scorp man's reflection?

It's obvious you never wanted to be just friends.

He called your bluff on that.

Never bring up friendship with someone you'd want more with. That's a surefire way to getting hurt.

i can see what you mean by that. i did it to be reserved and let him decide if he wanted to chase me a little, which he did. but then as soon as his interest shows, it disappears. he's had his moments of trying to appear calm and cool, but i can tell it's for show.

^ he side steps stuff like that also

i've given this time but it's just a stalemate. i don't blame him for not being able/willing to talk about this stuff bc it's hard. what if i was in his shoes? i don't know. which is exactly why i'm here lol

Something about your post just hit me. How did you go about suggesting that you all be friends after he stopped contacting you? I'm not saying that didn't happen, I'm just curious as to how it happened. Did you contact him and suggest it while he was quiet about things or did he actually ASK you for a relationship and you suggested that you guys just be friends?

I'm telling you, if you made the suggestion without him offering a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship first, the Scorps (male and female) that I know would have found it intriguing as well as something to entertain given they never asked you for a relationship, but the friendship suggestion was made. They would have immediately put you in the category of someone they can call up at their convenience, but wouldn't take you serious. I'm not saying that he won't, because all Scorps aren't alike, but the Scorps I know wouldn't have taken you serious.

i suggested friendship after that event of intimacy. he pretty much disappeared on me and i would ask him to chat or hang out and he'd say he couldn't do it because he was busy or he said he'd call me back but didn't. i guess that's where he got me, he never quite asked me straight out but if we weren't pursuing something together, he could have said i had the wrong idea or say that we had always been friends/nothing changes for him if i make this suggestion. i messaged him and called him a few times over the span of (i think) 2 months.

it might look like im playing some game too, but i have known for a while that we wouldn't be living in the same country and didnt think it was a reasonable excuse to push him into something more serious, even if i wanted to try. i once hinted to him that we wouldnt have a lot of time together anyway, and we've only known each other for a few months- he didn't respond well to it at all and so i dont bring it up anymore. it's definitely a factor to me, but i'm sure you can guess he doesn't like to be rushed.

I dont think Scorpios are able to be friends with someone they are entertaining in a sexual way or for a girl they want to date. I think it's either in or out with them. The distant behavior could be about you chasing after him when he didn't respond after sex. When me and my scorp crossed the line i acted the same as i did before we laid down, at least to his face. I didn't want to give him reason to pump the breaks or panick just because we had sex, so I stayed calm, affectionate, and fun to be around. I also prepared myself for him to act distant, because once the lines of intimacy are crossed I always believe the man is watching how the woman handles it. Othertimes it may not have anything to do with you, and you might've just needed to fall back and give him space. With mines I get him talking by making sure he knows I want to be his safe ground, his sense of peace when the world is getting on his last damn nerve. It seems to calm him, and then he opens up...a little, but for a closed off person like him if he lets me in if only a little bit i'm over joyed since he rarely talks about how he feels or what he's thinking.
As far as friendship, you definitly might've shot yourself in the foot right there. They say this one can read right through bullshit. They can tell when you mean what you are saying, and when you are just saying something to minipuate a reaction out of them. I'm learning the direct approach is always best with them. What you should've said is, "i would like something more solid and meaningful with you, if we are not going to do that then I do not wish to continue dating you. No hard feelings." Come on, if you have sex with a man, have feelings for that man, there's no way you are going to be able to sit comfortably in the friendzone. No no.lol. My Scorpio once told me flat out i'm not allowed to have male friends. I asked him if he had female friends, he told me he has one and she's gay, other than her he doesn't because he always ends up crossing the line with them and the friendship is downhill from there, so he doesn't have female friends, that he is strictly friends with.
Hope that helps a bit.