Scorp male being vague and confusing...shocker!

I'm Scorp Sun, Pisces Moon, Libra Mercury, Scorp Venus, Sag Mars, Cap Ascendant
He's Scorp Sun, Cap Moon, Libra Mrcury, Scorp Venus, Leo Mars, Aqua Ascendant
I hated on my sign in my title cause it's my sign as well, and I, the pot, enjoy calling the kettle black. Anyways.

We met on Tinder, and talked on and off throughout the semester of university that just passed. He would keep asking me to hang out, but I kept rejecting his invitations because I was busy or was entertaining another suitor at the time. Conversations were always flirty, sometimes he would double text me, even. Finally, it's the summer. We were going to go to a party together, and so I agreed to meet him at his house and his whole family from South Africa is here in Texas for his brother's graduation. I met a lot of his nuclear and extended family. We did go to the party, he's charming me and being funny and sarcastic the whole time, sometimes snatching me away to kiss, a hand on my leg or holding my hand while driving, the whole enchilada. We did, if it matters, hook up at the end of the night. I was hoping he wouldn't want to right away, but as a fellow Scorp, I was not surprised, I did not object, nor did I want to, to be frank.

We hang out the next day, he invites me to go watch a basketball game with him and his buddies. He took me back to his place to look for my house key that I misplaced there, and after hooking up once more, we found it. We went to his friends house, and it's three other guy friends of his. One of the three seemed to be a little flirty with me, but the Scorp didn't seem to mind, or didn't see it as flirting. We're all in the living room watching the game and my head is resting on his shoulder, and his friend's dad asks the Scorp how long we've been together, and he responds "We're not dating." I tried to follow it by saying "Yeah, we're just chill."

But on the inside, I was sigrlzbb WHAT IN THE BLEEP.

We haven't seen each other since, but we still text daily, he will still text me first, and if I have an opportunity for us to hang out, I invite him first.

I acknowledge he's about to be in his senior year of engineering studies, and my gut tells me that he doesn't want to tell me he doesn't want a relationship for fear I might leave, but that's my subjective gut feeling.

Later on that same day, his friend teased him and asked him if at dinner if he "wanted to sit next to his bae" and he swapped seats with his friend. But as a Scorp, I want to know his motive. If he "got what he wanted/just wanted to sleep with me", I feel like he would have thrown me to the side since we've hooked up twice now. Also, I feel as though if he wanted FWB, he would have made it clear/not be inviting me out like this and stuff to be around and meet his friends. Clearly the game was a bro-event, but he invited me to go anyways...maybe cause he knew he could hookup before?


Any perspective here is appreciated.

Maybe he thinks you have your eyes on someone else?

I don't discuss other guys with him at all, nor does he discuss other things with me. I have since deleted my Tinder. He may have a suspicion that I'm dating other guys.

That same night, on the way home, I apologized for making him feel awkward when his friend's dad asked that question, and he said it was fine because I didn't make him feel awkward. We're definitely not boyfriend/girlfriend, but I thought what we were doing was dating...unless to him, maybe dating means bf/gf?

I would love to hear the perspective from the Scorp guys her bc I recently dealt with a similar situation, and I'm a Scorp as well. He led me on as if he wanted to date doing everything except it seems like he only want d to hook up. In my case I didnt. I basically walked away from him instead in confronting but I don't think it would have worked out anyways.

In your case you should ask him about that. Maybe tell him you want to know where this is head d.. This is what you are looking for etc. it's hard for me being a Scorp to have these conversations but communication really does answer questions.

I'm my case even though the guy is old enough I think he is not ready to settle down but he wants someone around. I think he's focused on his career because he's def heading in the right direction. It's just annoying bc I'm not that girl abd he should have been more up front.

I dunno... You didn't have the exclusive relationship talk so I think it would be a little strange to assume that when the friends dad asked how long you 2 had been together that he would take it upon himself to answer "since yesterday" without first discussing it with you?

And it's never safe to assume that because you had sex you are now official. Nor is it safe to assume that if he just wanted a FWB he would verbalize that to you, or just a hook up that he would toss you aside after. Some guys will do the least amount of work to keep the status quo. So if he's getting sex without any "what are we doing?" conversation, why would he bring up casual hookups or FWBs & ruin the potential for non attached sex?

If you want to know where his head is at & what he wants, ask him. But if it's not in line with what you want, be ready to walk away.

aNEWday, you may be right, but I may wait to ask him since it's only been a week or so. Maybe a question to bring up a month in. I don't want to seem aggressive or make him think it's either we are exclusive or nothing. I want things to move at his pace, I want to let him lead. At the same time, I don't want to be used or taken advantage of. My daddy tells me that relationships at my age are pointless because men don't settle down until late 20s/early 30s. At the same time, I want some level of commitment. Maybe I ought to let my expectation of a commitment go.

RiverLee, definitely a valid point. The confidence with which he said it startled me a little, no less. And again, valid point. I may have to be the one to say something, but I guess I might not say anything at all and enjoy it for what it is for as long as I can before I get attached and then say something if I must.

Bumping this thread because of an update:
I asked him, "So that we're both on the same page, what's your vibe about dating and relationships for you personally right now? You just want to date, you're actually looking for relationship material, etc."

He said, "Essentially I'm focused on graduating above anything. I broke up with my girlfriend last semester because of how challenging school became. I'm looking for a relationship, however I don't want to rush into a relationship."

He followed that by apologizing for not having seen me lately but he's tied up at work, which I understand. I wish to take him at his word, but since I'm dating several men right now, I may need to make a difficult decision in the future.