Scorpio and Caps friendship

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Posted by deliciousjuice
Its foolish for me to ask but I just wanted to hear it. There is so much more to the story, we have a child I did not see him for four years and then all of a sudden my cousins told me he wanted my number to talk to me they did not give to him I got his. We have only been texting since oct,11 I have not seen him for four months. I sorry my emotions are tied all up in it but I know I need to let go he is who he is its my job or desire to change him



A HA!!! I knew there was more! haha Ding, ding, ding. Here we go! Whatta we have for her Johnny?!! There's always more to the story, short and sweet won't find the answers but now that you've spilled that, here they are 🙂

Okies, here we go ... be ready to spill it 😉

Who broke up with whom? Why? And also why four years since you'd seen one another?

Also, I'm very curious. What's his DOB? SN: Zip it Dazed 😛
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Posted by DazedScorp
Posted by deliciousjuice
Posted by DazedScorp
Posted by deliciousjuice
DOB 11/18/76



Whew!

*wipes sweat from forehead*

😛



What does that mean? Please tell me?



Just an inside joke. Tis all.

As for the original topic...

I'mma back out of the conversation and let Ocean take over. I know she has some great advice coming your way.
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Thats how he may be feeling with me right now... :0)
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Posted by deliciousjuice
I have never been in a "friendship" with a Scorpio man before this. And I have never been into astrology before this, so this is all new to me.

I feel that we are just friends, but sometimes, he treats me as if we were in a committed relationship. But he also acts as if he could care less about me. I have asked him if things between us are more than a friendship, and his answer is both, yes and no... which is confusing to me. He explains that he enjoys the sex we have, and that he understands that our connection is more than just that i.e. a physical relationship, and that is why he insists on distancing himself from me. I responded by apologizin for making things so complicated for him, and becoming a burden in his life. He then acts as if nothing has changed, and ignores my feelings about the situation.

We have conversations via text and in the middle of the conversation, he goes silent, and doesn't respond until the next day. I can't stand it when he does that. I get upset when he does that, but I refuse to let him know about my anger towards him. I simply respond with a ego boosting text in the morning. I have told him of my disdain towards the way he leaves me hanging the night before, but only in a joking manner so that he is confused and doesn't know my true feelings. He also says that he's having sex with other women, but it sounds like he's joking.

We haven't communicated in days now. He contacts me at his convinience. He has me wrapped aboud his finger while he's off with other women. Why can't I see this?! I don't understand my emotional needs and can't be honest with how I feel towards him, so I keep him around as a crutch. Can any scorpio man or woman please comment on this and give me advice on what I should do? It would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance.



He's playin' you. He's got you hook, line, and sinker.
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OMG I just read this.
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Comments: 12 · Posts: 2004 · Topics: 22
Posted by DazedScorp
Posted by deliciousjuice
Posted by DazedScorp
Posted by deliciousjuice
DOB 11/18/76



Whew!

*wipes sweat from forehead*

😛



What does that mean? Please tell me?



Just an inside joke. Tis all.

As for the original topic...

I'mma back out of the conversation and let Ocean take over. I know she has some great advice coming your way.
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Oh no you don't, Dazed .. not so quick *grabs Dazed ankle* I need your thoughts and guidance 🙂


Well, first as angry as you are there is disappointment. I understand you want to say forget it, and keep a good 'working' relationship as parents. It may be somewhat easier at this stage, considering the circumstances BUT you are going to have to keep and remain with that line of thinking. I certainly wouldnt make this too easy for him, especially if he dropped and hopped four months ago AGAIN and now he's back. I'll wait to give my thoughts if we delve further into this.

The reason I asked those questions earlier though, is there IS a reason for all of it. And behind it. Maybe it's too personal to answer in an open forum, I totally understand. But to have a child, it 'ends' (if it ever really started—), you nor the child have seen him for four years, and bingo here he is = more to this.

Once Scorps put their mind to something, they become quite set in their thoughts and determination. However, two things: him up and leaving with a child (which possibly child is around the age of 4 or 5?) and 2nd: that he came back, and like nothing happened. So it's not just cut and dry.

For whatever reasons you feel necessary, you are being almost too evasive to give anything more than basics. One of which, a male Scorp's mind is ALWAYS working, turning, thinking, stewing, brewing, planning, recapping, and watching. So he has an agenda, a plan. Whether good or bad :/

BTW, which cousin was it that told you he wanted to talk with you again? The one he dated before you, or no?

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Posted by OceanDeep
This cousin of yours, where is she in all of it now?

Also, am I straight that you two were sleeping together and then you found out he liked your cousin and everything stopped (four years ago)?



IDK about her what's going on with her now. Scorpio told me he has seen her around a couple of times. Once when he was picking up one of his daughter from his ex-wife. He saw her driving near the ex-wife's house.

Another time she was having dinner with some of her friends, he was @ the same place for happy hour having drinks.
The night that he saw her he text me while he was there.

Scorpio:just saw yr cousin.
Me:Which one?
Scorpio: Her name.
Me:Really! how is she doing?
Scorpio: Dont know dont care.
Me: You sound mad at her babe.
Scorpio Never mad baby too much energy.
Me:Ok babe

I assume that they may still bump into each other from time to time.He hangs out with her brothers. That does not bother me.

NO we NEVER slept together while they were together. They dated when they were teenagers.

She went on and got married to her high school boyfriend. He got married and had several children, with various women.I got married as well and had children. We all move on with life. We are all divorce now.

After all that is when we began sleeping together which was four years ago, then he just stopped. The last night we saw each other four years ago. He said he thought about us being together but because of our families and he did not want to hurt anyone it would be hard for us to be. I agreed with him because I felt the same way, but I still wanted to be with him.


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Not much time RATM, I'll respond more later tonight. Two things though,

1. This is playing with fire for yourself, the way the situation and circumstances are RATM.

2. I'm wondering if that convo four years ago was a farce. If he was falling for you, he told you that out of fear and/or to gauge where you were in all of it, but when you agreed, he didnt want to put anymore time in to protect himself. And he knew you were serious when you agreed.
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deliciousjuice, Any star sign can be a player. I think maybe you should stop contact with this lothario, have more respect for yourself find someone worthy of you. Caps are strong people you will move on from this. Peace!



I co sign.

Realizing this being an astro site, but girl let's take him being a Scorp outta this and get down to the brass taxes.

He himself, as a man or lack thereof in the true meaning of the definition. This man is a forever child, and needs some good ole growing up. He doesnt know if he's foot or horseback. And the way he's coming and going out of your life A) is NOT healthy for your child, B) is NOT healthy for you, C) is NOT healthy for they family dynamics of you and your child's daily life.

I'm not trying to prejudge someone based on a few sentences youve shared with us. BUT if it walks like a duck, looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck the odds of it being a duck? Are pretty damn good... it's a duck.

He's hopped and dropped on you more than once. He's in a relationship, whether he wants out or not, NOT to mention the fact that she's pregnant during that time but fails to mention it to you? *smfh*

I realize the heart can't help who it loves. This doesnt mean you can't love him, it just means that you accept that you do but you continue on your life like you have been ... for the last four years, and without him in the picture. Stay strong, you'll be just fine

If he chooses to be a father who participates in your childs life, then LET him. But it has to be on the condition that unless it's the end of the world kind of emergency, he will stay active, even if it's once a week or twice a month in your child's life. Meaning, consistently.

There's nothing that should keep him from your life. And if he's not in it, fighting to be in it, and staying in it then there's a reason. Hidden, or not. Remember that.

One of my favorite quotes/thoughts: Never make a wishbone where your backbone should be.🙂