Scorp fems: double standards regarding fidelity?

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Posted by Stinger Baby
i feel its not right for either me nor my partner to be unfaithful. i believe in true 50/50 relationships. i will break up with a person instead of cheating on them.







I second this....... if a person feels the need to cheat is obvious they are not happy in their current relationship ( beyond repairing); so, instead, do your current partner a favor and break-up with them so that they can be free to find someone thats will appreciate them better.
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Posted by virgodog58
Do you Scorpio females have a double standard when it comes to sexual fidelity (that's it's all right for you to be unfaithful, but NOT for your partner)? If so, why?



i'm not proud of this at all but i have to say that yes, scorp females CAN be complete hypocrits when it comes to fidelity but it IS something that a good relationship can prevent.

the 'why' i can only cite in my case. firstly, i was very young when i got into a relationship that went on to last almost 20 years..10 of which we were married for. i want to emphasise that i didn't cheat when we had kids and subsequently got married. the reason i had before, and he has no idea to this day, is because it was a toxic relationship. like extreme. we both worked in financial markets and it was an agressive environment. we also met cos we're both musicians and that's a passionate environment. our home life had both agression and passion going on and it was a rollercoaster ride of extremes. from his part there was alcohol abuse. drug abuse. physical and mental abuse.

i kinda worshipped him rather than loved him in retrospect. i knew i would never leave him but it was so hard to live with him and to be honest, it was like i didn't exist in his world unless it was as a target for his abuse..and so i got validation elsewhere. i didn't have affairs cos that implies feelings were involved. anyway. enough said.

karma got revenge when i found out he had an affair 6 years before i finally couldn't live with what he'd done any longer. when i found out about him, i was totally floored. it wasn't the sex, it was the intimacy he shared with someone else, while he was treating me and the kids like shit. i forgave that and lived with it for 6 years....letting it eat away at me. he's now with her after i finally told him to go.

yes we can have double standards. we have to learn the hard way that this only serves to sting us in the end.