Need advice

My Scorpio girlfriend just broke up with me saying she wants to be alone and not wanting to date anyone for now.we have been dating 4yrs and i moved to another state but i come home on every little chance i could get.I really like her.Lately(about 6 months) she said she wants to go celibate and i agreed to do it with her and with dat resulted in so many attitude dat i didn't like about her. she stop calling, takes alot of calls before i speak to her on the phone she would hang up wen we get into lil argument. Now my thing is i want her back i know its sad that i do and a part of me really wants to move on, but i plan on not calling or talking to her about getting back until i visit for thanksgiving maybe we could sit down and really talk about it.would it be right if i do this? and wat re the chances or would she try to get back with me even tho i i know she got this ego that because she broke up she wouldnt want to look like she really wants me back even if she did. I need ur advice especially the females.

Your girlfriend is no longer interested in you. She doesn't desire celibacy, but doesn't have the heart to break it off with you because if she did that, she'd feel bad about herself. Soon, if you allow this to continue, she'll tell you that she needs space to figure out what she feels about you. That means that she's either already dating another guy or has her eyes on another guy.

Move on. She already did so.

Yes, and his 'girlfriend' will probably say things like "!I love you, but I don't love you anymore" or, "If you you just give me the time I need to sort this out and be the kind of girlfriend you deserve." A favorite of them is to say "can we stay friends? I don't want our relationship to end like this; we were friends before."

I see this happen all the time.

I agree with Pigeon. She's a chicken. If she cared for you, she would come out and say the truth instead of footing around to make herself look less guilty.

Yes, and I bet his girlfriend was getting her sexual needs met by some other guy while dating him at the same time.

@ scorpio_chic i understand very well wat u mean cos she acts exactly like that..yeah at times she uses that to put things in control.she also like attention. like if things are going well all of a sudden she just turn cold and dont want to do anything, i mean going out, talking on the phone etc. she always says she does not feel like it, then ill give her about a week or so before she gets right back. do you think the silence treatment will work if i ignore her until i go home for thanksgiving? cos in my opinion i think she just want some lil drama to stir things up. she always like stuff like dat IDK. but a good part of me wants to move on.

I generally agree with Asleep.

The issue is that you are BOTH

- Not giving her the attention she needs
- Not indicating any long term commitment to her

She is testing you to see if you will PROVE to her that you want her.

AGAIN

She is testing you to see if you will PROVE to her that you want her.

She's young and knows she's got to get with someone who will do that.

wagaman...

Obviously she's trying to detach herself from you for whatever reason, i'm afraid somebody else "might" be smashin that. If in fact it's someone else, she's prolly doesn't want to deliver that crushing message. Hey bro, my advice would be just to hold it together man and stand your ground and if she wants to be with you she'll get her mind right and reveal herself. F all that chasing her down- she knows how you feel, plus thats a sure fire way to lose ground in this situation anyway. Sh!t, your the man, you're a catch (at least you should feel like you are) and she should know this. That being said If she takes too long to come back and profess her undying love for you lol.... then f her, i'd make the decision for her and move on... she'd be dead to me and i'd be DONE. That's just me though.

I think he'd know if it was over him not proposing or not (I hope). A girl that wants you to marry her i'd assume would get the f on your nerves about a ring for a long time or "what are we doing?!" type of questions before she just got up and left you. Your absence could of definitely lead to someone else occupying your space. You know dudes are always knocking, with you not around to give her that physical/emotional attention maybe she let her guard down and let someone else in. If you guys had issue already before you left, then moving far away was the straw that broke the camels back. mos def

i dont think marriage is/was an issue bcos wen we first met she said she does not want to EVER get married, but earlier this year she became somewhat religious and the discussion of marriage came up just once and she said she wouldn't mind trying it.As for saying *i love her*part its my anthem. morning afternoon and evening i tell her.i have decided to go with my head which is to let her go.i just might be tempted to want to see or talk to her when i go home for thanksgiving.Hopefully my mind would be stronger than wat it is now to beat that during thanksgiving. Thanks u guys!!! well appreciated. by the way im a LIBRA(thought i should put dat there for other Scorpios interested...lol).