) even while sensing perhaps the other person wants more?

"if he did not after you have explained these things to him what you are looking for in your relationship...it is up to him to respond to you and let you know exactly what he is feeling and wanting from this relationship...you have no idea if he is serious or stringing you along, therefore you want to know. you are not comfortable how you are feeling and you want reassurance....he needs to make the move to reassure you what his feelings actually are"

Thanks IL🙂 It's probably best to just wait and see what happens. Your post came just in time as I was actually having second thoughts about it all..

'Is it a typical scorpio male behavior to keep things casual for as long as he could(for sex) even while sensing perhaps the other person wants more?'

.........yes

isn't it true for every sign?🙂 people both men and women can behave like that if they only want casual

mmm I am a scorpio...and if I was this guy, I would not call you back...
On his opinion he was doing something right, scorpios dont like to attacht to early and it takes time to trust.

but basically he will respect your opinion and will let you go...he might loves you, but he will let you go, since that was what you wanted. He will always let you free and respect it.
And call you back is against his pride, you already dumpped him, call you back would only make it worst, and specially harder to forget you.

If you really want him you will have to chase him, and say that you were only doing a game to see what he would say...becuase it was a game(dont take me wrong, i am just saying what my scorpio point of view is telling me)

abbeyness let me give you my perspective on this whole thing.

If I was him, and drove two hrs to see a girl, then she must be really something special. If I was the one who always pushed to do things then she was worth it. I never cared about the "milk" even tho that was required, I always wanted the "cow" and what came with the "cow". I think you made a mistake but that's just me. Reason he would not fight for you is because you broke it off in one way that not a lot of scorps find a right way to break up. Not to get hurt is the oldest trick in the book by my count, your ride it till it dries out is something scorps do. He probably suspected that you found someone else, someone better, and didn't want to know if it was true so he left it at that. Truth hurts, a lot.

Again putting my self in that position and my two cents.

Listen to escorpiana, lol i love the way you put in your perspective same way i would put it lol.

Trust me, trust is #1 thing to scorp, if you give him any reason to doubt your trustworthy it will all go down hill. And getting back up is near to impossible. He probably wants to talk to you, but that little voice in back of his head will tell him to stay away since you broke it off. And him driving two hrs to see you is a connection. I personally would not drive for milk for that long unless something good/special was going on.

Lol milk

''It just seems his actions are contradicting. From what I understand scorpios are usually loyal to those they care about. How could he for 6 months drove for 2 hours to come and see me at weekends and kept on initiating dates/trips with me yet at the same time wanting to meet other people! ''

Scorpio men want a strong, confident woman with a life/passion of her own. It seems like he is getting bored of you. Keep him interested by going out in the world and doing your own thing. He will be proud of you and would love to call you his.

A Scorpion man will overpower and dominate you IF YOU LET him. Have some self respect and stick to your boundaries. You seem to be thinking too much about this man - do you think he is equally thinking the same about you?

''From what I understand scorpios are usually loyal to those they care about.''

We are loyal to those whom we LOVE AND RESPECT. Which means a person should have self respect of themselves first. We cant stand weak and needy people.

Maybe you are showing neediness?

"You seem to be thinking too much about this man - do you think he is equally thinking the same about you"

He probably isn't knowing what I know now. I'm sorry for thinking about him so much and I WISH I could get him off my mind but I can't just switch off my feelings like that. If he was bored of me why not just stop seeing me? Why did he keep wanting to spend time with me and initiating dates? I know I wouldn't do that with someone I'm bored with.

"Maybe you are showing neediness?"

Trust me, I was not..

I said it once before and I'll say it again. MOVE ON from this man. He is not interested in the way you want. Stop torturing yourself.

I've been around a LOT of scorpios (20+ years) and I'm telling you...you are wasting your time trying to figure him out. They DO NOT BEHAVE the way this man has behaved when they are in love with you or even consider you as relationship material. 6 months is a long time in scorpio world and if you havent met anyone that means anything to him...you're a dish on the side.

However, you are free to keep analysing this situation to death. It wont change the outcome. He will be happy to come back into your life if you let him only so he can walk all over you and get the booty call he wants. If you respect yourself...just friggin MOVE ON !!!

P.S. Sorry for being harsh, but I will not sweeten this situation out for you and give you hope where there is none like others on this thread have. Sorry dahling.

Thank you newbie, move on is what I will do🙂

''But I was doing my own things.''

WAS? So you're not doing your own things now. I am just trying to make sense of your whole situation.

''They DO NOT BEHAVE the way this man has behaved when they are in love with you or even consider you as relationship material.''

Exactly. A Scorpio who is IN LOVE would WANT you physically, emotionally and mentally. He would DO things for you to show his love. He would bond with you deeply.

Maybe he found someone else? Just a thought...

"WAS? So you're not doing your own things now. I am just trying to make sense of your whole situation"

I meant I have my own interests and friends and was never just sitting there waiting for him. But you DID understand what I was trying to say SS, You just felt like putting more salt in the wounds.

"Maybe he found someone else? Just a thought..."

Then good luck to him!

''But you DID understand what I was trying to say SS, You just felt like putting more salt in the wounds.''

Youre right I did. But sometimes when someone says it with such blunt and full force - it penetrates through and you will actually feel more determined to move on.

Hope it worked.

''.....................personally, i dont see a problem showing a little neediness to a man that you are intimately involved with.....they (scorpio men) are quite needy themselves>''

Do some research on Scorpio men libra. Scorpio's lose respect for people who are too needy. We can tolerate it as a one off but if it is continuous...we move on. NEXT!

We dont want to carry unnecessary burdens. Only if they are WORTH it. And they have to prove their worth by respecting themselves (having a passion of their own, can handle their own life, self sufficient..etc).

Abbeyness seems to me like a strong, level headed individual. I hope this Scorpio man knows what he missed out on!

''so you see, when they want you...they really want you....''

This is true that when Scorpios WANT you, we WANT YOU and WILL get you.

However, this story doesnt really relate to Abbeyness's situation.

It really depends on the DEPTH of the bond/attachment a Scorpio has with another.

"Youre right I did. But sometimes when someone says it with such blunt and full force - it penetrates through and you will actually feel more determined to move on"

That has definitely done the trick🙂

Abbeyness, call him and explain what you really feel. Lay it on the line and be willing to accept whatever the outcome is. This way you will know for sure and stop guessing. He will appreciate the honesty and openess if nothing else. Just do it!

I would not call. It has been mentioned before about how Scorps act when they are into someone. It doesn't sound like he was.

To call him would only give him control of the situation and lessen your respect.

Or I could just go and get myself checked out and find out that way.
hmm..I think that would be the wiser thing to do than the first..

''I would not call. It has been mentioned before about how Scorps act when they are into someone. It doesn't sound like he was.

To call him would only give him control of the situation and lessen your respect.''

I agree with cand. Dont let him have the upper hand.


''Or I could just go and get myself checked out and find out that way.
hmm..I think that would be the wiser thing to do than the first..''

You dont need to ask him. Like you said - go and find out for yourself. He will KNOW that youre calling him about 'trivial' things just to want to chat with him. It may come across as needy. Let him contact you (if he is interested - he WILL - in his own time).

Also one thing to remember - do NOT play mind games with this man.

"You dont need to ask him. Like you said - go and find out for yourself. He will KNOW that youre calling him about 'trivial' things just to want to chat with him. It may come across as needy. Let him contact you (if he is interested - he WILL - in his own time)."

Plus I doubt he will tell me the truth. No, I won't call him.

Woah... The unprotected sex? Yeah, get checked. I know we all have done this atleast once in our lives.

I disagree with not calling him and losing respect. Listen, you broke up with him, so why would you expect him to call you? We scorps do have our pride... The way it was handled he might not call for a very long time if ever. Especially if he feels you are no longer interested. Therefore you continue to consume yourself with "what ifs" as I myself am a scorp, and been involved with one briefly. I find it that they appreciate direct approaches as do I. So it is up to you. Sit around wondering or get it over with. Stop with the games people, no one has any control over anyone unless you give it to them.

***Also one thing to remember - do NOT play mind games with this man.***

Agreed, that is why I say call and stop playing the control issue game.

Stop with the games people, no one has any control over anyone unless you give it to them.

that is why I say call and stop playing the control issue game.

HUH—

Calling him is only going to give him control and puts that ball back in his court to play her again. SHE is the one that broke it off with him because she felt as if she was being used. I see that as commendable on her part.

***......i've done all the damn research i need too.....they can be pretty needy people and in my book,,,,,,you get what you give***

For once, I agree with you irishlibra. I for one am a very independant scorp, however my scorp friend would definitely act needy at times and to be honest he liked that I was independant, but I saw how he would act when I would give him a little catered attention. He would lose it, blush get happy not be able to work the whole day. Being independent doesn't mean not giving a little. You get what you give most times. This is true. Scorp men can actually be a little more obssessed than the females, or maybe we do it more secretly.

When in love it is all about my partner. Not my whole life, but they are first thought of (besides my child) and I am more than happy to give, not in a clingy way, but really be there when they need me. Being a scorp I normally get very close to my partners, we end up being friend and lovers (this is probably why I can remain friends with most of my exes LOL!!!) therefore, I can sense their needs per se. I am really not into playing games so I just do what I feel unless I feel I am being taken advantage of.

***Calling him is only going to give him control and puts that ball back in his court to play her again. SHE is the one that broke it off with him because she felt as if she was being used. I see that as commendable on her part***

Calling clarifies what she is wondering about. Taking control, not giving control. Yes she did great to end it if she felt she was being treated unjustly but why is she here wondering? Because something isn't completely answered in her subconcious. She is still wondering about some things. We can only guess what the answers are. He is the only one who knows. She stated she will never know how he felt etc. She won't unless she asks. She can still stand her ground and get the answer she wants. Get it?

Calling clarifies what she is wondering about. Taking control, not giving control. Yes she did great to end it if she felt she was being treated unjustly but why is she here wondering? Because something isn't completely answered in her subconcious. She is still wondering about some things. We can only guess what the answers are. He is the only one who knows. She stated she will never know how he felt etc. She won't unless she asks. She can still stand her ground and get the answer she wants. Get it?

Yes, why is she here wondering? She broke it off with him. That should be the final answer. The only reason why she would wonder about him is if she still had feelings for him. And do you really believe that this Scorpio is going to tell her the truth?? A Scorp who has been burned so to speak. Ya think he's going to have a honest, heart to heart? I doubt it!!

She can do whatever she feels she has to do, listen to whoever she wants, but I doubt if she makes the call it will go as smoothly as QS thinks it will. Scorp retaliation..got it?

SM: Very well stated...That was really insightful...Good Stuff.

Good Luck Abbey...My heart goes out to you. Wishing you nothing but the best and I hope that you gain some clarity, no matter how you choose to handle the situation.

Just want to say I LOVE this board and you wonderful people for helping me!!(((KISSES)))

Instead ... I'll just say ... you've caused your own grief by playing a head-game with him.


Warrants no pity .....

Don't need to read the whole story .. the writing is on the wall from the OP ...

.. if you feel the need to continue making justification for confusing yourself because you conflate love with sex, then please continue ..


You don't need to convince me ... I'm married to a Virgo .. you need to convince yourself that he did nothing wrong to you, you did it yourself by creating your own grief of confusing yourself and then attempting to hold him accountable for it.

Good Luck with that 🙂

Just the title "missing my scorpio" .. coupled with you dumping him because he wasn't good enough for you, concludes your confusion ..

.. he's not yours, you threw him away, so there's no "my" to it

.. if he treated you like a piece on the side, according to your little list of reasons why you believe he didn't care enough about you for him to be yours .. then turn around and call him "my" scorpio ..

.. concludes your confusion, for from your perspective of care and concern he wasn't good enough to be a "my" .. yet, this is the title you give him, and that's not even hitting on the first word of "missing", which indicates that you actually "miss" this treatment in which you then attempt to explain is not worthy of you.


You need to work on yourself ..


Done .. last response to you .. good day to you 🙂

".. if he treated you like a piece on the side, according to your little list of reasons why you believe he didn't care enough about you for him to be yours .. then turn around and call him "my" scorpio ..

.. concludes your confusion, for from your perspective of care and concern he wasn't good enough to be a "my" .. yet, this is the title you give him, and that's not even hitting on the first word of "missing", which indicates that you actually "miss" this treatment in which you then attempt to explain is not worthy of you."

My title was an impulsive choice which reflects my emotions towards him at the time,and those emotions don't just go away the minute a relationship ends.I can't control who I fall in love with, I can only control my actions.

Good day to you too🙂

Just to list a few reasons why I think he didn't care for me so much like you think he did:
1)For 6 MONTHS now I never met ANY of his close friends or family
2)When I was ill he never called to see how i was
3)ALL our dates ALWAYS ends with lots sex and he was reluctant when I suggested things to do which involves just spending time to get to know each other WITHOUT SEX.
4)There has been times where he would STARE OPENLY and FLIRT with other girl IN FRONT OF me which I HATED!!!
5)He CONTINUED to visit the dating site while we were seeing each other and who knows, he might even have SLEPT with others during this time.

You did the right thing...move on as LK says. It is apparent by your reasons listed above that he was not into you. Your intuition guided you. Listen to it.

hey abbeyness. do you want to stick around with him for the drama purpose or love purpose? it seems like he gave you more drama then love. probably, you did the right thing by breaking it off before it got too complicated. as the cliche says: if it's meant to be it will be. try to look forward to better things as they come and try to keep your mind open to them. i know it's easier said then done