played by a virgo

hi fellow scorpios,

i was just wondering if ever any of you got played by virguys, and what're your reactions to that? (aside from the initial hurt, rage and probably revenge pattern)

@aquilas: thank you for sharing all that, and i'm sorry that the virguy ended up breaking your heart. 😢 his lost. :\ but the thing is, you tried your best and no regrets with that.

Posted by aquilascorpiusfemina

Well, what happened to you Yuechan?

@aquila: this happened: http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/messages.asp?id=2000289<BR>
.. and then some now. i'm currently clouded out by feeling, but rational thought has been raising red flags ever since.

i'm trying to keep a tight hold on friendship, but a part of me still wants and a part kind of doubts.

i think i can be more coherent once this is a bit looked at at another angle.

Posted by sdgaf
Although ..
I believe more in the pro's of being a little paranoid.

or until the next one who can restore your faith in humanity. 🙂

@aquilas: thank you for being straight with me. red flags are red flags. and yes, my emotions tend to win over my reason. i see this bright potential with this virgo, but then again, with the way he is now, is such a waste of that. perhaps he is finding his niche, by testing a crooked path, but i hope one day he'd come around. until then, i found my answers. 😄 thank you aquilas. 😄

once, twice, and i've finally saw the light, and it's time to move along. 🙂

Zodiac signs aside, you can't drop logic, nor can you drop intuition. I see here too many people using their signs or their partners' signs as justifications or scapegoats towards their bloody love life issues. I truly appreciate astrology just as much as the next bloke, it serves as a great way to understand human nature and our underlying tendencies, but that doesn't make it a conceptual framework that determines one's motives in a relationship. Your sign isn't your mold. For instance, yes I am a virgo, but I have awakened my heart and I AM actually in tune with my emotions, believe it or not, it just takes a little will power to do so. I can see my cold virgo nature through awareness and examination of self, but I don't allow myself to be cold to the world. In fact, I'm the type of person that tries to relate to everyone sympathetically without ego. It often comes in a logical, intellectual manner, but I am indeed full of emotions and finding ways to express them more honestly and heart-felt every day. Each sign has negative and positive attributes, but there is no glass ceiling. The key is in using the other planetary energies of all 12 signs to awaken what you lack, whether it be emotion, discipline, mysticism or other capabilities to become a complete and well-balanced individual. Afer all, what we do is reflect each-others' deepest thoughts and beliefs as experiences of duality, leading us back to the source of all life.

Sorry, that was purely defensive, I kind of went of on a tangent. Strictly in regards to your relationship though, I would say drop this fool, he obviously hasn't matured to the point of reaching that equilibrium of expression + intellect. He may ferment with age, but unless you can take upon the task of opening him up emotionally yourself (we often need someone with patience and nurturing persistence; we can't do it alone) then I would throw him back into the sea (at least for now to let him to figure himself out elsewhere).

Posted by theonly764hero
Sorry, that was purely defensive, I kind of went of on a tangent. Strictly in regards to your relationship though, I would say drop this fool, he obviously hasn't matured to the point of reaching that equilibrium of expression + intellect. He may ferment with age, but unless you can take upon the task of opening him up emotionally yourself (we often need someone with patience and nurturing persistence; we can't do it alone) then I would throw him back into the sea (at least for now to let him to figure himself out elsewhere).

@theonly:

indeed, logic and intuition plays a big part whenever one is too clouded with feeling to look at a situation clearly.

astrology plays a minute part in our human conditioning, but it's a start. perhaps, in the end this is another channel to view the situation as is, with objectivity and without bias to the native environments where the subjects are more familiar with.

indeed, sadly he has not matured to his potential yet. i think i shall pass this task for now. and leave it to the fates.

where in the bottom line is: we're simply on different pages, and no use in looking/saving for something that does not want to. (which was hard to realize, when you feel too much sometimes) 🙂 until then, let him swim with the fishies under the big blue sea.

appreciate your inputs tho! 😄

Played by your Virgo?


Are you referring to the Virgo in the office who pushed/pulled with you because he was unsure about how to express his feelings?


If so ... did you try to make him feel 'safe' with you, or did you leave him out there with the office taunters to fend for himself and then expecting him to come to you as if you had actually tried to protect him?

Posted by P-Angel
Played by your Virgo?


Are you referring to the Virgo in the office who pushed/pulled with you because he was unsure about how to express his feelings?


If so ... did you try to make him feel 'safe' with you, or did you leave him out there with the office taunters to fend for himself and then expecting him to come to you as if you had actually tried to protect him?

@P:

Yes, I was referring to the Virgo in the office.

I actually talked/checked in with him when the teasing started, on how we'd handle it, (seeing as it had started to have an adverse effect on our friendship) but he stayed closed off with my opening up. So that is that. It even went to the point that I had to talk to an officemate to stop, because it was seriously affecting the friendship.

I don't expect him to come to me for anything. But I believed then that the teasings wouldn't have that much of an effect to our friendship. (Work environment vs High school)

This is in no way an indication that he played you.


Your title and the way you explain this is very misleading .. to infer that the Virgo has done something malisciously against you. To say you've been played is making the insinuation that he intentionally did something against you just to fuck with you.


And this isn't the case at all ... what actually happened was that this man is got wierded out because he didnt' know what to do with unwanted attention because it embarrassed him.


And yet .. you would make it seem in here as if he played you = fucked with you on purpose. when in reality, it wasn't anything of the sort .. while you take this and manipulate it in here to try and make people think he's a player = you being the mind-fucker.

Posted by P-Angel
This is in no way an indication that he played you.


Your title and the way you explain this is very misleading .. to infer that the Virgo has done something malisciously against you. To say you've been played is making the insinuation that he intentionally did something against you just to fuck with you.


And this isn't the case at all ... what actually happened was that this man is got wierded out because he didnt' know what to do with unwanted attention because it embarrassed him.


And yet .. you would make it seem in here as if he played you = fucked with you on purpose. when in reality, it wasn't anything of the sort .. while you take this and manipulate it in here to try and make people think he's a player = you being the mind-fucker.

@P:

The point actually of this post was an inquiry and interest on: if any of the scorpios have ever gotten played by virgos, as stated by the first post:

hi fellow scorpios,

i was just wondering if ever any of you got played by virguys, and what're your reactions to that? (aside from the initial hurt, rage and probably revenge pattern)

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The part wherein my dealings with the office virgo is merely an offshoot tangent of my conversation with aquilas.